re: What do women want in men?

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hat women consciously want, and what they actually desire are two completely different things. That is why relationship advice from women is typically so terrible. See, women have this weird thing where they are dishonest with themselves. See, they all believe that they are these evolved, sensitive, caring, intelligent humans. They think they want to be respected, treated as an equal, and date someone who is intelligent, opem about their emotions, sensitive, wealthy, responsible, and polite. This is what society tells them they should want. However, what actually gets them going are guys who are possessive, jealous, aggressive, cocky, distant, mysterious, sexy, hilarious, AND is desired by other women (the last one is the most important). This is what their biology tells them to want. Here's the thing, the logical part of our brain is not the portion that makes decisions. The emotional, reptile brain always makes the true decision before the logic side gets a chance to weigh pros and cons. What does this mean? Two things are a must no matter what: be funny and be confident. When someone's being a d*ck, defend her. Don't be afraid to get physical. Make sure she knows she's valued and protected. When the inevitable "where do you want to eat?" conversation comes up, don't ask her. Say "get in the car; I'll surprise you" and take her some place you both like. They like "spontaneity" and "assertiveness". Capitalize when you can. Also, remember: women don't argue to be right, they argue to win. They use emotion to win. They wager that you value "not hurting them" over being right. You will need to balance these interests. Women, like toddlers, are emotional terrorists. They use their tears, they use "making a scene", they bring up the past just to hurt you, they may throw objects or punches, and they use tantrums to get their way. Sometimes, they're faking and putting on a show to get you to cave, but sometimes they're not and actually in pain. You need to learn the difference so you can make intelligent choices. You have to leverage your interests in winning verses how much relationship capital you're willing to lose. Finally: men communicate to share information or solve problems. Women communicate to relieve stress and express intimacy. They share their problems (and all those stupid useless details about their day) with you to let you know they trust you and to relieve the stress of that day. They are venting, not trouble-shooting. See, men like to solve problems directly. Women generally do not. Women like to solve things on their own, typically in a back-handed and undercover way. Men just talk face to face or go fist to fist. Women don't want you to solve their problems. They just want someone to listen. Women are like law school classes. They throw endless streams of bullshite at you and then hope you can sift through all of it to find and remember the tiny details you wanted/needed to take note of and remember, so you can act on them later.

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Maybe podcast material?

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Wait didn't you get married like a year ago?

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