re: My girlfriend tried to kill herself

very good advice, shark....

In moments like this, you do not come to the OTL.

DV if you want, but this is not where you come.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

It's not your fault. I know you're involved with her. You're in her life, but this is about her, not you. Let the guilt go, because that will not help you.

Only professional psychiatric care will help her, and it will be a long battle. You will have some decisions to make regarding this.

My advice is to be as supportive as you can, but remember to keep your best interests at the top of your mind. You won't be able to "fix" this. If you think you can, then you need to flush that thought right now. No one is in control here.

Praying that she gets better, but man you need to take a long hard look at this situation, in particular, your future with this girl. Do you want someone this unstable to be your wife and the mother of your children? It's easy to get caught up in the moment, but man I invision a life of misery for you if you stick around. Hope I'm wrong and it all works out for you both. Sorry.

Shark...best advice in this thread.

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something she'll have to deal with herself, with the help of mental health professionals and friends and family to support her.

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inherently contradictory

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Have her stop taking all that anti-deppressant crap.

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Obviously, his girlfriend is in really bad shape. If she is on anti-depressants, then they obviously aren't working. However, anti-depressants are not bad for everyone. They have their negatives, but I know a number of people who they really help (some Bi-polar, some very depressed, etc). And when people come off of them, they need to come off slowly because some of the craziest people I have ever seen are people who just stopped taking their meds even if they weren't working great for them. They can get extremely crazy if they just stop taking them.

As for the OP, you can't blame yourself at all. A person is going to usually do what they want to do regardless of what you say or do. The tough part is that when someone attempts to do it like she did, then it's usually more than a call for help. It's a way of thinking that is very hard to stop. I wish you and your girlfriend good luck in your situation, but again, just prepare yourself mentally in any way you can for possible unfavorable outcomes. Some people tend to threaten suicide as a call for help with their issues and some people make real attempts not caring about the attention, but seeking an end to their pain. Your girlfriend sounds like the latter, unfortunately. But I've heard of some people in as bad as shape as her managing to turn things around with help, so you never know...

First, Don't assume responsibility for her attempt and I say this if for no other reason: Suicide is NOT an in the moment decision and was considered an alternative in one's adolescent years, so this event far pre-dates your relationship. Second, for those who have not considered it makes no sense for which I am grateful but the darkness of helplessness and hopelessness is real, very real. Third, odds are very good long term talking therapies will be in order. Fourth, identifying the source of the pain is one thing, learning to live with quite another. Finally, love her despite the unknowns.. she needs you.

Sorry to hear about this buddy. I went through something very similar a couple years back. The next few months after were the hardest time of my life (and I went through my mom dying of cancer when I was 8). Visiting her in the mental hospital was really difficult. She still has some issues, but is in a MUCH better place mentally now. It took time for her to find the right help, but she has it now. There's a lot of good help out there for something like this, but some doctors aren't as attentive and caring as others so stay on their asses. Help her as much as you can, but try to keep your mind occupied with other things when you can't be with her. It's gonna take time. Good luck. Prayers sent.

Many of the most talented and creative people that lived have dealt with depression and suicide. Look at what just happened with Cornell.

Those who have not suffered mental illness cannot imagine what it can be like, true insanity. Some people are hurting so bad they are heroes for getting out of bed.

I would wait and see what the Psych MD says, then pray shell be treatment compliant. She will likely be discharged with a Dx.