re: Tried to talk my son out of getting married. It didn't go well.

Where True love exists, difficult things are easy. Where True love does not exist easy things are difficult.
Stats show that more marriages SUCCEED when the couple engages in the marital embrace for the first time AFTER being married.
More than 60% of marriages FAIL if the couple engages in the marital embrace BEFORE being married.
If they can wait, then difficult things are becoming easy for them, and their marriage will have a high chance to succeed.
Uber-catholics do wait until marriage to engage in the marital embrace.
Under no circumstances should a couple use any form of contraception. Why? Because TRUE LOVE desires to completely give one to the other and completely receive one another. Contraception says, "I'll give this much of myself to you, but not all of me, and I will receive this much of you, but I WILL NOT receive this part of you.
Subconsciously the two bodies are saying, "I do not completely give myself to you, and I do not completely receive you.
Also, the Act of Creation is thwarted; therefore, who is being invited into the marriage? Satan the one who destroys creation or the Holy Spirit who creates?
If one does not get the issue of life correct, then one can not get any issue correct because ALL ISSUES FLOW FROM LIFE.
If they are catholics that practice their faith, are faithful to attending Sunday mass, then they have a greater chance to be faithful to each other.
They also must resist the 7 deadly sins one of which is Slothfulness/laziness. If not working is due to laziness, then they are not mature enough to be married, and will need to grow up more.

Say, "Son, I love you. I care for you, and I want you to be happy. I over reacted the other day. My words were insensitive and uncaring. I want you to know that even if I disagree with you I will support you if you choose to get married.
I only want to express my concerns. I would like you to prayerfully reflect on what I am about to tell you. After reflecting on my words for 9 days I will accept your decision. Here are my concerns:
(Go to adoration for one hour before the Blessed Sacrament in Church. Write down your concerns on the Presence of God.)
Tell him your concerns. Tell him you wrote them down in the Presence of God.
Sign, "I love you. Your Father." Give him a hug and a kiss.
No matter what happens or what he chooses he must KNOW you love him for better or for worse. He must know you will be there for him always, until the end of time.
God Bless you and I hope things work out for the best. It is close to Christmas. Make up with him and enjoy this Christmas like it's going to be the last.
Where True love exists, difficult things are easy. Where True love does not exist easy things are difficult.

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You would still have to prove that the marriage was never valid in the eyes of the Church. Not very easy.

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lolwut?

Very easy. Just say you were too young/immature to fully consent. It's like a get out of jail free card in the eyes of the tribune.

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Where True love exists, difficult things are easy.

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Fairy tale nonsense. True love comes from time and hard work. All this pixie dust love crap is just a bunch of feelings, and just as you shouldn’t base your faith on feelings, you shouldn’t base your marriage on it either. Love is a decision. Attraction is a feeling.

sonny, when my generation was fighting the germans in WWI because they attacked either pearl harbor or pearl river we didnt have a pot to piss in and we had to walk to school everyday uphill, both ways, in the snow. so we do know best!!!!

Calling it now. First fight: “My dad said I was a damned fool to marry your sorry arse, and he was right!”

Then they will make up, but the bride will never forgive dad.

I proposed to my now wife when I was 23. Got my fist job within a month of the proposal. She had a 1 year old at the time. We have been happily married for 22 years and have two more kids whom I love more than anything.
I never felt like my family gave my wife and stepdaughter (hate that word) a real fair shake, but that's my opinion .
What I'm trying to say, from my experience, shut the frick up old man.

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Oh, and I failed to mention that they are both uber-Catholic. Can't divorce. Natural family planning, I assume.

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Catholicism goes out the window when the two are suddenly pregnant with a child they cannot support or she starts to feel "trapped" and "unappreciated". Trust me, there's a lot of "uber-Catholics" with divorces out there, believe me.

If you really want to put the safety kibosh on this:
abduct your son and have a doctor give him a vasectomy without his knowledge. That will keep him from knocking up his wife before they're financially ready. If things are going well in their marriage and they want to have kids, tell him how to get it reversed and offer to pay for it. If things are going poorly, you tell him to have a doctor (the same one who performed the secret vasectomy) check his fertility. The doctor tells him he's infertile absent corrective surgery. That's grounds for an annulment in the Catholic Church.

Loophole, lawyer-ed. You'll go to hell, but your son's soul will be peachy keen.

FYI: You're an idiot. Let your son live his life and make sure he knows that you're going to love and support him no matter what. He knows he might be too young, yet is taking a risk anyways. He needs your support and guidance, not sabotage. Trying to actively stop the wedding will only drive them together before the wedding, and put a wedge in their relationship afterwards. That is setting them up for failure.

Find him a better looking girl that will put out.
Problem solved.

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