re: What are the biggest sacrifices you have had to make as a parent?

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I'm a single Dad with no time to do the things and that doesn't bother me one bit. I prefer it this way. Some people.

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You don't have to be overzealous about how much you love spending time with your kids to over compensate for the fact that you fricked up their family values by getting divorced.

Some people

Can't frick in the kitchen anymore when kids are home

Yeah I ain't going to lie though, I do think about ten years from now when both kids are gone and taking care of their expenses and how awesome the trips are going to be that my wife and I will be taking.

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Yeah sleep is def rough for the first 6 months

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My nanny for sure didn't get much sleep when my children were babies.

I'll let you have mine for a couple weeks then you'll have a better idea if you want your own.


Just let me know where to drop them off

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That first child, but Moloch demands satisfaction.

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Was that supposed to be funny?

I used to nanny professionally for a 10 yo boy and 12 yo girl and that has me a bit disillusioned now.They say "oh but it's different when they are your own," but I honestly like my adult time and money too much right now. Maybe I will think differently if my relationship status evolves in the next few years.

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Was talking about it yesterday with a buddy of mine. We hardly get to play golf anymore since our kids have come. Said kids are 3 and under

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It gets better. Just wait till you see them hit a baseball, dance/sing on stage.

And the best part is when they get about 8+ and y'all get home from something and can tell them little frickers "Susie you go walk the dogs. Tommy you go take out the trash."

Then, sit on the lazy boy with a cold beer and put on Sportscenter.

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How does one know if they are too selfish to want kids one day? I keep going back and forth on if I eventually want them or not.

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I was totally fine with not having any til around age 34. The biological clock thing is real. It’s like a switch flipped & I suddenly realized it was now or never. I felt a ton of pressure to make a decision, and it was the first time I felt like I might regret it if I don’t have a baby.

I’m 37 now, and the feeling comes and goes. If circumstances were better, I would want to try to get pregnant now. As it is, I’m not sure things will be ideal before I’m too old. We’ll see. I think I can be happy either way, but I know I won’t regret it if I do have a child.

Thank you for the honest answer. I think it may hit close to home for more women than men, bc of the whole clock thing. Men don't have that concern, can easily have kids into their 50s, 60s, 70s. I wonder how it would change their perspective if they were on the same timetable we are.