re: Pornography addiction: anyone here overcome it or have experience?

I was able to quit. Why is he trying to stop? Relationship issues? Religious issues?

I have been fighting in since I was 14 (Sears catalog) now 70. Internet fricked me up. I'm trying hard to get off of it. hehehe

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"Porn additcion" is BS. The only thing these "addicts" are addicted to is orgasms (porn is just a means to that end)... And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. The main reason there's always been a push to demonize this "addiction" is because it takes away a lot of the sexual control/power that women have over men. That said, like many/most things in life, problems can arise when such an "addiction" starts to negatively affect other aspects of your life.

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Not very much truth in this post. People are prone to addiction, be it gambling, pornography, drugs, alcohol, etc. those addicted to any one are fairly more likely to be addicted to others. The first real step is probably cognitive behavioral therapy. In short (this doesn't substitute a trip to your PCP or someone who actually does CBT, but it's worth at east kind of explaining in 2-cent terms) You keep a little journal and when you start thinking about getting online to watch porn, write down what you're thinking. Or, if it was impulsive (another big reason for addictions in the first place), you write down what you were thinking after. Review the notebook weekly (in most cases, with the therapist). Sometimes, writing down your terrible feelings afterwards may be enough.


More practically, you can install some pretty sophisticated porn blocking software and have a buddy put a password in for you. If you have no friends, you can make sure it's set up well, right. Create a new email account. Jumble letters down on a word doc. Copy and paste that as your password to the email account. Do the same for the porn-blocker/net-nanny. Set the new email as the default email for when you try to recover your password. You won't know either of these passwords, because you'll delete them.

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anyone here overcome it or have experience?

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As with any addiction, quitting is not easy. People think it's a matter of will power, it is not. For instance, if a Non alcoholic knew the value of alcohol, to an alcoholic, they would understand the problem. Addicts don't give up anything, until it loses it's value to them.

When the pain of Not changing, get worse than the pain of changing, people change.

We are deceived by the ego, or false self, into believing the alternative to quitting is worse than quitting.

As with everything else in life, the inner causes the outer, the thinking has to change. There is a process in which you look at something squarely, and see its lack of value, but it involves admitting that the addiction owns your arse, then submitting to something that can help you.

Not looking for the truth, it is always there, and unchanging, but removing the false, revealing the truth is the key.

Most people have to be pretty mangled to try this, it is a Spiritual problem, and solution. People don't like going inward, looking at their darkness, it's not pleasant. So they might pray to bring the light to the darkness, and wonder why it doesn't work.

Here's why,.... you cannot bring the truth to the false, or the light to the darkness. Free will prevents this. You have to bring the false, or the darkness to the truth, or the light. It involves looking at the false, looking at the darkness squarely, then it will lose it's value to us and be shined away by light.

Can we take lesbian porn out of this discussion? Interest in lesbian porn is simply a normal, healthy exploration of human sexuality IMHO. Thank you.

Has he seen wolf on wallstreet?

I think all these things are just made up shite to suck the fun out of life.

You can get addicted to porn, bread makes you fat, pot makes you crazed, etc.

Let me guess, his wife/SO told him he's addicted.

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I think all these things are just made up shite to suck the fun out of life.

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I'm actually more interested in where all this is coming from. There have been several threads about this same topic in the past few weeks. And it follows up the whole No Fap April or whatever.

Given that in almost all of these cases those who seem to think this is either a huge problem (watching porn) or think it's fantastic (not masturbating) seem to be, shall we say, our more religious among us...is there some pamphlet or men's group workshop or Christian radio program that is pounding this message lately? It's come up far too regular to be a coincidence it seems.

Before we start asking who's got it, it might be worthwhile to actually ask the OP to define what he means by "Porn Addiction." I'm asking, because given how often this topic has come up, and given who seems to be pushing it, it seems far more likely the issue is porn in general (it's all terrible and any constitutes a bad thing) and less to do with any addiction...but I may be wrong.

So, how are we defining addiction?

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I actually had the original laced with puns and pulled it back to only one...