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My oldest son is leaving for college in a few weeks, those that have gone thru this, how
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:25 pm
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:25 pm
Did you you deal? Never been this sad/worried/etc. over a life event that didn’t involve a funeral. From the moment he was born I’ve been 100% focused on being “Dad” and while I will remain his Dad I won’t get to see him everyday, I can’t keep on him about his grades (won’t have access like in HS etc) or go grab him to toss the football in the yard or help with a project. I think I’m worried he’ll make all the mistakes I did, party like I did, etc.
I know this is a Dear diary post, but damn this is hard.
I know this is a Dear diary post, but damn this is hard.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:26 pm to Dawgfanman
Let him make mistakes. He will learn like we all did. It’s time to let go.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:26 pm to Dawgfanman
Need to know where he’s going to better help.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:26 pm to Dawgfanman
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can’t keep on him about his grades
You should have stopped this years ago.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:27 pm to DontThreadOnMe
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You should have stopped this years ago.
I definitely backed off his last two years of HS. But I still looked
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:27 pm to Dawgfanman
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I’m worried he’ll make all the mistakes I did, party like I did, etc.
Absolutely will
Let it go
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:27 pm to Dawgfanman
Guess we’ll find out how good a job you did parenting
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:29 pm to Dawgfanman
If you are going to hold on, you have to let go.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:31 pm to Dawgfanman
You gotta be real with him. You know he's gonna do stupid shite so you need to talk to him man to man to tell him how to do dumb shite in a less risky manner.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:31 pm to Dawgfanman
shite. I got a handshake, 20 bucks for gas and a wave goodbye.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:31 pm to Dawgfanman
Hopefully, you haven't turned him into a puss with your helicopter, overprotective BS. He needs to be a man, let him grow, stay out of his life as much as possible, don't get him out of jams, give him the expectations up front and don't waiver. Personally, I was glad to get mine out of the house.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:32 pm to Dawgfanman
Give him at least $500 a week for alcohol/cocaine
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:32 pm to upgrayedd
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You gotta be real with him. You know he's gonna do stupid shite so you need to talk to him man to man to tell him how to do dumb shite in a less risky manner.
That’s the approach I’ve been taking when discussing it.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:32 pm to Dawgfanman
Mine grew up in a small town so I made them go away for college. I wanted them to know there was a world out there to explore even if they decided to come back. It’s good for them.
What you really need to prepare for is when the last one leaves. Mom’s especially struggle with this.
What you really need to prepare for is when the last one leaves. Mom’s especially struggle with this.
This post was edited on 7/24/22 at 3:34 pm
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:33 pm to Dawgfanman
Main thing you need to try and make sure he know going forward is.... control alcohol, and glove up before you shove up...
I’m facing the same in about 4 yrs except with a daughter.(no pics you pervs) got to let them live their own life. Think back to when you where 18yo, young, dumb, and full of cum!!
I’m facing the same in about 4 yrs except with a daughter.(no pics you pervs) got to let them live their own life. Think back to when you where 18yo, young, dumb, and full of cum!!
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:33 pm to Dawgfanman
Tell him to keep his nose clean & do well in school or he will be looking for a studio apartment & working at Walmart to pay his bills.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:33 pm to greenbean
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Personally, I was glad to get mine out of the house.
I never felt this way, can’t understand those who do…I like being a parent, it was intentional and never a burden or something I resented.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:34 pm to Dawgfanman
Get a bunch of Uber and Lyft credits for him.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:34 pm to upgrayedd
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You gotta be real with him. You know he's gonna do stupid shite so you need to talk to him man to man to tell him how to do dumb shite in a less risky manner.
This! Fentanyl is real. Tell him to stick to drinking beer and maybe smoking a little dope, but leave that hard shite alone. Eat right, exercise, take care of grades before having fun. Wrap his tool and keep his head on a swivel.
Other than that, have fun.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 3:36 pm to upgrayedd
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You gotta be real with him. You know he's gonna do stupid shite so you need to talk to him man to man to tell him how to do dumb shite in a less risky manner.
Yep. This is when I transitioned from thinking of him like a kid to a man. I just tell him stuff he may not be aware of, but understand he will make his own choices and missteps. Its actually a really good feeling.
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