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re: married men with female friends- possible??
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:00 pm to lsu777
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:00 pm to lsu777
The only reason a dude that is married keeps any other chicks numbers in his phone that are not relatives is for the potential frick in the future.
No more, no less.
You can spin it however you want it and Bruce Lee it up for days, but the real reason is the possibility of sex.
No more, no less.
You can spin it however you want it and Bruce Lee it up for days, but the real reason is the possibility of sex.
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Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:01 pm to Nayab
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Nayab
married men can have female friends however a married woman can't have male friends, it always ends with them fricking
Unless they have dry pussy, then they just say NO!
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:02 pm to lsu777
I have a friend who is female that I've been friends with for 17 years (longer than I've known my wife). Our relationship has always been platonic. I met her in undergrad, we were in the same major, which was very small. Our class was 12 people and I graduated with only 1 other male (and he was a loser). Our study groups usually consisted of 2-3 girls and me. Sometimes it was just me and my good friend. After college we worked together for probably 10 years for two separate organizations. We are both married with kids, she now lives 3-4 hours away. We obviously talked more when we worked together, but we still probably talk once a month just to catch up on our family/kids/work. I don't know if it makes a difference to you that we are professional colleagues as well as friends, but it is what it is.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:02 pm to lsu777
Man, some of you have seriously bad marriages if there’s this kind of mistrust. I can’t imagine this in my marriage. My wife and I have tons of close friends of both genders and zero concern of infidelity. Maybe the problem is you. Jealousy is a marriage destroyer. Jealousy also stems from your mistrust in yourself.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:03 pm to lsu777
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thats fine... and imo that is more your friends wife
you arent going to hang out with her without your wife
And she isnt going to hang out with you without her husband hopefully.
Unless you got the pimp hand of one of those dudes from the FIL gift thread. Those pimps may have told the wife to come alone.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:05 pm to MardiGrasCajun
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Man, some of you have seriously bad marriages if there’s this kind of mistrust. I can’t imagine this in my marriage. My wife and I have tons of close friends of both genders and zero concern of infidelity. Maybe the problem is you. Jealousy is a marriage destroyer. Jealousy also stems from your mistrust in yourself.
Read my post, it provides some extra clarity. You can spin it all you want, but if you're having a relationship that mirrors the style of one you have with your wife, you're only lying to yourself about the potential there.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:07 pm to MardiGrasCajun
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Man, some of you have seriously bad marriages if there’s this kind of mistrust. I can’t imagine this in my marriage. My wife and I have tons of close friends of both genders and zero concern of infidelity. Maybe the problem is you. Jealousy is a marriage destroyer. Jealousy also stems from your mistrust in yourself.
Perhaps you're right but the famous last words of many marriages are "I can handle it, it's not like I would ever do anything."
Like I said previously, this only accounts for your part of the equation too. What if that female "friend" makes a pass at you and you reject her? What if she then gets mad and tells people you came onto her or even worse, you SA'd her? Think that would never happen? Suddenly you're having to defend yourself and let's be honest, if she's hot, a lot of people will automatically believe her. You'll always be on the defensive and some will never believe you no matter what lack of proof she has. It's just a risk that ain't worth taking.
This post was edited on 12/27/24 at 1:09 pm
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:08 pm to MardiGrasCajun
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Man, some of you have seriously bad marriages if there’s this kind of mistrust. I can’t imagine this in my marriage. My wife and I have tons of close friends of both genders and zero concern of infidelity. Maybe the problem is you. Jealousy is a marriage destroyer. Jealousy also stems from your mistrust in yourself.
yea that it....im jealous or have trust issues or a bad marriage because i dont want to hang out with women just us....
or could be wtf woud i have in common with them in the first place? or maybe its weird for men and women where atleast one is married to hang out just the two of them
i mean wtf am i going to do....sit on the couch and watch a movie with her? watch the game?
i have plenty of friends where i am also friends with thier wives or friends of my wives....but im not going to hang out with them just the two of us....and im not texting them all day either
sorry but if your wife is goign to hang out with a guy friend, just the two of them......the "friend" is putting it in your wives butt or is trying to.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:09 pm to Epic Cajun
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I have a friend who is female that I've been friends with for 17 years (longer than I've known my wife). Our relationship has always been platonic. I met her in undergrad, we were in the same major, which was very small. Our class was 12 people and I graduated with only 1 other male (and he was a loser). Our study groups usually consisted of 2-3 girls and me. Sometimes it was just me and my good friend. After college we worked together for probably 10 years for two separate organizations. We are both married with kids, she now lives 3-4 hours away. We obviously talked more when we worked together, but we still probably talk once a month just to catch up on our family/kids/work. I don't know if it makes a difference to you that we are professional colleagues as well as friends, but it is what it is.
are you hanging out just the two of yall? are you confiding in them about marriage problems? complaining about your wife?
