re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?

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Needless to say I sent her a "nice" response telling her what I thought and ended the friendship.

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What part of

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Please don't contact me again.

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didn’t you understand?

You sound kinda creepy. No wonder she wanted no part of you.

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So I decided to ask one of my few women (now former) friends (who is also sexually inexperienced) if she would be interested in a FWB situation to help both our dating situations.

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My reaction was "Yes how dare I take care of my own needs as a man and make an offer benefitting both of us."

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Please understand that your need for sex is in no way a "benefit" to her when she has explicitly stated she isn't interested. Understand that just because you want sex with her, that doesn't mean she wants sex with you. She obviously doesn't give a frick that she doesn't have sex a lot. Don't project your needs onto her.

Also, there is no "friend zone." That's a term made up by people who have unrequited feelings toward another person. There are platonic friends, there are romantic relationships, and there are predatory relationships where one person thinks they have a friend and the other person is just using that friendship for personal gain (sex).

Then you gaslit the frick out of her by saying she's the one who isn't trustworthy.

If I had this woman's address I'd send her mace.

Men like you are why I pack heat.

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confidence is the A1 name of the game.

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This.

It’s the #1 thing that attracts women. You could literally look like Sloth from Goonies - if you’ve got swagger and walk around like you own the room, you almost assuredly WILL pull some pussy.

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f she was going to do that and we were going full gloves off I was going to get the last word in.

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You should’ve just walked away. You signaled to her that her response bothered you and that’s never a good look.

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Do you not know anything about women?

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Do you have to ask?

Get shite faced and show up unannounced at her house tonight

This is a very nice troll

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Seeing the response on this forum I should probably just give up and just pay for an escort a few times a year.

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First smart thing you’ve said.

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I'll admit I'm invisible to women and it's probably too late now for any type of meaningful relationship.

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Acceptance is the first step.

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Might as well just attempt to get some sex (even if I have to pay for it) to have some fun.

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First, it’s shocking I even have to tell this to a 38 year old man; but we pay, in one way or another, for all sex.

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Dude, don’t let this place get you down.

I get the impression that you’re pressing too hard.

Try relaxing and working on other aspects of your life. It will improve your confidence in yourself and before you know it, all this will seem very unimportant. That’s whe love unexpectedly falls into your lap, and having an adjusted attitude, it will be successful for you.

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Yes this place has been harsh as I expected but there's been some good advice. I'll definitely admit that I am someone who overthinks things and probably presses too hard. Like others have said I've always believed in honesty but I know there can be too much information. Showing desperation due to lack of sex is definitely not something that is going to help me and I see that now.