re: Sharing location with your spouse

I sometimes check to see if my husband has left from work yet so I can time dinner. Otherwise its also nice for when I've lost my own phone somewhere I can find it from his phone. I frequently set it down in weird places, like on a shelf in my closet. I don't do it because I suspect him of cheating.

I do track my kids, as is my right to do since I bought their phones. I do not keep this ability a secret from them.

I didn't have people monitoring my whereabouts when I was a kid, why would I start now.

As long as I was home by dark, I had the run of the neighborhood and beyond.

If I tell my wife I'm heading down to the across town watering hole for some pints and a few games of darts, then that is where I'll be. If I hop on my cruiser and take a day ride I'll let her know my general destination---north shore to ride the 2 lane rural roads for a few hours.

Same goes for her. She will get together with friends and take in a movie or grab lunch with them on weekends and I trust her enough to not have any issues.

frick having someone so insecure they feel they need to know my whereabouts 24/7.

I honestly forget we have it on 95% of the time.

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Wife and I share plus kids and grandkids. The way in comes in handy when I’m worried about them. It’s not trust it’s safety

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It helps finding each other’s devices. It also helped when trying to pick my kid up at busy locations like DFW airport or when not exactly on same page with communications about the location of pick up. It has also helped me to avoid going to store or picking up something to eat if I can see a family member passing close enough by what I want.

Most aren’t offering historical data on locations with only location at each time checked shown and are easy to turn off sharing location including just switching which device is sharing your location if subterfuge if required for whatever reason (anyone dependent on Find my shared locations for tracking wife is going to get burnt if she or Jody has any tech awareness). If you want an alert to see if wife shows up to Jody’s house she has to approve it (at least on find my).

For a family it’s easier to leave on and just know it can be turned off easily then it is to always remember to turn it on or have the ability to turn it on right before something sketchy happens. The limitation with something like Find My is that it’s not historical data, so if you don’t realize something is wrong until later you will just get last location of phone with zero route info, no prior recent locations, and no info on if phone was turned off at any point before being turned back on at last location. That is still better than no information.

If you don’t share location or do want route info shared if a problem occurs then wife or kids should be made aware of check in on messages or anything like it on Android where they can let someone they trust know a destination and ETA in the messages app and that person will only be sent location and route info if person is late to that specific destination without also responding to systemic notifications to update ETA to the destination. That is one time deal for a specific destination and ends on arrival, so it is not always on. The advantage is that the route will be sent up to phone being active if late to destination, and the other person gets a message letting them know about departing and arrival situation if not checking it on find my or doesn’t have location shared with him or her normally. Disadvantage is it having to be started at beginning of each drive, walk, or run when you want someone to know you made it or did not make to a destination.

I started sharing mine when I went on a backcountry elk hunt a few years back, and never turned it off

Life 360 so last minute ill know when to get my chores done

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I’d think the safety benefit

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I don't see it as a trust issue. Could be a safety thing.

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We're old, so it's a safety thing. It's handy too, if I see my wife

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Married with children, it’s about safety.

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show where she's at for safety concerns I guess

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My wife, my kids all do it for safety reasons.

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Strictly for safety.

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It's just a safety thing and also conveniant

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And that is just from the first three pages.

Countries in Europe are currently invading their citizens privacy, for the kids' safety of course.

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Denmark kicked off its EU Presidency on July 1, 2025, and, among its first actions, lawmakers swiftly reintroduced the controversial child sexual abuse (CSAM) scanning bill to the top of the agenda. Having been deemed by critics as Chat Control, the bill aims to introduce new obligations for all messaging services operating in Europe to scan users' chats, even if they're encrypted.

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https://www.techradar.com/computing/cyber-security/the-eu-could-be-scanning-your-chats-by-october-2025-heres-everything-we-know
https://www.reddit.com/r/europe/comments/1mc27ka/the_eu_could_be_scanning_your_private_chats_by/

The UK Online Safety Act was just passed requiring age verification on a number of sites. I'd say Tigerdroppings is not appropriate for young kids and should require ID to post. For safety.

Also, cities are installing cameras and license plate readers all over. Where is your limit? In your neighborhood? On your road? Pointing at your house? Remember, it is for safety.

We should probably strengthen the Patriot Act too.

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You want a pic from the freezer in my garage?

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Whatever let’s you come to terms with it

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you don’t have to let your wife track you because y’all want to track the kids

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But you let dudes take advantage of you in prison

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I didn't have people monitoring my whereabouts when I was a kid, why would I start now.

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With kids if they have phones you should then make sure they aren’t letting strangers, sketchy known people (or teachers) or hacked accounts with name’s of friends track their movements thru sharing their location to “friends” on social media or with a location sharing app or just over sharing personal and location info on social media posts.

That would put it closer to when I was a kid to make that comparison. Someone creeping would usually have to stand out more to follow us around, but today that info is overshared by most kids making it easy for them.

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frick having someone so insecure they feel they need to know my whereabouts 24/7.

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Most location sharing is not used to track someone 24/7, doesn’t record historical locations, and is not about insecurity.