re: My wife and I had an abortion. AMA

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but don't let anyone try to underestimate the trauma of a sibling dieing.

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Has anyone been doing this?

If anything most are saying don’t justify abortion claiming it was about saving the feelings of the existing kid. Aborting kid versus kid dying later both equate to kid dying. Trying to pretend abortion isn’t killing a child is big part of this country’s problem. It was also about abortion ending the chance the baby still had including the additional risk of the required surgeries with some here stating they had kids with same diagnosis survive and start to thrive. Maybe different eras medically, but there is some risk with pregnancies and just in life as kids grow up. If existing kids can’t handle that risk then after you have 1 get snipped, have hysterectomy, or both to ensure at least this one risk is minimized for them…

We had a situation with our first child as the sonograms at a certain time could not show a frontal lobe at all. Our doctor presented several options to us with one being termination of the pregnancy. Our response to him was an immediate hello no that is not an option. 17 years later, our son is about to enter his senior year in high school as a highly successful student and athlete.

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Who will be the first to offer their wealth to fund these unfortunate families? We are waiting.

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Pretty sure many on the OT have offered support in various ways to other OTers in need that they didn’t know in real life.

Kill youself

You must be a Christian

Props to you for sharing this, especially with all of the people on this board who live their black & white simple lives where they don't want anyone telling them what to do, but think they know what's best for others.

IMO, you and your wife made the right decision. No child should have to suffer and you made sure your baby didn't have to and it was probably a tougher decision to do what you and your wife did. I know there will be a bunch of judge mental fricks on this board but they can all choke on a dick.

They are all living in their worlds where they are expected to be a certain way and if they do anything that's not acceptable among their peers and family they have to pretend it didn't happen and never talk about it because how dare they do something that goes against everything they were always taught was wrong?

It takes a bigger person to address things that they have dealt with. Maybe it will make a few people even realize its not their right or the government's right to tell people they are not allowed to certain decisions that will have an impact on their family.

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You must be a Christian

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Nope, not really. Just a human that believes murdering a baby for convenience is horrid.

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This is an eye-opening post. The bible thumpers could use some real world examples for how the issue isn’t so cut and dry. But my guess is they won’t and will judge you and your family for such a gutwrenching decision.

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Your body, your choice. Huh. Have you ever watched a human dismembered? Are you against the torture of animals? Would you stand by and watch a person kill an infant? No, I didn't think so. Then, you are a hypocrite. Get educated and actually see what abortion looks like. That is a HUMAN. Completely defenseless and dependent on the womb that is carrying. To think "termination" is anything different than shooting me in the head at this very moment is very...infantile.

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You may have answered. Was it Dr Warren Hearn ?

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yes. It was his office.

I'm very aware what she looked like. We held her and sobbed together after the procedure.

We had her cremated and I put her ashes under a tree I planted in our backyard.