re: Marrying across class lines- is it a bad idea?

Marrying is a bad idea period

My dads only relationship advice was "marry rich"

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Yep. You don't want to end up married to a bitch that holds her fork like a toddler.

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in all seriousness, I could see things like this being overlooked or accepted for a few years but later on becoming a major source of resentment.

I will probably get down voted into obvilion, but it is most definitely a bad idea. It comes down to how they were raised and how that differs from you. Someone that is lower class may be perfectly content making 11 an hour for the rest of their life, working in retail, never advancing and never wanting better. Since they grew up with nothing, they didn't learn the value of money and don't know how to manage or save it. Also, read outliers. It discribes how lower classes are much more susceptible to giving up on things at the first sign of adversity because they faced so much adversity growing up.

I've experienced this in my last relationship. My grandma said something about this and it pissed me off. I thought it was idiotic and rude. 3 years later and I realize she was right.

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this is a good, thought provoking question

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If you don't say so yourself..

I grew up lower middle class, but because i had that upbringing, I know I desire so much more in life. I have struggled in my life. Alot. I never want to struggle again.

But different people react to their circumstances quite differently.

I consider myself working class but my gf to be middle class

She gets pissed as hell when I say that to her, but her perception on something is just ridiculous and doesn't quite click that not everyone has had it as good as her.

Aside from that it doesn't cause any issues just an easy way for me to piss her off

I hate to say it, but you are rreally right about that.. I found out early it is ok with the one night stand. But, you really need to get to know them or you will do like i did one time. Found out two weeks later that the good puss i got that night turned into a real pshyco! I did not marry her!

I grew up in a single wide trailer in the sticks of north Louisiana. My wife grew up in Old Metairie.

We agree on

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child-rearing, money management, career advancement, how to spend leisure time

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because we're not retarded. We talked about everything before I put a ring on her finger.


My biggest thing isn't neccissarily where or how you grew up, it's the communication you have with each other and how you grow together.

you can be working-class and middle class. I don't believe those two are mutually exclusive. Furthermore, even if they were mutually exclusive, the divide between them is pretty grey and not enough to warrant this discussion ........................................................................................................................peasants.