re: What is your worst fear?

Surviving a plane crash in the open ocean and swimming around in the dark until drowning or something eating me.

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Something happening to my little boy and no, i would not be here if so.

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As someone who was involved peripherally with a lot of childrens oncology patients there’s nothing I wouldn’t rather face directed towards me if it could save my child from a long term painful terminal illness scenario.

It would sometimes destroy the child in slow motion, empty their parents savings, devastate the adults to the point of suicide and often break entire families from the trauma.

If anyone ever wants to help out Ronald McDonald house charities do great work for parents and siblings going through those scenarios.

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Losing everything I've built.

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We all lose what we’ve built and our wealth eventually.

The old people who I knew who were terminal never worried about the wealth stuff laying waiting to die. It’s always some regret with regard to relationships or mistakes or how their family/spouse will get on without them.

Not telling you that’ll be the case for you or that it should eliminate your fears, but ultimately your stuff doesnt seem to mean as much when you get close to the end unless it’s a family business you feel obligated to pass on in good shape or something.

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Any words of advice would be appreciated.

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I’m a veteran of multiple surgeries now.
Collarbone like you. In Jr. High School. It broke through compression in a football injury. Had a long stainless steel pin inserted to bring the ends together. Cartilage repair a few years later. Kidney stones removed. Gallstone removed. Gallbladder removed. Knee replacement. The management of patient sedation by the anesthesiologist is high order medical care. They know you and what will work best for you. Statistics are your friend. You are very safe. I would not be afraid or reluctant to share your fear with your team. They may very well provide you with some sort of prescription for anxiety that you could take prior to surgery.
Also, if you’re a person of faith, have your priest or pastor come visit with you prior to surgery. The medical team should not have any problems with prayer on your and their behalf.
Mrs. M and I will put you on our morning and evening prayer list until you share here how everything went.
Best wishes.
M

Have a weird premonition that I will be shot. Completely irrational.

Falling off of a roof. Saw a guy die falling off of a roof in college. Ever since then, I just avoid going up there unless I have to. I had to go up on the roof to spray wasps nests last year. My wife said she has never seen me so scared before and we have been through some shite.

Uninformed idiots voting

Something happening to my wife and/or daughter. Just the thought of it crushes me.

Also I don't want to die by slow crushing or being burned alive.

Has to be dying in a fire. Being burned alive has to be the most painful way to go.