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Do you allow your teenagers to drink?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:50 pm
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:50 pm
This is kind of a spin off of my “going out is expensive” thread from last night.
A couple guys trying to give me shite for me sneaking my 18 year old a couple drinks at the Texas Club last night. Which is legal in LA, BTW. Someone 18-20 can drink in restaurants and bars if with their parents, just some places don’t allow it.
They saying I’ve probably been feeding them alcohol since they were 13, thinking it funny.
We allowed our daughters to drink in high school, but had very strict rules.
You call me at 2am because you are drunk, and everyone else is drunk, I’ll come get you, we’ll hit Waffle House on the way home.
You call me at 2am because you got a DWI, you gonna sit in jail a couple days.
We knew when they were drinking because we bought it for them. If they went out and drank without us knowing, that would have been the end of that trust.
Funny thing is, both my daughters said the worse kids were the ones who their parents didn’t allow them to drink.
We would buy our daughters their alcohol when they went out. Now granted, I’m talking about special occasions (prom, homecoming, etc). They were not drinking every time they left the house. There was many times we would drop them off and pick them up at a party or dance.
My youngest isn’t a big drinker. I’ve never seen her drunk. I only saw my oldest drunk a couple times. Both times, we picked her up (planned to ahead of the night).
Teenagers are gonna drink, we just managed it correctly. If they were having friends over and they were planning on drinking, we had a rule that we had to hear from the parents of who was coming over (approving they could drink), and we would take all keys if they drove.
A couple guys trying to give me shite for me sneaking my 18 year old a couple drinks at the Texas Club last night. Which is legal in LA, BTW. Someone 18-20 can drink in restaurants and bars if with their parents, just some places don’t allow it.
They saying I’ve probably been feeding them alcohol since they were 13, thinking it funny.
We allowed our daughters to drink in high school, but had very strict rules.
You call me at 2am because you are drunk, and everyone else is drunk, I’ll come get you, we’ll hit Waffle House on the way home.
You call me at 2am because you got a DWI, you gonna sit in jail a couple days.
We knew when they were drinking because we bought it for them. If they went out and drank without us knowing, that would have been the end of that trust.
Funny thing is, both my daughters said the worse kids were the ones who their parents didn’t allow them to drink.
We would buy our daughters their alcohol when they went out. Now granted, I’m talking about special occasions (prom, homecoming, etc). They were not drinking every time they left the house. There was many times we would drop them off and pick them up at a party or dance.
My youngest isn’t a big drinker. I’ve never seen her drunk. I only saw my oldest drunk a couple times. Both times, we picked her up (planned to ahead of the night).
Teenagers are gonna drink, we just managed it correctly. If they were having friends over and they were planning on drinking, we had a rule that we had to hear from the parents of who was coming over (approving they could drink), and we would take all keys if they drove.
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Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:51 pm to theantiquetiger
I think it’s trashy as frick, but it’s also none of my business how you run your house, so I don’t care.
ETA: I also recognize there are differences in regional cultures. In central Alabama, the only people I knew who did this were the mega-trashy trailer park types. Louisiana is probably much different.
ETA: I also recognize there are differences in regional cultures. In central Alabama, the only people I knew who did this were the mega-trashy trailer park types. Louisiana is probably much different.
This post was edited on 8/10/24 at 12:52 pm
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:51 pm to theantiquetiger
quote:
A couple guys trying to give me shite for me sneaking my 18 year old a couple drinks at the Texas Club last night.
Pretty trashy ngl
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:51 pm to theantiquetiger
I would but they’re not interested. I have 2 over 21 and they’re my DDs.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:53 pm to theantiquetiger
We let our 18 yr old drink, but we’d never take him to the Texas Club.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:54 pm to Tuscaloosa
quote:
I think it’s trashy as frick, but it’s also none of my business how you run your house, so I don’t care.
How is it trashy? Teenagers are gonna drink, whether you allow it or not. I think we did a great job at managing it.
I remembering being a teenager, we did some stupid shite.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:54 pm to dyslexiateechur
quote:is that what they tell you?
I would but they’re not interested. I have 2 over 21 and they’re my DDs.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:54 pm to theantiquetiger
Yes, I allow them to drink. However, they usually drink at home. I grew up drinking, and I don’t see anything wrong with it
And it’s not to be the ‘cool parent’ like I’ve been accused of by some of my kids’ friends’ parents.
And it’s not to be the ‘cool parent’ like I’ve been accused of by some of my kids’ friends’ parents.
This post was edited on 8/10/24 at 12:55 pm
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:54 pm to theantiquetiger
quote:
We would buy our daughters their alcohol when they went out.
