re: Do you truly ever get over someone?

I think it has a lot to do with the reason you broke up in the first place. I made the decision to break it off one time because it wasn’t a healthy relationship. You can do that for logical reasons that have nothing to do with love. Those are tougher, IMO.

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I had that feeling with a girl I was with shortly after college. It was a toxic relationship and I fell hard for her. But after a couple months I woke up one day and was over it. Met my wife shortly after that and I couldn’t be happier. Now I look back on that time and just laugh at it. You’ll be ok. And you’ll find someone else

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This! You will look back on this one day and thank god when you do find the one you end up spending the rest of your life with.

I’d dump mine now to take my ex wife back, of 22 years and the mother of my 3 kids. Messed that one up, we both did, but I was too stubborn. To answer your question, I don’t think so, you just move on. Life goes on.

The only thing that truly improves thing is time, and the one thing that’s almost guaranteed to work is time. Time changes everything; it’s undefeated.

There’s no doubt in the short term getting some new strange is a great fix. But even if you’re pulling constantly (which, you’ll likely reach a point where you are. I feel like girls can sense grief and some women LOVE the idea of fvcking a broken dude, you’ll def notice it), the only true solution is time. That short term high from a new lay will subside and you’ll still miss her, until there’s been enough time.

I’ve got one that will never leave me. I actually think I’m in a good place with it right now. Some have asked me if I’m “over her”, and I never know what to say. I’d still do anything to change anything. There’s not a week that goes by that I don’t think of her, but I’m not in that point anymore where it’s the constant ache. And even when I do think of her, it’s more of a good memory, sort of the way you feel about your childhood, like I’m sure it wasn’t as rosy as we all remember, but you still look back on it and smile.

The easiest way to move on is time and then also acknowledging and forging what role either of y’all played in how it ended. If you’re walking around beating yourself up or blaming her or whatever, you’ll carry it much longer.

Good luck!

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Do you truly ever get over someone?

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Anyone here ever had a hard time getting over someone?

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Losing a spouse or a loved one is very difficult. What you are describing is the 5 stages of grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

You can be in one stage, i.e., acceptance, and easily go back to another stage, i.e., denial or anger. Because feelings are fleeing and can overwhelm the "logical" part of your brain.

In time, it does get better. I won't necessarily say easier, but somewhat better. The memories that you have of this person will always live on and no one can ever take this away from you, not even the person you are grieving over.

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Could be limerence.

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Attended Joe Beam's Marriage Helper?

I ask because the majority of people have zero ideas what limerence means.

It just feels like I let a once in a lifetime girl slip away. Never met a girl like her. Have a lot of regrets and I know I can’t let it keep me down, but it’s hard to not feel like an idiot right now. She wasn’t a skank or anything like the overwhelming majority of girls that I’ve met are.

Just all came out of nowhere too. Don’t really know what happened or changed, other than her growing and probably realizing I’m just not the one for her. Just a tough pill to swallow and it’s really opened my eyes, and I’m being taught a very valuable lesson about life and all kinds of things, I just wish it wouldn’t have been like this.

Everyone moves on. It is how we were built. Some faster than others