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re: My girlfriend tried to kill herself
Posted on 9/23/17 at 9:55 am to Zlatan
Posted on 9/23/17 at 9:55 am to Zlatan
When. I went to Vietnam, I was a typical 18 yo, drank beer, never used drugs, never was in trouble. When I returned 2 years later, I was an alcoholic, whore, smoked weed and a wreck.
I never attempted suicide, but thought about it several times. I suffer from PTSD, but am dealing through therapy and medicine. Mostly with the love and support of family.
There is no guarantee she will get through this, typically it is no ones fault, just a chemical imbalance.
Hopefully she will recover, just support her and pray
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Posted on 9/23/17 at 10:01 am to Zlatan
You have GOT to let go of the caregiver role. Man, you're too damn young to be doing that for starters. And this chick is raking you over the coals and playing mental hopscotch with you.
Run. Let the man of her dreams have 100% of her.
You're not married and don't have kids with her. Thank the Lord! Run away as fast as you can. frick calling her parents. Move on with your life.
Run. Let the man of her dreams have 100% of her.
You're not married and don't have kids with her. Thank the Lord! Run away as fast as you can. frick calling her parents. Move on with your life.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 10:48 am to Kafka
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I love this girl but I think that I made the right decision.
Your instincts are right. You made the responsible and good decision. She is entirely self destructive from what you have described. If she is to fall for that a-hole when you've stood by her through a fricking suicide attempt, then you need to do what is right by you. She will lead you into the darkness that has consumed her, and you can not allow that to happen.
I told you a few months back to let her off lightly if you realized she's not worth this shite, which you have. Yes call her mother, surround yourself with friends, and probably get some therapy for a few months, which as a student it should be free for you. This is tough shite for sure, but you'll find your way out of this and be a stronger person as a result.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 10:51 am to Havoc
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Ex coming back was the best thing that coulda happened to ole baw.
If she's that messed up now can you even imagine married with small children?
I agree. I'm glad he didn't abandon her cold turkey since now he has a confirmation that she wasn't fricking worth it. Standing next to someone after a suicide attempt and then going back to an ex is pretty fricking cold. I think it will make him move on a bit easier.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 11:27 am to OMLandshark
To the OP:
And get yourself some mental help while you are at it.
Good luck.
PS: Good find, Kafka.
And get yourself some mental help while you are at it.
Good luck.
PS: Good find, Kafka.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 12:20 pm to Zlatan
Don't know you at all but I'm saying prayers for you both. Hang in there baw.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 12:34 pm to danilo
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She must be great in bed
Crazy ones always are
Posted on 9/23/17 at 12:45 pm to 3deadtrolls
My advice from 3 months ago that you obviously didn't take still stands. Cut all ties. Don't call her mom.
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It sucks, but what this guy said. It's not going to magically get better, and you'll get drug further and further down. Life will be a constant struggle and you'll be miserable and helpless. A person in this type of mental state cannot maintain a healthy relationship. DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS PERSON. I get that you want to be there, but look out for you bro.
tl;dr: Run. Fast. No time like the present.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:04 pm to Zlatan
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SHE AINT PREGNANT!!!
That you know of. These girls always end up pregnant.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:07 pm to Zlatan
you oughta get an appointment with my therapist, his name is jack Daniels
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:08 pm to Zlatan
I feel for you man and will pray for both of you right now.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:14 pm to 3deadtrolls
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My advice from 3 months ago that you obviously didn't take still stands. Cut all ties. Don't call her mom.
Will upvote again no brainer get the frick out
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:19 pm to Kafka
I'm confused about where this update post is, but regardless, to the OP: You made the correct decision. You can care for her, but you need to be out of this permanently for your own good. She needs professional help. Seriously. If you want to tell her family, fine, but after that, cut all ties.
Can you imagine bringing children into this relationship and her still thinking you're going to leave her and that she might be successful in killing herself at some point?
Can you imagine bringing children into this relationship and her still thinking you're going to leave her and that she might be successful in killing herself at some point?
Posted on 9/23/17 at 1:54 pm to Gris Gris
Op posted update last night. Did not get the sympathy he expected. Immediately deleted which led to Kafka posting it here.
Thread was gone this morning.
Thread was gone this morning.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 2:09 pm to Volvagia
Ahhh....
Posted on 9/23/17 at 2:43 pm to Zlatan
I've been in your shoes. But with me, that was 2006 and I'm not with that person anymore.
At the time I didn't know what to do. Now, I'm very glad I'm not with her. She was a selfish, self centered source of stress.
Now, I'm with someone who wants to enjoy life. Makes me enjoy mine. Hope your situation gets better.
At the time I didn't know what to do. Now, I'm very glad I'm not with her. She was a selfish, self centered source of stress.
Now, I'm with someone who wants to enjoy life. Makes me enjoy mine. Hope your situation gets better.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 4:07 pm to 3deadtrolls
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My advice from 3 months ago that you obviously didn't take still stands. Cut all ties. Don't call her mom.
Mine was better to not drop her cold turkey. He got confirmation on who she is and what she values. It will make him move on more quickly and not question himself for being a shitty person in dumping her given what she has selfishly done to him and what he selflessly did for her.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 4:22 pm to Zlatan
I have nothing to add. Prayer for you and your lady. Hope you get the happy ending you want with her.
Posted on 9/23/17 at 7:28 pm to Zlatan
Speaking from experience, your girlfriend has a very long road to travel, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. She will need lots of support and understanding from friend and family and, hopefully, she gets good mental health care. Make sure that she understands many people love her and will not be better off if she is gone (will be really hard to help her see that). It will be difficult and may take years, but never give up.
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