How bad can it possibly be? How can someone with their whole life ahead of them

because to them, it's the only way out from the intense pain and suffering they're going through.


I know it's hard as a loved one to deal with, but you don't kill yourself because you think everyone loves you and your life is great.

I try not to judge people, especially those no longer around to defend their position.

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Why would someone cause everyone around them this much heartache?

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Mental illness is a tough, tough battle. They didn't do it to hurt others. They did it to end their own hurt.

Sometimes it is physiological with imbalance in their mind. Deficiencies or whatnot that people that do not have these issues wouldn't understand...I don't know that feels like and I am grateful, but I never feel anger towards someone who does. I feel sorry for them.

It is the most selfish act imaginable.

They choose to end their own personal suffering while simultaneously causing anguish and despair in countless others.

The only ethical difficulty would be if they had a severe progressive terminal illness. That has some merit although I still disagree with suicide.

Spare us all the "what about how they feel?" Your feelings are just that. Feelings. Not reality. Not facts. Just emotional underpinnings swept away with human sentiment.

Have courage. Have character. Chose to live and to be a blessing to others.

What gives you the right to tell others what they do with their own lives? Unless, of course, you're starting to understand that an individual's actions have consequences for other people.

Sorry for your loss. They probably don't think it's ok, but more think that the pain they are feeling, or the loneliness or despair cannot be overcome and haven't in themselves to seek out help or feel they have anyone to turn to. One never knows what goes through the mind of others. Especially if they don't want it known. They'll put on a happy face and those around them will be blind to the pain they are experiencing within.

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They aren't thinking of others, they just want their pain to end. It fricking sucks, but I wouldn't want to live everyday battling that deep depression and feeling helpless. And as much as it does suck right now eventually it does get better.

They don't think logically as you do. It's just not as simple as saying they are selfish for the pain they are inflicting on others. When someone is in enough pain or a state that would cause that person to take his or her own life, they aren't able to process the pain of others. I think many believe that if they are gone, they will not give more pain to others.

It's a very difficult concept to understand or even accept. Every case certainly isn't the same. Take a child, for example, who commits suicide. Would you call a 15 year old selfish? Do you think because someone is an adult, they are automatically selfish? I'm not asking you specifically, by the way.

A chemical imbalance, for example, can do a mean job on a person. I have a relative who was terribly depressed many years ago. She had minor children and she attempted to take her own life via pills, but fortunately, she was found in time to save her life. She went through a lot of testing, counseling and guilt, of course. She had a chemical imbalance, clinical depression and it took a lot of tinkering to get her on meds so that she could live a pretty normal happy life. Even over time, the body changed and her meds had to be adjusted.There were plenty of very difficult times and she felt awful that people were having to help her so much financially and otherwise, to get through it. That's what family does, though. It's a constant uphill battle for her to continue to live a very happy life. She's got some big bumps in the road, but she is some grateful that she was saved for whatever reason. She loves her life and is very very happy with the exception of times that require changes. She's got a lot of support, though, and family who know what to look for.

Anyway, like I said, it's not usually simple and it's not usually selfish. It usually results from indescribable pain and illness. Every case is different.