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re: My dad is dying....Updated RIP Dad
Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:22 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:22 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
My dad is my best friend. Can't imagine what you're going through. Sorry man. Go be with him.
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Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:31 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Sorry to hear it - God be with your father, you and your family...
Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:31 pm to DJ3K
We'll all be where you dad is one day. Can't ask for anything but having your family around you when the end is near.
Here is an interesting quote from Richard Dawkins that emphasizes how lucky we are to have had the time we had:
Here is an interesting quote from Richard Dawkins that emphasizes how lucky we are to have had the time we had:
quote:
“We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones. Most people are never going to die because they are never going to be born. The potential people who could have been here in my place but who will in fact never see the light of day outnumber the sand grains of Arabia. Certainly those unborn ghosts include greater poets than Keats, scientists greater than Newton. We know this because the set of possible people allowed by our DNA so massively exceeds the set of actual people. In the teeth of these stupefying odds it is you and I, in our ordinariness, that are here.We privileged few, who won the lottery of birth against all odds, how dare we whine at our inevitable return to that prior state from which the vast majority have never stirred?”
Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:44 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Been there. 5 years 1 month ago. He was 56
You/your family will make it through this. But going to be hard.
You/your family will make it through this. But going to be hard.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:44 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
prayers sent.
is he a Christian?
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NatalbanyTigerFan
is he a Christian?
Posted on 10/22/15 at 12:47 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Yep I got he same call few months back. We buried my dad 30 days later. Go spend time w him and tell him everything you would want him to know. Feel lucky you gat that chance....
Posted on 10/22/15 at 1:14 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
quote:
I don't why I posted this here.
Sometimes a stranger's words can be more comforting than someone close to you because you know they're not obligated to be there for you. My only advice would be to be completely open with your dad, let him know how much he means to you and how much it scares you that he won't always be here. Even if it's a tough conversation now, you'll always be glad he knew how important he was to you
Posted on 10/22/15 at 1:24 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Thoughts and prayers your way.
It's good that he's still able to communicate. Too many times things happen without warning or notice. Cherish your time together and always remember the good things
It's good that he's still able to communicate. Too many times things happen without warning or notice. Cherish your time together and always remember the good things
Posted on 10/22/15 at 2:23 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
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I have to tell my boss I'm taking off tomorrow to help get things in order for my dad and I just know he's going to be a total dick!
Can't deal with that dude right now!
If you've got a boss who is not going to understand that you need to be off because you're father is dying, then you need to look for other employment.
Also, Family Medical Leave Act allows you to be with your father without losing your job.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 2:30 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Sorry.
Go spend time with him and just talk. He's a Dad, so he won't show you he's scared. Role reversal now - you have to be strong and show him the same love and compassion he did for you growing up.
Prayers
Go spend time with him and just talk. He's a Dad, so he won't show you he's scared. Role reversal now - you have to be strong and show him the same love and compassion he did for you growing up.
Prayers
Posted on 10/22/15 at 3:18 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Please do this!! I have had a few loved ones (family/friends) who have died in the past few years and I have taken the time to video our moments together talking. Do it on their "good days" when they are feeling up to it, I set up the video (they know it is there) and we talk about everything.
I get them to tell their favorite memories, their funniest moments in life, cherished memories from their childhood, etc.
I ask them questions and let them talk. I ask questions like:
How did you meet your spouse?
What was your wedding day like? How did it feel becoming a new parent?
What was your childhood like?
What was your favorite childhood pastime?
What did you do for fun as a kid?
What were your parents like?
What is an important piece of advice to newlyweds?
What is the best part about grandkids?
What are some of the funniest things that ever happened in your life.
Tell me stories of when your kids were growing up and things they did.
etc,etc, etc....
Something like this is priceless when you have lost that loved one. You will have captured their voice, what they look like, their laugh, their expressions and so much more.
PLEASE DO THIS NOW!! It will be something you never regret doing but will likely regret if you don't do it.
I get them to tell their favorite memories, their funniest moments in life, cherished memories from their childhood, etc.
I ask them questions and let them talk. I ask questions like:
How did you meet your spouse?
What was your wedding day like? How did it feel becoming a new parent?
What was your childhood like?
What was your favorite childhood pastime?
What did you do for fun as a kid?
What were your parents like?
What is an important piece of advice to newlyweds?
What is the best part about grandkids?
What are some of the funniest things that ever happened in your life.
Tell me stories of when your kids were growing up and things they did.
etc,etc, etc....
Something like this is priceless when you have lost that loved one. You will have captured their voice, what they look like, their laugh, their expressions and so much more.
PLEASE DO THIS NOW!! It will be something you never regret doing but will likely regret if you don't do it.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 3:25 pm to gingerkittie
Also ask him to give a message to the grandkids, one for each of them.
One of advice about marriage for them to be seen when they are getting married.
Just things like that.
One of advice about marriage for them to be seen when they are getting married.
Just things like that.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 3:27 pm to Keltic Tiger
quote:Mine was 63 and I was born when he was 35. The resulting math of only getting 28 years with him sucks. I know some folks have it worse, it still sucks.
I lost my dad way too young, 61, so take whatever time you have left with him & make it quality time.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 3:53 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
God bless him and your family!
Posted on 10/22/15 at 9:55 pm to Yewkindewit
Prayers sent.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 9:58 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Prayers sent. Lost my Dad a little over a year ago. Miss him everyday.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:00 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
Prayers sent to you and your family
Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:18 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
I'm so very sorry. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things in life. Things are never the same after losing one of them. He will always be with you though...in your heart, and you will sometimes even feel his presence. I lost my father a few years ago, and that's how it is for me. It always hurts, but sometimes I smile when I think of him now. I do feel that he's still with me. Watching over me. I think it will be the same for you. Peace be with you and your family.
Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:41 pm to gingerkittie
very good advice, ginger...I have lost a couple of close family members and it would mean so much to be able to hear their voice just one more time.
strange how much you miss the sound of someone's voice that you heard every day for several decades...
strange how much you miss the sound of someone's voice that you heard every day for several decades...
Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:42 pm to NatalbanyTigerFan
sorry, spend as much time with his as you can. Maybe one last father son trip.
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