re: Who here is divorced with kids?

I wonder how many white fathers quit supporting or actually being a father after the divorce compared to black fathers......we can look at disease, drug, crime statistics.

Plus blacks usually aren’t marries in the first place.

Let me say a few things.

Son was 1 month old when she left, daughter under 2. When it happened it destroyed me.

Now I’m glad she did it when she did because they don’t remember the bad stuff.


Now we get along, have a good coparenting relationship. 50/50 custody. No child support, no alimony makes it a lot easier to have that.


Of course I miss them when I don’t have them but it’s allowed me to have a free life as well. And she’s never used them as weapons against me, we don’t ever talk bad about the other in front of them. And we were miserable together.

What she did to me was a kinder cruelty that might have saved my life. I learned how to be a better man, a better dad, and a better partner.

Do I wish that things would have been different, than we could have given them a whole happy family? Sure, but you can’t make someone love you. And she didn’t.

In the end, sometimes it’s better to go through the fire and the pain, because that molds you, shapes you into something harder and stronger and better.

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Now I’m glad she did it when she did because they don’t remember the bad stuff.

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Same here. We had some discussion about trying to work it out, but I knew it was never gonna work. So, I decided to do it while the kid was too young to remember us together.

In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Should have seen the signs a while before it was over but I was too blind. Worked too much, stayed in a haze most of the time I was off because it was easier than accepting that the mother of my kids didn’t want or love me.

When I found something, all the little signs came crashing down and made sense finally. And now that I’ve seen all the sides of that ugly coin it should have been so clear. But sometimes you can’t see what you don’t want to see because you aren’t strong enough to face it.

What age is too young to remember?

Deep and very true.

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What age is too young to remember?

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She was 2. Sorry, I mentioned this earlier in the thread. She's 19 now ans says that she's glad we did it that way.

No pics. Y'all wouldn't believe me if I did post them.

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How'd you manage to pull that off?

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Usually with a good attorney and having evidence of wrongdoing.

Yep, worth it.

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Cheaper to keep her.

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People who say this are too poor to afford a good attorney.

Besides with my ex wife and her spending habits that wouldn't be true either.