You assumed a lot of personal liability by doing this. I don’t mind when my kids are in late teens having a couple of beers/wine/cocktails around me. However, you buy it, they leave, drink it, kill someone in a wreck, and it comes back to you buying it for them, then you will be facing criminal and civil legal issues.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:55 pm to theantiquetiger
I let my 7 year old drink. The kid loves red wine.
Remember, it’s not trashy if you believe it isn’t.
Remember, it’s not trashy if you believe it isn’t.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:56 pm to BRgetthenet
quote:you must be European
I let my 7 year old drink. The kid loves red wine.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:56 pm to theantiquetiger
Yes we allowed our kids to start around 16 or 17. Same with all of our friends. And like you, there were rules, especially about no drinking and driving even if they had one drink.
We always knew which house they would be at and who the parents were. Trysting your kid and having them be honest goes along way towards teaching them about drinking responsibly.
Hell, for high school graduates for the Catholic schools around here, big bars or event venues are rented out and the parents and kids all go.
I always hear that the kids who have the sticky parents sneak around a lot and drink anyway. Those are also the ones that go ape shite wild with the partying when they get to college.
We always knew which house they would be at and who the parents were. Trysting your kid and having them be honest goes along way towards teaching them about drinking responsibly.
Hell, for high school graduates for the Catholic schools around here, big bars or event venues are rented out and the parents and kids all go.
I always hear that the kids who have the sticky parents sneak around a lot and drink anyway. Those are also the ones that go ape shite wild with the partying when they get to college.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:56 pm to hottub
quote:
You assumed a lot of personal liability by doing this. I don’t mind when my kids are in late teens having a couple of beers/wine/cocktails around me. However, you buy it, they leave, drink it, kill someone in a wreck, and it comes back to you buying it for them, then you will be facing criminal and civil legal issues.
That’s why we were the DD, or they would take turns being DD. My daughters knew if the DD took one sip, call us, we’d come get you.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:58 pm to theantiquetiger
quote:
Teenagers are gonna drink, whether you allow it or not
So you enable it even more?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:58 pm to theantiquetiger
Ours youngest is 17. I'd let her have a drink at home just to satisfy her curiosity if she asked.
I'm sure she's already tried it behind my back anyway, but kids don't seem to drink as much as we did in high school. 17 yr old me could easily drink 46 yr old me under the table.
I've let her and her friend drink a glass of champagne on NYE.
I'm sure she's already tried it behind my back anyway, but kids don't seem to drink as much as we did in high school. 17 yr old me could easily drink 46 yr old me under the table.
I've let her and her friend drink a glass of champagne on NYE.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:58 pm to theantiquetiger
My old roommate said in high school his parents would let him and his friends drink at parties there and force his friends to leave their keys with them. Most spent the night over or have them secure a DD on the ride home. This is upper middle class Parkland, Florida. Lots of wealthy people in the area and none of them were bad people. I met them one summer (college aged now) and they were an intelligent and fun group of people. I don't think they had started this until at least 16 years old, but I could be wrong.
I think the idea is that you know they're going to drink, you might as well have them learn to do it in a less irresponsible way and make sure they don't kill themselves.
At the end of the day, raise your kids how you see fit. I would encourage my children in the future to always call me, Mrs. BTB, or a rideshare and absolutely do not drive your own vehicle or get in a vehicle with someone who's inebriated in any way shape or form. As I said, you cannot stop them from doing certain things, so just give them the best path to making those decisions possible.
I think the idea is that you know they're going to drink, you might as well have them learn to do it in a less irresponsible way and make sure they don't kill themselves.
At the end of the day, raise your kids how you see fit. I would encourage my children in the future to always call me, Mrs. BTB, or a rideshare and absolutely do not drive your own vehicle or get in a vehicle with someone who's inebriated in any way shape or form. As I said, you cannot stop them from doing certain things, so just give them the best path to making those decisions possible.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:59 pm to theantiquetiger
In 1993 it wasn’t trashy but in 2024 it’s trashy to let an 18 year old drink
We let the government make our decisions for us comrade
We let the government make our decisions for us comrade
This post was edited on 8/10/24 at 1:00 pm
Posted on 8/10/24 at 12:59 pm to theantiquetiger
Yet, youre enabling it. There is no way to get around it.
"Kids shoplift all the time" doesnt mean you take your kids out shoplifting.
"Kids vandalize shite." I get it, but dont take your kids out and lead by example.
My granddaughter told me she has tried pot, shes 16. I didnt freak out, gave me a chance to have an honest talk with her.
Still, I am not smoking pot with my teenager grandkids.
This post was edited on 8/10/24 at 1:01 pm
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:00 pm to Broski
quote:it’s better to sneak around?
So you enable it even more?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:00 pm to theantiquetiger
I don't have kids, but if I did I wouldn't let them drink. That's a free DD in the house.
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