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re: My Wife Has Been Diagnosed with Lupus

Posted on 12/2/14 at 2:39 pm to
Posted by Broke
AKA Buttercup
Member since Sep 2006
65066 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 2:39 pm to
A very close friend of mine has it. She has good days and bad days. She has to take chemo to keep it in check and it's possible that it could go away altogether with chemo.
Posted by biglego
Ask your mom where I been
Member since Nov 2007
76821 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 2:47 pm to
Doing illegal narcotics
Posted by Hangit
The Green Swamp
Member since Aug 2014
39572 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 3:41 pm to
Sorry to hear that. My wife has TTP. You just have to take the steps necessary to help her, while trying to maintain some semblance of a normal life.

Good luck.
Posted by offshoretrash
Farmerville, La
Member since Aug 2008
10184 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 4:59 pm to
My 17 year old daughter has recently been diagnosed with Lupus. She has had symptoms for 3 or 4 years. The idiot Dr we were going to did very little to help her so we changed Dr's.

Like everyone else says she has good days and bad.
Posted by Lsupimp
Ersatz Amerika-97.6% phony & fake
Member since Nov 2003
79491 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 5:34 pm to
George Costanza lived in fear of lupus. Every time I hear the word I think of him.

My understanding from a friend who had it is like many other autoimmune diseases it's hard to predict where it will go and that many people live near-normal lives with it. Not to mention that modern medicine is damn-near miraculous.

Regardless, be there for the wifey, through thick and thin. My sincere Prayers and wishes of good health for Mrs. Hoyt.
Posted by shutterspeed
MS Gulf Coast
Member since May 2007
63904 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 5:47 pm to
Best wishes. Hopefully she has only minimal issues (or none at all, as other posters have mentioned).
Posted by Spankum
Miss-sippi
Member since Jan 2007
56250 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:06 pm to
I have a couple of close relatives with autoimune diseases...what Ace says is pretty much spot on...

the whole shite is really strange as hell in that one minute, they are just fine and then a few hours later, they feel like total shite and then back to normal a few hours after that...

the unpredictable nature of it all seems to really wear on folks and if you see her getting depressed, urge her to get help...lots of the medicines used to treat the associated pain are actually antidepressants, so they help out in multiple ways...

bottom line is, the whole thing is fairly well manageable as long as the two of you work together for support...

ETA: hope you have good insurance, as your wife will be regularly visiting a hell of a lot of different doctors...
This post was edited on 12/2/14 at 7:08 pm
Posted by Thib-a-doe Tiger
Member since Nov 2012
35574 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:07 pm to
Prayers for yall
Posted by jeffsdad
Member since Mar 2007
21632 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:16 pm to
You have to assume the MD is correct and do what they say of course. BUT it is misdiagnosed often. I would begin eliminating every other issue in the meantime. I would go gluten free for a while and see if that helps and try other issues that get confused with lupus. You just never know until you try. On a good note, my last doc visit he got the diagnosis correct! they are now 2 for 9 in the last 6 years!
Posted by lsunurse
Member since Dec 2005
129071 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:27 pm to
quote:

Doing illegal narcotics


Not illegal at all. She has a medical marijuana card, which in the state of AZ, is completely legal.


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Like I said, she isn't getting stoned all the time or anything like that. But when her hands start bugging her, she smokes or ingests it and it helps her pain. Her work is fully aware of this as well(it was her boss that suggested she apply for the card...her boss has a relative as well with lupus that got a medical marijuana card for the chronic pain associated with lupus).
Posted by biglego
Ask your mom where I been
Member since Nov 2007
76821 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:53 pm to
Illegal under federal law, the law of the land. She's a criminal who should be prosecuted as such and put in jail.
Posted by LloydChristmas
in a van down by the river
Member since Nov 2009
2829 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 7:54 pm to
Sorry to hear the news Hoyt. Prayers to you and your wife.
Posted by MikeBRLA
Baton Rouge
Member since Jun 2005
16496 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 8:00 pm to
Not to turn this into a political debate, but last time I checked AZ was in the USA where it's agaist federal law still. The Feds just choose not to enforce the law.

Anyway, to the OP, good luck and prayers to your family.
Posted by TIGRLEE
Northeast Louisiana
Member since Nov 2009
31493 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 8:28 pm to
Mom has had lupus for 30 years.
It's not the end of the world.
Posted by SwaggerCopter
H TINE HOL IT DINE
Member since Dec 2012
27233 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 8:35 pm to
No matter what the outcome is, take this as an opportunity to love your wife more than you ever thought possible. Incredible love and sacrifice is the most beautiful gift any of us have to offer.
Posted by tysonslefthook
Near Baton Rouge
Member since Apr 2014
1218 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 8:37 pm to
quote:

Illegal under federal law, the law of the land. She's a criminal who should be prosecuted as such and put in jail.


Go drink bleach troll

OP- My cousins wife's sister has it and I know her quite well. She has a positive mentality and usually you can never tell she's suffering. Like most chronic diseases, it's only as bad as you let it be. It has its challenges, but if you make some lifestyle adjustments and are surrounded by a great support group (Namely you OP) there is no reason you can't have a great fullfilling life. There will be days where you have to help more than the average husband does, but that is just an opportunity to show the world just how above average you are.

Other posters here can tell you about Lupus and how to manage that and what to expect. But you first and foremost need to make sure you are 110% mentally prepared to be the best you can be. The stronger the support she has available to lean on the stronger she will be.

Good luck and God bless you brutha.
Posted by jmcs68
Member since Sep 2012
40401 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 8:39 pm to
I don't know much about the disease so I can't offer any advice but I certainly can send good thoughts her way.
Posted by tigerskin
Member since Nov 2004
41085 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 9:32 pm to
Just skin findings or internal problems? What are the symptoms she is experiencing?
Posted by Radiojones
The Twilight Zone
Member since Feb 2007
10728 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 10:30 pm to
I have Sarcoidosis which is very similar to Lupus. In fact when I go in for my chemo infusions many of the people with me have it. There will be some tough days ahead but modern medicine is amazing. Many of my friends are doing extremely well. If she gets her infusions at Mary Bird Perkins we will probably cross paths at some point. Good luck to both of you and keep the fairh. God Bless.
Posted by lsu480
Downtown Scottsdale
Member since Oct 2007
92877 posts
Posted on 12/2/14 at 10:40 pm to
I don't have any experience with this, I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear this. My greatest fear is a loved one getting sick and I feel for you.
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