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Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:28 am to rintintin
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:28 am to rintintin
You have to do what is right for you.
I think the vast majority of people are ok with your ultimate decision especially after posting your real reasons.
Most only question your timing and how long it took for you to figure out the right answer for yourself.
I think the vast majority of people are ok with your ultimate decision especially after posting your real reasons.
Most only question your timing and how long it took for you to figure out the right answer for yourself.
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Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:29 am to rintintin
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Lol, yeah I think most replies here express the posters feelings about themselves and their own relationships.
That is exactly the case here, which is why this has been a great thread to read and be a part of.
In actuality, its just a cycle of a typical relationship that doesn't work out. Starts with doubt and denial, but you hang on for a while(some hang on for a long time and are miserable..as can be seen in some posters on here). Then you make the jump and end it, which will likely lead to misery for many years to come(especially when its a long term relationship like yours, I've been there). Then you eventually find someone who makes everything okay again and you don't regret what you've done.
To finish what I said earlier, about it being unfortunate not being able to know what you had until its gone....well the other half of that is true as well in that....you can't know what you don't have until you go looking for it.
and blah blah blah life sucks sometimes. good luck to you in your journey sir...
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:29 am to TbirdSpur2010
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If you KNOW have a good thing, you don't let it go unless you're a self-saboteur.
Precisely what I've posted numerous times in this thread. Tbird gets it...
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:32 am to rintintin
I think you are making the wrong decision, but you have enough reason to break up ANYTIME you want.
If you don't like the way her hair looks one day, you can break it off with her.
That's not the point.
Our point is that you either are about to frick something up or that you already fricked it up due to your aloofness and inability to appreciate her "for how great she is". I think the majority of us just think you are the problem.
You say she is too clingy. Sounds like she just loves you and you decided recently that you don't love her (for a reason we can't understand and won't).
So do us all a favor and say you are selfish arse that is probably going to regret what you are doing but is going to do it anyway.
If you don't like the way her hair looks one day, you can break it off with her.
That's not the point.
Our point is that you either are about to frick something up or that you already fricked it up due to your aloofness and inability to appreciate her "for how great she is". I think the majority of us just think you are the problem.
You say she is too clingy. Sounds like she just loves you and you decided recently that you don't love her (for a reason we can't understand and won't).
So do us all a favor and say you are selfish arse that is probably going to regret what you are doing but is going to do it anyway.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:33 am to rintintin
So basically you're saying you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship.
You're probably doing her a favor.
Seek counseling.
You're probably doing her a favor.
Seek counseling.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:33 am to DosManos
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I'm sorry but this is pretty astute. How did you come up with this analysis? I'm pretty impressed as it sort of relates to a situation I'm going through right now.
Because, like I said, I deal with people who have these issues on a daily basis.
Regardless of my reputation here, I actually can offer serious advice from time-to-time.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:33 am to rintintin
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This is gonna suck. I'm dreading it, but it has to be done.
We've been together 4 years. I'm not getting married, but she wants to.
It would be selfish of me to keep stringing her along knowing that I will never marry her. I don't want to waste anymore of her time.
Also, I'm miserable. She's a beautiful girl, loving, caring, 100% trustworthy and loyal, but I dread coming home at night. I love being home alone, but when she's there I just need to get the frick out.
My family loves her, and they're gonna be pissed, but it needs to be done. I can't live miserably anymore. I can't waste my life being unhappy just for the sake of not wanting to hurt her.
And boy is it gonna hurt. She's going to be devastated. This will be one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, because I do care for her.
Yes posting this on the OT is my way of getting it out. I know I'll get blasted, but I needed to put it in writing.
Fire away.
I have to go through this same thing. It sucks...
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:33 am to mizzoukills
Seems this thread makes a clear delineation between those posters successful in the sexual realm and those who stand on the wall, hands in pockets, watching everyone else dance.
"Don't break up with her unless you have for-sure poon elsewhere"
I bet Rin runs em like ponies when he's on his A-game.
I'll bet the house, in fact.
"Don't break up with her unless you have for-sure poon elsewhere"
I bet Rin runs em like ponies when he's on his A-game.
I'll bet the house, in fact.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:34 am to rintintin
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My family loves her, and they're gonna be pissed, but it needs to be done. I can't live miserably anymore. I can't waste my life being unhappy just for the sake of not wanting to hurt her.
