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Single dads: do goodbyes get easier?
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:21 pm
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:21 pm
I am new to fatherhood. I have a 5-month old daughter. Unfortunately, her mom went with Jody before she was even born. The divorce isn’t final yet. I see her a couple of times a week.
Today, I felt so empty once she left. I never knew someone (or something) could bring about the feelings I have. It breaks my heart to know she will spend more time with a POS potential stepdad.
Sorry…late night rambling.
Today, I felt so empty once she left. I never knew someone (or something) could bring about the feelings I have. It breaks my heart to know she will spend more time with a POS potential stepdad.
Sorry…late night rambling.
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Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:23 pm to TexasTiger08
They do get easier when the kids are old enough to communicate on cell phones. Getting to talk to them and see their faces makes the time apart much more bearable compared to when they are babies.
This post was edited on 7/12/24 at 11:24 pm
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:23 pm to TexasTiger08
I feel you bruh.
Make more babies and find a better mom. It gets better.
Make more babies and find a better mom. It gets better.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:23 pm to TexasTiger08
Jody took her while pregnant? Not to be mean but did you get a paternity test done?
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:24 pm to TexasTiger08
Glad you’re hanging in there Tex. Yes, time is the ultimate healer.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:26 pm to TexasTiger08
With the right mindset, anything can be dealt with or overcome.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:28 pm to TexasTiger08
Damn. What kind of psycho steals a pregnant woman?
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:30 pm to SouthBendBob
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Not to be mean but did you get a paternity test done?
Yes I did.
She told me she was pregnant and that she loved someone else within about 20 minutes. Fun times.
But she’s mine, and she’s a cutie, and I love her to death.
This post was edited on 7/12/24 at 11:31 pm
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:31 pm to tgrmeat
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What kind of psycho steals a pregnant woman?
A former best friend
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:34 pm to TexasTiger08
I can't recall, but is she your only child or do you have more? Regardless, don't you dare miss a single visit, weekend, payment whatever. And never ever put anything bad about that terrible woman in writing or text to anyone. Fight for 50/50 if there is still time. F her.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:38 pm to TexasTiger08
He should be gator crap in week.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:39 pm to Sao
She’s my only child.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:39 pm to TexasTiger08
If you are able to handle full custody it seems you have a good chance of succeeding in getting it unless you have some undisclosed issues that might even the playing field. You didn't abandon your child's future home, she did.
This post was edited on 7/12/24 at 11:43 pm
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:41 pm to TexasTiger08
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A former best friend
Damn, you lost a lot. You have a lot of life to live and this is just a chapter in it. As years pass you’ll be looking back at it and living your new life better because of the lessons you learned earlier. Time goes by and each chapter is written quicker and before we no it the story is over.
You’ll get past this and be stronger for it. And you’ll still be a good dad….
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:42 pm to TexasTiger08
Glad to hear she’s yours. And a cutie! I’ve got 5, but my youngest daughter has my heart. She loves me like no other, and I love her.
It definitely gets better. Especially when she gets old enough to appreciate you.
It only gets better,…
It definitely gets better. Especially when she gets old enough to appreciate you.
It only gets better,…
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:46 pm to TexasTiger08
Is the decree done and in force? I only ask as if not, fight for 50/50. Even if it's monumentally hard, do it. Don't give in or up. You got this.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:48 pm to Sao
Decree isn’t done. I am fighting for 50-50.
In regards to full custody, I feel like it isn’t in the best interests of her to take her away from her mother. When I am present, mom seems to be a loving mother, regardless of what she did to me.
In regards to full custody, I feel like it isn’t in the best interests of her to take her away from her mother. When I am present, mom seems to be a loving mother, regardless of what she did to me.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:50 pm to TexasTiger08
Don't worry about step-dad. He's going to give her anything to make her (mom) happy and portray great man vibes, and there is nothing you can do about it. Find another dude that has been divorced for a year, and when you're in "WTF" mode, "hey, you got ten minutes?"
Two years before I asked for a divorce, my ex-wife stated my biggest regret would be letting another man raise my kids. If you want to define a four letter word of a person, there it is.
Send your daughter a letter or card every week (I know she can't read), and demand some form of custody. I send my daughter flowers every month that she doesn't ack, because I'm some evil a-hole. She's under 12 and I don't think I'll be invited to her HS graduation in five years. I've spent 10 minutes with her in six months (five miles away). It sucks.
Get a therapist. <<100% I have a good therapist based in Corpus that you can do virtual visits with.
You can't do much, but you have to prepare for rough times. Your ex is a c*$t, but it's not about her, it's about your daughter now. Everything you ever say to your ex or your daughter needs to appeal to the court. it's going to take years (I don't know what county you're in.) Prepare for the fact that most men in your daughter/exes life will be dirtbags. There is nothing you can do about it.
Two years before I asked for a divorce, my ex-wife stated my biggest regret would be letting another man raise my kids. If you want to define a four letter word of a person, there it is.
Send your daughter a letter or card every week (I know she can't read), and demand some form of custody. I send my daughter flowers every month that she doesn't ack, because I'm some evil a-hole. She's under 12 and I don't think I'll be invited to her HS graduation in five years. I've spent 10 minutes with her in six months (five miles away). It sucks.
Get a therapist. <<100% I have a good therapist based in Corpus that you can do virtual visits with.
You can't do much, but you have to prepare for rough times. Your ex is a c*$t, but it's not about her, it's about your daughter now. Everything you ever say to your ex or your daughter needs to appeal to the court. it's going to take years (I don't know what county you're in.) Prepare for the fact that most men in your daughter/exes life will be dirtbags. There is nothing you can do about it.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:52 pm to Clark14
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Damn, you lost a lot. You have a lot of life to live and this is just a chapter in it.
Yes, I had a lengthy thread on here about my struggles. For a while, I didn’t want to live. There’s still a struggle to each day, but therapy and many suggestions from fellow OTers have helped. I have a new outlook on life.
I never imagined I could love in this way. I was afraid of not being a good father. I was afraid of NOT missing her. Today was a hard goodbye.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:54 pm to TexasTiger08
I can’t imagine it, and I know it wouldn’t work out well for me. Our oldest is going on 22 but my 11 year old son is a different story. That’s a bond that goes beyond anything and if it’s being broken up in front of me, I know it wouldn’t be worth Kumbaya on my part.
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