re: You ever get to the point that you don’t care?

Not that I ever would’ve had anything negative to say about that, but once I observed and experienced a literal coup in 2020 United States of America, there isn’t gonna be much else that could stop me in my tracks or really even pause for a moment to think about it. I think I’ve seen the craziest shite there is to see in the past couple of years.

So you’re golden.

After 20 years of marriage, yes.

This happens when my hair gets long.

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Don't take other peoples problems and make them your own. Do what is best for you at all times. Your good intentions mean nothing and likely won't turn into good results. You would be surprised how much more you have good results by doing what you know is best for you instead of what you think is best for others.

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This received 100% upvotes and is 100% wrong. Doing for others is the secret to happiness, assuming, of course, you are not in actual pain. Having a sense of purpose and of accomplishment is a key driver of contentment. Examine your own life for the proof. Think back to the times you’ve actually done something for others. Did it make you feel better or worse. The answer is universally Better!

People don't know how to handle a grieving friend. It's something that very few people intuitively understand. Death is an extremely sensitive and uncomfortable topic. People are scared of bringing it up in conversation and don't want to be present if you break down in tears, especially being a man, because they believe you'll be embarrassed or they'll say or do something that'll make you angry. You can't hold it against people. They don't know how to act because it's something that not many have much experience with.

My advice to you in your time of need is to spend time in nature alone. The woods and rivers/oceans can heal a broken spirit like nothing else on earth.

Good luck to you ponchy. I grew up in Ponchatoula as well, and I enjoy reading your posts here.

Work? Politics?

I've gotten to the point of only caring about my little circle of life and realizing worrying about things you see on the news or read online that does not affect me or my family I don't care about. That's why I stopped watching the news. Much happier. My world, the one I live, breathe,touch and see everyday is perfectly fine. Can't worry about what's going on in Canada or San Francisco, Chicago etc. Worrying about that does nothing for my life except creating unnecessary anxiety.
Now I may have an opinion on it if I read about it on here but I certainly don't spend all day worrying about it.
The news sells fear. All the news. Online and offline. That's why people get sucked in. Worrying about things they can't control. Turn it all off and you'll be much happier.

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You ever get to the point that you don’t care?

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About myself, no.

About the news, other people, politics, religion, the poor, etc. YES.

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Maybe, I just know me. I guess I expect too much out of ppl. But I take friendship very seriously. I have driven over night hundreds of miles to help someone. Taken off work for friends to help them. Missed personal events for someone who needed me. It just deeply bothers me how some have acted since. Especially from a few people that I never in a million years would have expected this

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I am like this as well, so I am the last person who needs to be doling out advice I don't take. If you're not interested in scaling back on how much you do for your friends, which I totally get, you have to find a way to adjust your expectations.

A girl that my friends introduced me to the other day was telling a story about some friend of hers, and she said, "I accepted years ago I'm an 80-20 person. I give 80; everyone else gives 20". And I knew exactly what she meant

It's hard because, obviously, there are some things that are unforgivable. Someone continuously blowing you off and disrespecting your time isn't okay. But you also have to accept to a certain extent that as we get older, people turn to their spouses, relatives, and children.

Funerals especially are a tough topic. I don't know the parents of most of my friends, so while I would be there for my friends in other ways, I don't know how comfortable I'd be going to the funeral with their grieving family. The younger generations like me don't view the funeral thing nearly the way people my parents' age do. But if you friends didn't reach out at all, that's a different story.

As someone else mentioned, death is just a really hard one for people to know what to do. Some people find it absolutely terrible that a close friend would miss their family member's funeral. Others, like me, would prefer they aren't there at all.. as I consider funerals to be a private time between the family and friends of the deceased.

I try to get there, but it turns out I'm more suited to metaphorically beating people over the head to get them to care rather than me choosing not to. It's a stubbornness thing I think.