re: Those who had expensive weddings

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give us some of the details of the $5,000 wedding

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The Asian lady that married us in Vegas was like $150

You should see some of the stuff on the fb wedding shaming group.

One woman wanted her wedding to be a big campout. She wanted to be barefoot in the mud. Wanted all of her guests to camp on land by a tiny cabin she was renting. They would have no access to a bathroom. Oh...and she wanted it to be a potluck to save money.

So she wanted her guests to camp in tents...but bring a potluck dish? Can you imagine the public health investigation on that foodborne illness nightmare.

Nurse,

No offense, but you sure are salty on people who don't spend a life savings on a wedding. You never responded to what I said in my earlier response to you.

For our wedding, we had a professional photographer who took great photos, a caterer whom was friends with my wife, no complaints about our non meal options at 2:30 in the afternoon, paid about $1K for flowers/bouquets.

We had about 200 people invited, they seemed to enjoy, and we were done by 5pm and everyone went home.

Our rehearsal dinner probably cost me $200, we had a cookout at a local park.

You don't have to spend thousands to have a nice wedding that the bride and groom and guests can enjoy and remember.

If you want to spend a ton on a wedding, that sounds great, but if you don't, you shouldn't be criticized and treated like you cheated everyone involved.

Just beer and wine is fine and can be done for a reasonable cost

I will never shite on somebody for not having full open bar.

Cash bar is as trashy as it gets

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No alcohol
Turkey rolls from Costco
That lady on fb they vaguely know as their photographer
Nana holding an iphone as their videographer
Flowers for the wedding were stolen that day from a wake at a local funeral home

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Not exactly, but that could work! It is about getting married, not impressimg friends and business associates.

Our approach:

Outdoor wedding in BR in early May

Rented the Steele Burden Memorial Orangerie (great, inexpensive facility next to the rose garden, which afforded many good photo ops)

Nice selection of beer, wine and sangria

Two food trucks (guests gave lots of appreciation for unlimited food of their choice, highly recommended for outdoor weddings)

Multiple friends/family members are talented photographers

Bulk flowers from whole foods...great family activity putting arrangements and bouquets together the morning of the wedding.

No band or disk jocky. Bride and groom put their play list together and we used our own sound system.

Actually came in right at $4,000, so we gave them the extra $1000 to be used on their honeymoon.

Still one of the best wedding receptions I have attended and I have been to many.

It can be done if you apply some semblance of reasonableness to planning.

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No offense, but you sure are salty on people who don't spend a life savings on a wedding.

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No I'm not. I even said I didn't spend a crazy amount(10-12K including travel costs).

I was just giving an honest opinion about weddings with no alcohol.

My daughter and her husband flew to Hawaii and were married on the beach at sunset. Beautiful pictures. No family was invited. Or anyone else. Didn't cost a fortune and they were happy with the arrangements.

I have been to some expensive weddings with 8 to 10 groomsmen and bridesmaids. Ten of thousands were spent. After a few years they were divorced. If they had all that wasted money, maybe the marriage would have lasted longer. Finances contribute to many a failed marriage.

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My question is, if you had an expensive wedding, say $35k+, are you happy you spent that money on your wedding or do you now regret it?

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Do it big homie!

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My question is, if you had an expensive wedding, say $35k+, are you happy you spent that money on your wedding or do you now regret it?

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Nearly 10 years later my friends still talk about it being the best wedding they ever went to.

At the end of the day I was simply told what to wear and when to show up.

My first wedding was a lavish blowout from my father-in-law who gave us a credit card and said “buy what you want.” Grand total was around $80,000 and he was a business man who wanted to show off for his friends and family. The marriage ended 3.5 years later.

My second wedding was a small, intimate gathering and reception at my parents’ home. Grand total was maybe $1,000.00 and I enjoyed it a lot more than the first one.

The size of the wedding doesn’t indicate at all the quality of the marriage.