Word of advice don't waste your time or anyone else's on future relationships....just sleep around with bar whores your whole life
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:34 am to mizzoukills
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Because, like I said, I deal with people who have these issues on a daily basis.
or maybe he just thinks she's a bit too ugly and its been eating him up, she's insecure, jealous, and a real bitch to him and he's not interested in a long term commitment with her. Sometimes the obvious is correct which makes it the obvious.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:34 am to LSUgolf04
I can say I had to do the same thing at 25. By 27 I had met the right person for me and we have been happily married for over 7 years now.
I was with the previous girl for 5 years and got sick to my stomach everytime i thought of being married to her and she had a lot of the same problems your talking about. The one i was with was crazy and would blow up if I spoke to another female even at work. Best thing you can do is break it off, move out and don't speak for a few months.
I was with the previous girl for 5 years and got sick to my stomach everytime i thought of being married to her and she had a lot of the same problems your talking about. The one i was with was crazy and would blow up if I spoke to another female even at work. Best thing you can do is break it off, move out and don't speak for a few months.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:35 am to mizzoukills
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So I hit the nail on the head with my suspicions that you are either bipolar or have extremely low confidence in yourself when it comes to relationships.
I knew I did when you refused to comment on my constructive analysis...
My man you are way to into this dude's relationship decisions.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:36 am to rintintin
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So what in your opinion is reason enough to break off a relationship?
Nothing that you mentioned about her. Everyone has a history. If you're going to be involved emotionally with someone you take the good with the bad. Certain problems can never be overcome, but their severity and pain can be eased over time, if you're willing to fully commit..which you obviously aren't ready for.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:37 am to mizzoukills
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Because, like I said, I deal with people who have these issues on a daily basis.
Oh FFS. I sure as shite hope they don't pay you for it.
"Stay with this chick cuz you may never find another. Grow up and settle like a man. Stay with her out of pity and self-doubt and pretend to be happy like the rest of us poor slobs"
Quality advice. Truly.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:37 am to mizzoukills
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Because, like I said, I deal with people who have these issues on a daily basis.
Regardless of my reputation here, I actually can offer serious advice from time-to-time.
Are you a social worker or a therapist of some sort?
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:37 am to mizzoukills
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I hope you realize that fricking strangers, while fun at first, will get old fast and you'll sit around longing for the companionship you once had with this girl.
GTFO with this bull shite.
I had the gorgeous blonde, educated, great family, my family loved her, it was literally the best relationship one could ask for. In 2.5 years we literally got in 1 argument ever, and it was about which couch we were going to purchase for our new apartment.
She was amazing, cleaned, washed clothes, took care of everything at home while working her awesome job too while I worked and commuted/finished grad school 220 miles away.
I was miserable. I would be gone from 5am till 10pm and come in and just hated it. Only thing I loved was always having good food.
She's gone. I gave her the entire apartment, took my personal belongings and the dog and bailed. Never, and I mean never been happier in life.
Go live your normal, basic, textbook Southern lifestyle. That shite isn't for everyone.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:38 am to 19
lol this is turning into a traditional mizzoukillz thread with the quickness 
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:38 am to lsu777
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I was with the previous girl for 5 years and got sick to my stomach everytime i thought of being married to her and she had a lot of the same problems your talking about. The one i was with was crazy and would blow up if I spoke to another female even at work. Best thing you can do is break it off, move out and don't speak for a few months.
Bingo
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:38 am to 19
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Seems this thread makes a clear delineation between those posters successful in the sexual realm and those who stand on the wall, hands in pockets, watching everyone else dance.
Really? That's an odd statement because rintin literally said he and his girl haven't been having sex yet he's stuck with her for 4 years.
Why aren't you asking why he stuck with her for 4 years?
I'm spot on. You know it. Rintin knows it. And every person in this thread knows it.
He doesn't love himself which means there's no way anyone can love him (from his perspective). He's creating a self fulfilling prophecy. He's convinced himself he would be happier alone than in a relationship that one day will end in disaster. Better to end it now than to wait for that apocalyptic day.
He's the problem and he knows it. Hell, he even briefly admitted it.
I don't think he's a bad person. I actually truly feel for people who have so little love for themselves that they destroy relationships on purpose to protect themselves from emotional pain.
I feel for him!
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:38 am to thegreatboudini
The frick?!!!!! Whats her name and number! Shes the ONE!
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