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re: Update pg. 7: How to handle a girl that worships her father
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:40 pm to Breesus
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:40 pm to Breesus
All of my hobbies involve my family. I do things with my wife. My kids. I love them. I wouldn't want it any other way. My wife is same way
Married more than 20 years.
Old baw in OP is reason half or more of marriages end in divorce. All the kids here agreeing with him are going to end up in failed marriages.
Married more than 20 years.
Old baw in OP is reason half or more of marriages end in divorce. All the kids here agreeing with him are going to end up in failed marriages.
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Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:42 pm to Lacour
quote:I believe it is also important to have some quality time alone, too. Again, balance.
All of my hobbies involve my family.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:45 pm to Geauxtiga
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I believe it is also important to have some quality time alone, too. Again, balance.
I don't have kids yet but as a twin, my dad worked in the Gulf 7 on 7 off. Needless to say when he was home he spend as much time as he could with me and my brother.
I'm sure the pro parents can elaborate more than I on how to make alone time with multiple kids though.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:48 pm to 50_Tiger
There's no one size fits all, magic recipe. I spent a lot of time with my kids (fishing, ball and livestock shows) but could improve on a lot of things if I had a do-over.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:49 pm to Lacour
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Did I miss something?
There is nothing wrong with what her father did for her and his family. In fact, it seems like he was the type of father who did exactly what he was suppose to do, but everyone is different and for the girl to expect the guy she is dating to be exactly like her dad is somewhat unrealistic.
With that said, we are getting one side of the story. Maybe he is expecting her to be okay with him to go off anytime he wants to do whatever he likes, which he sees as her trying to make him like her father, since her father doesn't do anything outside of his family. If her dad spent all of his time, outside of work, with his family, that is likely the family life she expects.
If someone grew up in a household in which both parents didn't spend all of their time, outside of work, with the family then they likely have different views of "family life" and that can be something that just doesn't work for each other.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:50 pm to Lacour
Did OP say it's about him doing guy shite without her? You need to read the thread, unless this girl is 19, she is way too attached to her dad.
OP put this another way, she's saying she doesn't want you! Whatever it is, she wants you to change something that you are either unwilling or unable to change. Bail and move on!
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Pointing your finger and saying "I want that" is not effectively communicating. Which is what she is essentially doing by saying their relationship is what she wants
OP put this another way, she's saying she doesn't want you! Whatever it is, she wants you to change something that you are either unwilling or unable to change. Bail and move on!
Posted on 7/15/17 at 8:59 pm to Triple Bogey
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Sounds like he's a good dad. I hope to one day have some little bitch on here crying about how he doesn't stack up to me too. I will have done my job. My wife and her dads relationship is strained to say the least and it's my job to make sure that shite doesn't happen with me and my daughter.
You know how women fricking hate mamas boys and avoids them like the fricking plague?
It's the same with men and daddy's girls that you apparently want to happen as well.
Some distance from parents is required for two adults to have a healthy relationship together.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:03 pm to OweO
quote:Hereby you make my point.
What do you mean? Do you think it is okay for her to date a guy and try to turn him into her father? She should be willing to at least compromise, but she has set an unrealistic goal and expects him to meet that goal.
Good fathers are always idolized by their daughters. That doesn't mean you have to bury yourself to try and meet her expectations and be a clone of her father.
Be who you are, confident in that. So long as she knows you put your family (which means her and your kids) first.
That won't mean you don't play golf, though it will mean you skip a tournament you really want to play because your kid has a cheerleading competition they have no shot of winning.
It might mean you get a new lawnmower instead of that boat down payment you were dying for.
She doesn't want you to be just like him, just in the ways that truly matter.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:04 pm to sneakytiger
I would imagine the OP's girlfriend would be having quite the seething shite fit if her boyfriend was a full blown mamas boy in the same way her boyfriend sees her as a full blown daddy's girl.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:06 pm to Lacour
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but this dude only cares about what he wants to do. Is that it
Not it at all. The problems are not arising because I am "doing just what I want". I've not once mentioned anything of the nature.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:08 pm to Geauxtiga
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nelaZZ, how's the secks? We gotta know
She's a bit crazy, so frequent and loud
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:09 pm to Sentrius
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I would imagine the OP's girlfriend would be having quite the seething shite fit if her boyfriend was a full blown mamas boy in the same way her boyfriend sees her as a full blown daddy's girl.
This right here
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:28 pm to nelaZZ
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Not it at all. The problems are not arising because I am "doing just what I want". I've not once mentioned anything of the nature.
Then what's the problem
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:31 pm to Lacour
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All of my hobbies involve my family. I do things with my wife. My kids. I love them. I wouldn't want it any other way. My wife is same way
If both people in a relationship does not share the same philosophy when it comes to family then they are just not a good fit. We did things as a family, but in general my dad did his thing while my mom did hers. If my mom wants to go somewhere my dad had no interest in going, she and my sister or a friend of hers would go do it.
My dad use to do a lot of woodwork when he was not working. So when my mom would go somewhere, I would stay with my dad... usually in his shop watching him build stuff. Then there were times they would go out together. Every once in awhile, usually on a Friday or Saturday night, they would go do something together. The older I got the more I liked it when they would go out because it meant I could do shite I normally wouldn't do when they were there.
While it is important for parents to be involved in their kids life, I would argue that it is better for the kid if the parents were not always around. While there is nothing wrong with a parent always being there and wanting to take care of every little problem their kids have, there will be a time when parents will not always be around so there is nothing wrong with the children learning how to live without their parents always there.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:32 pm to Lacour
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Then what's the problem
He doesn't actually like her, he likes the idea of her
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:40 pm to Breesus
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He doesn't actually like her, he likes the idea of her
Yep x 100.
People confuse those two things A LOT.
I have myself.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:46 pm to LSUgirl4
I'm not going to argue with that, makes a lot of sense.
Posted on 7/15/17 at 9:57 pm to nelaZZ
Who is your gf celeb look a like?
Posted on 7/15/17 at 10:00 pm to OweO
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If both people in a relationship does not share the same philosophy when it comes to family then they are just not a good fit. We did things as a family, but in general my dad did his thing while my mom did hers. If my mom wants to go somewhere my dad had no interest in going, she and my sister or a friend of hers would go do it. My dad use to do a lot of woodwork when he was not working. So when my mom would go somewhere, I would stay with my dad... usually in his shop watching him build stuff. Then there were times they would go out together. Every once in awhile, usually on a Friday or Saturday night, they would go do something together. The older I got the more I liked it when they would go out because it meant I could do shite I normally wouldn't do when they were there. While it is important for parents to be involved in their kids life, I would argue that it is better for the kid if the parents were not always around. While there is nothing wrong with a parent always being there and wanting to take care of every little problem their kids have, there will be a time when parents will not always be around so there is nothing wrong with the children learning how to live without their parents always there.
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