re: The worst part of someone dying is that you can’t talk to them anymore

I mean, you kinda can. Depending on the relationship, you can imagine the things you’d say and their reaction or vice versa. Not always obviously.

I love when I see my Mom or Dad in a dream! It's been a while but I used to see the most amazing world, universe, I have seen the most insane, incredible things, places. Now that I'm in my late 60s (still feel 20, except after using the weed eater) and I have had a lot of friends who are gone, a few were like brothers, sometimes I drive and I talk to them and I cry my brains out but it feels so good and I pray I will see them all one day! Charlie was a great man and I spoke to him after he died.

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I have a couple voicemails from my mom.

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Simple voice mails become prized possessions after someone passes. I am thinking everyone should leave such things in a safe place for those thst are left behind.

One thing I have found incredibly heartwarming is watching old videos of people that died just having a conversation with them. It feels weird doing it but the value after they are gone is amazing. I also keep a couple of phone messages from my wife's grandfather on my phone. Heck of a pick me up when having a bad day or missing him.

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I call my dead old man’s phone once monthly. The guy who took his number doesn’t show much interest in replacing him.

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It may be worse when a parent gets dementia. Then your mom or dad looks and sounds like your mom or dad, but it's like you are talking to a stranger at times. I was the primary caregiver for my mom for about 8 years. Saw her a couple of days a week, called her every night. Kept wishing I could talk to my mom again, but only rarely got glimpses of who I remembered.

After she died, I called her number, the number our family had had for 60+ years, for a couple of days, then I transferred that number to my cell and took it over. No problem remembering my phone number.

I would say the smell