Watch this and tell me fathers aren't needed

Did it involve a shithead kid abusing his german shepard that should've bit his face off instead?

I would never adopt a kid that wasn't mine, even if he/she were a great kid. If mom decided to bounce a year later, you'd still be on the hook for child support, even if she went back to the child's biological father.

He's probably sad he is a Falcons fan though.

Jk good for that family, nice to see a happy video in today's climate.

Waterworks sitting here on my couch

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I never would out of principle.

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I've got 3 kids of my own and 3 step-kids. Good kids. Even if their father weren't around, I'd still love them and raise them, but I wouldn't expose myself to that kind of financial risk.

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I would never adopt a kid that wasn't mine, even if he/she were a great kid. If mom decided to bounce a year later, you'd still be on the hook for child support, even if she went back to the child's biological father.

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I did. When my daughter was 4. She's a few days from 16 now.

Her mom split, and tried to take her, when daughter was about 8. I fought, and I won. Mom was ordered to pay ME child support. She never paid it. I remarried, and we terminated bio-mom's rights and my wife adopted my daughter too.

Hear that? I fought, and I won, in a STATE THAT STRONGLY FAVORS THE MOTHER IN CONTESTED CUSTODIAL CASES.

GTFOH with that bullshite. Kids need parent(s). If that's not you, then don't adopt. But don't lump the rest of everyone in that group.

Sorry to rant but that pisses me off.

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Kids need parent(s). If that's not you, then don't adopt. But don't lump the rest of everyone in that group.

Sorry to rant but that pisses me off.

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I never suggested that they didn't; however, you can be a good parent without making it formal through the legal system. For every story like yours, there are probably hundreds that didn't work out that way and the dude got screwed.

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For every story like yours, there are probably hundreds that didn't work out that way and the dude got screwed.

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Absolutely. It happens more than it should, and the system is unfair to fathers.

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you can be a good parent without making it formal through the legal system.

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You can. I'm not disputing that.

What I'm saying, is that I got tired of seeing my daughter have no parental continuity. I legally adopted to avoid the possibility of her mom running off and taking her away from me. Let's just say bio-mom had a history of instability, and I could predict what was going to happen, so I was proactive and had my defense (offense) planned out long before the situation played out.

I've lost a lot in my life, like many people. But I was not about to lose the very first child that ever called me "daddy" without a written order and a law enforcement official physically ripping her from my arms.

That's why I adopted. To give my daughter stability. If I hadn't done so, my daughter would have already been dragged through 11 boyfriends and 12 school districts in the last 7 years...

...and instead, she's entering her junior year having attended the same city schools since kindergarten.

Your situation is definitely not the norm. What this tells me is that you knew the mother was such a POS that you'd probably get the kid. If she were an otherwise decent person, you likely wouldn't have got that deal. Still, kudos to you for doing the right thing in your unique situation.

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I did. When my daughter was 4. She's a few days from 16 now.

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Great job Dad. Parenting is 50% love and 50% sacrifice. You did them both and she will eventually look to find a husband as good as you one day.