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"I was the other woman. Now I'm the wife"
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:14 am
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:14 am
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It's not my belief that you set out be the other woman. No one, I think, chooses to be thought of as slut, homewrecker, or "other," but then there is a moment that each one of us can recognize as defining. I certainly never imagined I'd fall in love with a married man, but I did.
With me it only took one smile accompanying a quick handshake and hello to cement my future and fate. John was new to our IT department, and so we were co-workers in a sense but only spent a limited amount of time together. We didn't share office space, but we did see one another from time to time, in the hallways, quick conversations in the cafeteria that turned into longer talks in the parking lot over the course of a year of getting to know each other. Our relationship steadily progressed instead of taking a running start.
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My friends supported and warned me in equal measure. My family wanted me to be happy and worried that I would come to resent being a second choice. But my heart knew that it had found a mate, and after all our discussions when it realized this man knew all about me and loved me because, and in some cases in spite of, it. From that moment on, we were that couple. The ones with a secret. The people you never thought you'd become. The couple that sneaks around, makes phone calls early in the morning or very late at night. Dating was hard enough for normal couples, but we were Catholics, co-workers in a company that frowned upon fraternizing, and he was married. We were like the trifecta of what not to do.
I wasn't always comfortable with the names I was being called behind my back even if I knew they were true. And I wasn't happy when I felt the need to explain and defend our relationship over and over again to people who had no business asking in the first place.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:17 am to RedRifle
I never thought of it like this before. She seems very brave.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:17 am to RedRifle
I'm glad that you made peace with your decision, OP.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:19 am to RedRifle
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we were Catholics
Nominally at best.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:19 am to RedRifle
Terrible thing to do, but I know the feeling of immediate and overwhelming attachment.
When I met my wife, I was in a five year relationship with a girl who I ess sure would be my wife. Ten minutes after meeting my wife I knew I was ending it.
Sometimes you just feel it.
When I met my wife, I was in a five year relationship with a girl who I ess sure would be my wife. Ten minutes after meeting my wife I knew I was ending it.
Sometimes you just feel it.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:21 am to X123F45
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When I met my wife, I was in a five year relationship with a girl who I ess sure would be my wife. Ten minutes after meeting my wife I knew I was ending it.
When you meet the next one, call me for your divorce.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:22 am to RedRifle
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we were Catholics
"When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bicycle. Then I realised that the Lord doesn't work that way so I stole one and asked Him to forgive me."
Emo Philips
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:23 am to RedRifle
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But like people in love we completely ignored everything but one another. John told his wife he wanted a divorce, and looking back it was the easiest and most amicable break up I'd ever seen. They split their money and furniture, they made decisions about their dogs, and on the morning of September 11, 2001 in a tiny courthouse in New Jersey a judge ended their marriage amid the news of twin towers crumbling. It was a day of endings and beginnings.
What the frick
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:25 am to Wally Sparks
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But like people in love we completely ignored everything but one another. John told his wife he wanted a divorce, and looking back it was the easiest and most amicable break up I'd ever seen. They split their money and furniture, they made decisions about their dogs, and on the morning of September 11, 2001 in a tiny courthouse in New Jersey a judge ended their marriage amid the news of twin towers crumbling. It was a day of endings and beginnings.
What the frick
That was so creepy.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:26 am to RedRifle
People always try to justify their dalliances.
They are only fooling themselves.
They are only fooling themselves.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:26 am to RedRifle
So old boy turned a ho into a housewife?
Yeah Ok
Yeah Ok
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:29 am to RedRifle
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With me it only took one smile accompanying a quick handshake and hello to cement my future and fate.
Yeah, that is unquestionably reasonable. He was married. Geez.
This post was edited on 10/12/15 at 10:31 am
Posted on 10/12/15 at 10:32 am to RedRifle
She is not a good person. I love how she is trying to make herself look like the victim.
Posted on 10/12/15 at 11:01 am to RedRifle
Can't wait to read her article about how he then cheated on her with some younger chick he now works with.
I mean....he is already capable of cheating and leaving a marriage cause of it....what is to stop him from doing it years later when she has gotten too comfortable, let herself go appearance wise, and thinks she is totally secure in their marriage?
I mean....he is already capable of cheating and leaving a marriage cause of it....what is to stop him from doing it years later when she has gotten too comfortable, let herself go appearance wise, and thinks she is totally secure in their marriage?
This post was edited on 10/12/15 at 11:05 am
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