re: My friend should practice what he preaches.

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Creative!

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It was temporary. I didn’t give a shite. I just needed some money to get out of debt.

They asked me to come back twice because I’m “a spinner.” I’m still not exactly sure what that means.

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ya, no, strippers and hookers are a bridge you cant come back to. once you cross those bridges there is no coming back, they just quit because no one wants them any more or they would still be doing it

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You’re an idiot.

This is entirely not true. You’re literally just making shite up because it’s the dumb stuff that’s in your head.

Maybe he should forgive her, and avoid her like the plague. Forgiveness does not always go with the desire to be with a former stripper former drug addict.

Give him a year or two to come to terms with how he feels about her. Maybe he will overcome the insanity of dating a stripper drug addict, because she may get clean and stay that way, bit she will always be an ex-striper and a drug addict in remission.


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I will add words of wisdom from my Dad (RIP), "If you play with shite, you will get it on you. Therefore avoid it at all costs."

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Sounds like your friend might just be a fan of Jesus instead of a follower.

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Not being judgmental doesn't mean you have to get into a romantic relationship with someone with a problematic past.

Being a recovering addict/former stripper entitles you to Christian love/mercy and respect, it doesn't mean everyone you're interested in has to date you.

It’s probably not about forgiveness as much as it is about his own emotions in marrying an ex drug addict stripper.

I would 100% forgive someone like that and cheer them on. Doesn’t mean I’d marry her.

I stripped for about two months while in college because I was beyond broke and desperate to get my head above water.
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No you didn't.

Every saint has a past, every sinner has a future. - Oscar Wilde


And with strippers, the future involves anal and threesomes.

Don’t get emotionally involved with a stripper or even an ex-stripper. They fun and all but they super cray cray and you will rue the day. I can’t tell you how I know but I know. Multiple times baw.

I can speak from experience here. I dated a woman who took her clothes off for money and here is what I took from the experience: crabs

Your friend is smarter than you and I both.

A couple of important points here:

1. Time frame is EVERYTHING.
2. Specific vital facts are missing.

We only know a few facts and there is MUCH more to this story.

For instance, we know she stripped and was an addict for years.

Was she a stripper from age 19-35? Was she addicted to alcohol? Pain pills? Cocaine? IV heroin? Did she share needles and trade sex for drugs?

He has only known her for 8 weeks. How does he know she has been sober for 10 years? Does he think if she would strip and do drugs, she would never lie?

He should have halted the relationship immediately. Now the childish action on his part is refusing to talk to her. He should continue to be friends with her for at LEAST two years while he monitors her behaviors and looks for anything impulsive. (Frequent job changes, conflicts with her family, new tattoos, financial problems, etc).

THEN, he can decide to proceed.

FYI, I am not saying tattoos are bad. Just in this case it could be a big red flag.