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:11 pm to lsu777
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yea that it....im jealous or have trust issues or a bad marriage because i dont want to hang out with women just us....
or could be wtf woud i have in common with them in the first place? or maybe its weird for men and women where atleast one is married to hang out just the two of them
i mean wtf am i going to do....sit on the couch and watch a movie with her? watch the game?
i have plenty of friends where i am also friends with thier wives or friends of my wives....but im not going to hang out with them just the two of us....and im not texting them all day either
sorry but if your wife is goign to hang out with a guy friend, just the two of them......the "friend" is putting it in your wives butt or is trying to.
The problem that guy has is where do you now draw the line? Is it just as normal for you and a female friend to share a hotel on a hunting trip like you would with a buddy? What about going camping alone with her? If there's no difference between hanging with a hot woman and hanging with a guy, why should your wife worry about you sharing a hotel room on a weekend trip with said hot woman? The truth is it is different and it's foolish to pretend it isn't.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:12 pm to lsu777
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many of them talk about taking guys trips to vegas and miami or key west or cancun etc and then they wonder why their relationship sucks
Wait, so we can't have any female friends ever, regardless of the context AND we also can't go on guys trips?
I enjoy guys trips, and my wife enjoys girls trips. I also enjoy going on dates with my wife (going on one tonight), and love traveling with her. She's my favorite travel partner for sure.
Seems like nuance is lost on you
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:13 pm to Epic Cajun
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I have a friend who is female that I've been friends with for 17 years (longer than I've known my wife). Our relationship has always been platonic. I met her in undergrad, we were in the same major, which was very small. Our class was 12 people and I graduated with only 1 other male (and he was a loser). Our study groups usually consisted of 2-3 girls and me. Sometimes it was just me and my good friend. After college we worked together for probably 10 years for two separate organizations. We are both married with kids, she now lives 3-4 hours away. We obviously talked more when we worked together, but we still probably talk once a month just to catch up on our family/kids/work. I don't know if it makes a difference to you that we are professional colleagues as well as friends, but it is what it is.
Let me ask 1 question.
Would you frick her?
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:14 pm to Epic Cajun
You sure as hell shouldn’t take trips with that female friend.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:15 pm to Epic Cajun
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I enjoy guys trips, and my wife enjoys girls trips
Consisting of what? Trips to the scrip club or just a day or two hiking, golfing, etc?
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Seems like nuance is lost on you
Those nuances are exactly what turns it into a guy's trip, or a "guy's trip". One is fine, the other isn't.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:16 pm to MardiGrasCajun
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Jealousy also stems from your mistrust in yourself.
Im pretty sure its from watching other people frick their lives off.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:16 pm to lsu777
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are you hanging out just the two of yall?
When we worked together we'd go to lunch, when we were in undergrad we'd sometimes study with just us two (neither of us were married at the time). We live ~4 hours away from each other now and I haven't seen her in years, so no we aren't hanging out with just us two. The last time I saw her was probably on a work trip 4 or 5 years ago.
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re you confiding in them about marriage problems? complaining about your wife?
I don't have marriage problems
, I'm sure I have thrown out small complaints on occasion, but I've never called her specifically for that, and that's definitely not a main focus of what we talk about. Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:17 pm to Oates Mustache
This idea people have that a person should be perfectly fine with their spouse spending alone time with a sexually attractive friend of the opposite sex is wild to me.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:17 pm to lsu777
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anything but...im one of the most normal guys on here. been married for 15 years, 3 kids, great job, great stable normal family, go to church every sunday, workout and fish and spend time with the family. i just dont understand some of the married guys on here 1) many want to have friends of the opposite sex and think its ok to talk to them through text and shite without wife knowing 2) many of them talk about taking guys trips to vegas and miami or key west or cancun etc and then they wonder why their relationship sucks 3) many on here cant wait to get away from their wife and spend time away and never want to take the wife on a date or take them on a vacation these are the same ones that whine about lack of intimacy in the relationship seems there are only about 10 on here who actually like their wives and children and want to hang out with rather than take "fishing trips" to costa rica where no fish are caught but hoping you dont catch something else.
You’re way is right. Anyone that disagrees with you is a dumbass and a fig.
This thread can be over now
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:17 pm to Epic Cajun
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Wait, so we can't have any female friends ever, regardless of the context AND we also can't go on guys trips?
I enjoy guys trips, and my wife enjoys girls trips. I also enjoy going on dates with my wife (going on one tonight), and love traveling with her. She's my favorite travel partner for sure.
Seems like nuance is lost on you
no not at all
so lets clear this up
guys trips that are ok....fishing trip camping along a river in montana or some shite like that. Hunting trips etc where you are not going to strip clubs etc
going to a game with your dad or brother or both etc something like that
guys trips that are not ok.....3 day weekend trip to vegas, 3 day trip to miami or key west...pretty much anywhere were you will be acting single, going to clubs, strip clubs and other shite single men do......not ok
girls trips.......napa with a bunch of girls...ok, new york with girls...ok, trips with sisters, moms etc...ok
trips to vegas, maimi, atlanta.....or any place where they are acting single and performing...going to single type places like clubs etc
all of that shite is a recipe for a disaster. despite how much you may trust your wife.
Posted on 12/27/24 at 1:17 pm to jizzle6609
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Let me ask 1 question.
Would you frick her?
I've never been attracted to her
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