re: Teachers gone wild, Monday's round-up

My neighbor works with the teacher from Katy. She is sick to her stomach about this. I actually met this nut last summer when they were setting up their classrooms and my neighbor asked me if I could bring something to her. My first impression of her was not a great one and it obviously has not changed for the better...

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You seem to have zero understanding of what a child goes through when they're molested. Very often there is little or no physical pain. And one of the dirty secrets most people won't talk about is that from a purely physical aspect, it feels good. That's why it's common for kids who are being molested to in turn mess with other kids themselves. The real pain though is physiological. That's what you're not understanding. You're thinking of this from the standpoint if a man who has the benefit of having a normal childhood. To you the notion of a woman molesting a boy is alluring and you probably wish it happened to you. Well I had it happen to me and I can tell you that I'm not the lucky one for having it happen to me.

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Sorry to hear all of this, man. Also, kudos to you for being brave enough to bring it up in an environment that lauds these pre-teen and just-turned-teen boys for being molested and raped by insane older women.

I too know someone that had this happen to him. He described how the effect of the molestation was that sex was not exciting for him. You brought up a great point earlier. Every boy goes through the slow stage of revelation when it comes to sex. Guys slap hands and tell stories about how they grabbed their first boob. Or they kissed their first girl. Or they got a blowjob. Or they got handjob or they finally had sex.

I think it's also a rite of passage that boys turning into men are seeking to accomplish. That hunter mentality. Boys see girls as something they need to "achieve." When they score with a girl, it helps build that type of confidence that carries them into adulthood to accomplish other goals.

The guy I know said that on his 13th birthday, his next door neighbor who was a single women in her 20s told him she would give him his man present. She invited him over that evening and he went from having kissed a girl once on the lips in a game of truth or dare to having experienced every sexual pleasure that most boys take years if not a decade of achieving on their own.

I know he had to go to counseling for a while and he didn't report it. She got married and told him they couldn't have sex anymore when he was 15. He said he was a 16 year old boy and was having impotence issues as he would start hooking up with a girl, and he would get pissed that she was nervous or inexperienced or just kinda bad at it.

Sorry to hear that about your friend. I guess we each react to it and deal with it in different ways. For me it was the opposite from him. I became virtually obsessed with sex even more than the normal teen. And being introduced to so much at such a young age did effect my development. I know in doing a shitty job putting into words how it affects a boy going through this (I'm trying to not get too perverted with my description of how it's effected me in the posts as I see the down votes are pouring in now). But just as a 12 year old girl is effected when she's molested by a grown man, even if it physically feels good to her, the same is true did a 12 year kid boy being molested by a grown woman. Just as the girl us left with scars and issues, so is the boy.

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The OT is filled with child clinical psychologists and they disagree with you. They think you should be thankful for getting abused by a teacher.

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That mindset is exactly why I post in these threads and share my experience in this area. The type of thinking you mention has got to stop.

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You're thinking of this from the standpoint if a man who has the benefit of having a normal childhood

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what is normal?


I just asked what dirty things. In highschool I don't see how me wanting to have sex and being allowed to with an older woman would have negatively impacted me. We aren't ususally discussing kids in these threads that are under 13...i get how at that age it could be detrimental but 15 & 16 yr olds getting it on with older women is different...at least we used to fantasize about that possibility when I was growing up.

I agree. My 13 year old has a "girlfriend" and is pretty mature. However the sexual maturity and thought process is much less mature. Therefore I can't imagine something like that happening.

I got a blowie when I was 13.


But she was a ho fa sho.

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The real pain though is physiological.

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Did you mean physiological or psychological?