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Mental Illness: What do you do with someone you love, but know needs help?
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:15 pm
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:15 pm
I have a young (26) coworker dealing with a severely ill mother. It is breaking her. They are Cuban, so having her committed wasn't an option (strong family ties). The mom is off her meds, getting lost, and her daughter, my coworker, is trying to help her mom. Mom is resentful, and angry towards my friend. My friend is in the midst of studying for the CPA and trying to hold it all together.
She said tonight "I feel like I am losing my mind with her."
What do you do with someone you love, but know needs help? She wouldn't allow them to commit her mom because she didn't trust they could take care of her.
She said tonight "I feel like I am losing my mind with her."
What do you do with someone you love, but know needs help? She wouldn't allow them to commit her mom because she didn't trust they could take care of her.
This post was edited on 4/15/18 at 6:24 pm
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Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:16 pm to liz18lsu
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her daughter, my coworker
pics
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:17 pm to HempHead
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pics
Tall, beautiful Cuban woman. Soft Spoken and smart.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:19 pm to liz18lsu
Your friend doesn't have any siblings?
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:20 pm to liz18lsu
Get the POA signed asap. Like yesterday. If she fights it, go to court. When the judge asks her what day it is, and she says potato, deal is done.
Take over all finances.
The day mom doesn’t remember daughter name, straight to a home. Don’t suffer through that. Sign a DNR.
Move on with your own life and enjoy while you still have your finite quality of life.
Take over all finances.
The day mom doesn’t remember daughter name, straight to a home. Don’t suffer through that. Sign a DNR.
Move on with your own life and enjoy while you still have your finite quality of life.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:20 pm to liz18lsu
does she have other family who could help? sounds to me like it's time to commit because her mother is getting to the point where not only she hurt herself, but potentially hurt others as well...
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:22 pm to vl100butch
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does she have other family who could help? sounds to me like it's time to commit because her mother is getting to the point where not only she hurt herself, but potentially hurt others as well...
She got lost on the beach in other family's care today. I told my friend
"Be there but know you can't save her. Take care of you first."
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:25 pm to liz18lsu
So she can't take care of her and it's ruining her life but
Seems she needs to admit she can't take care of her and get the professional help she needs.
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They are Cuban, so having her committed wasn't an option (strong family ties)
Seems she needs to admit she can't take care of her and get the professional help she needs.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:26 pm to liz18lsu
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They are Cuban, so having her committed wasn't an option
If you won’t send crazy people to the crazy house then you just have to live with their crazy. That’s how it works
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:30 pm to deeprig9
For my downvoters please know im going through this personally so gfy
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:34 pm to deeprig9
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deeprig9
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im going through this personally
I hope it turns out ok. Miswired brains are nothing fun to deal with. Thoughts are with you.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:38 pm to liz18lsu
see this everyday at work.. All i can say is they need to get professional help ASAP
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:41 pm to liz18lsu
Does mom have a diagnosis?
It sounds like dementia, and if true, your friend needs to understand that mom might be scared and confused, which might be presenting as anger and resentment towards your coworker.
Is there anyone that mom knows/respects that the daughter can team up with to keep mom on the right track?
It sounds like dementia, and if true, your friend needs to understand that mom might be scared and confused, which might be presenting as anger and resentment towards your coworker.
Is there anyone that mom knows/respects that the daughter can team up with to keep mom on the right track?
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:44 pm to liz18lsu
Sounds like the mom could be eligible for Medicaid assisted living assistance but generally the assistance does not cover all of the financial gaps.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:46 pm to StupidBinder
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It sounds like dementia,
I think bipolar, schizophrenia
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:47 pm to liz18lsu
We're starting to get to the point where medicine is keeping people's body alive longer than their sanity. I work in a nursing home and see it all the time. It's a very sad thing that often keeps my perspective grounded.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:50 pm to deeprig9
Harsh but solid advice.
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:50 pm to Melvin
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We're starting to get to the point where medicine is keeping people's body alive longer than their sanity. I work in a nursing home and see it all the time. It's a very sad thing that often keeps my perspective grounded.
Interesting perspective, care to expound?
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:51 pm to liz18lsu
It’s a no-win. Your friend can’t take care of her, and doesn’t trust anyone else to take care of her. So...
Posted on 4/15/18 at 6:53 pm to JamesLang
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So...
They drown together?
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