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Your not posting pics and we dont have her name.

What are your problems with her?

Not saying your wrong for doing what you did(you have all the information),but you shouldn't give people parts of the story and then get upset when they take that information and make up their own opinions.

Yes you made her sound great and like a real find. If she has flaws that are on a fundamental level uncompatiable with what you need then that makes everything look a bit different.

What are those things? If you don't mind my asking.

You want a change of heart? Think of some other dude on top of her laying the wood... if that hurts you, then you shouldn't leave BC this is all you'll think about for the next few months if you dump her under these circumstances

You're making a huge mistake. When you get older and realize that you've been dating skanks for the last fifteen years and none of them are wife material you'll remember this girl that would've done anything for you. You are going to regret this decision. Now if something was glaringly wrong with her ok but the way you describe her she's good. Go ahead and frick up so you can die old and alone with nobody to care for you.

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"she's a beautiful, awesome, loving, loyal girl but I'm gonna dump her"--what response do you expect that to trigger?

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According to the OT, a young, immature, selfish, stupid, gay person that is bipolar.

Like I said, this is either 1) a great troll, or 2) rintin isn't being honest.

I was placed exactly in your shoes 7 or 8 years ago.

It was truly the best decision I've ever made in my life.

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And for the dudes saying this is a troll, it's actually possible to be with a beautiful, caring girl, but just not feel like she's the one. Better to do something for your own happiness than put a ring on her finger and lie to yourself for the rest of your life. That's actually the worst thing to do.

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It's a close call though. For some people, you're right. For others, who aren't mature enough to realize that a lifelong happy marriage isn't likely to consist of constant excitement and joy, it's probably the wrong choice.

If she's just the dude's long time GF, and he's not seeing the future, then I guess go for it. If she's his best friend and things just aren't as he idealizes, then it's probably going to be a disaster.

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So list them.

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The majority boil down to one thing, daddy issues.

She was abused by her father and has severe insecurity due to it.

It affects our relationship immensely. She's the kind of person that needs constant reassurance, constant coddling. I'm the complete opposite.

She's always questioning our relationship due to this and it drives me crazy. It turns into a crying session almost weekly. Just a hamster wheel of the same shite.

It also affects her relationship with others. She can be very spiteful to other people, which is why she has few friends. The close friends she has will even keep their distance due to this.

She doesn't do much on her own, so it's either with me or nothing, which means she gets spiteful at me when I do stuff with my friends and she can't due to work or whatever else.

I honestly don't like her around with my friends because of her preponderance of getting pissed off for miniscule things.

That's a few. Also financial issues and irresponsibility elsewhere in her life.

And sex life. I don't think we've had sex in a month.

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And sex life. I don't think we've had sex in a month

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Nnvm dont break up with her. THats awesome. Think of all the time and cleanup you save by just jerking off.