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Life Sucks Sometimes
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:03 am
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:03 am
My sister died 11 years ago from a glioblastoma- a brain stem tumor that left her comatose 2 days after the doctors discovered it. There was nothing they could do, given the location and the size of the tumor. She left a 3 year old daughter behind. Thankfully, her husband has been in close touch with our family and we’ve been a big part in their daughter’s life.
Fast forward 11 years-
my BIL’s father had a stroke 3-4 months ago, and ended up in the very same Neuro ICU as my sister, just a few rooms down, with a brain bleed in a similar location on the brain stem. There was nothing they could medically do for him. So he’s had to make the same difficult decision to pull the plug for his wife and now his father. And to make it worse, it was the same hospital, And the same Neuro ICU. He told my mother that it felt like Deja Vu, 11 years later.
I guess the moral of the story is to hug your loved ones, and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is never promised.
Fast forward 11 years-
my BIL’s father had a stroke 3-4 months ago, and ended up in the very same Neuro ICU as my sister, just a few rooms down, with a brain bleed in a similar location on the brain stem. There was nothing they could medically do for him. So he’s had to make the same difficult decision to pull the plug for his wife and now his father. And to make it worse, it was the same hospital, And the same Neuro ICU. He told my mother that it felt like Deja Vu, 11 years later.
I guess the moral of the story is to hug your loved ones, and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is never promised.
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Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:04 am to LSUGUMBO
Damn.
Prayers baw.
Prayers baw.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:04 am to LSUGUMBO
puppies are cute, and look past differences of color
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:12 am to LSUGUMBO
Man, it’s not fair for someone to have to deal with that twice in their life.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:18 am to LSUGUMBO
Man, this type of story puts everything into perspective.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:22 am to Kafka
It looks like the black puppy is assaulting the white puppy
ETA: sorry about your sister and BIL.
ETA: sorry about your sister and BIL.
This post was edited on 8/13/22 at 12:26 am
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:23 am to Specktricity
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Man, this type of story puts everything into perspective.
Yup. Glad I have the opportunity to retire early. When your dead, it’s over boys. One day it will be that day.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 12:35 am to Realityintheface
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When your dead, it’s over boys. One day it will be that day.
The other lesson is to get your affairs in order. Make a Last will & Testament, and make sure your people know your last wishes. I’m as bad as everyone else (have a will, but it’s not signed/notarized) even with what I’ve been through with my sister- you should have a Last Will & Testament if you are an adult with children and/or property. I have one, but it’s not signed correctly so it means nothing if I die tomorrow. Death is always a wake up call.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 1:01 am to LSUGUMBO
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The other lesson is to get your affairs in order. Make a Last will & Testament, and make sure your people know your last wishes. I’m as bad as everyone else (have a will, but it’s not signed/notarized) even with what I’ve been through with my sister- you should have a Last Will & Testament if you are an adult with children and/or property. I have one, but it’s not signed correctly so it means nothing if I die tomorrow. Death is always a wake up call.
You’re right. My dad died pretty unexpectedly at 49 years old without a will. I was in law school at the time and was a tax lawyer doing estate planning for a while and still do some on the side…I still don’t have a will for myself. I think it’s just something about not wanting to think about being gone
I’m sorry you’re going through this
Posted on 8/13/22 at 1:22 am to LSUGUMBO
Sorry man!! My step mom died my sophomore year of high school from breast cancer. Was a hard lick to deal with, as she was like my mom!! A few years ago my sister, her daughter died from cancer also. Think about her every day and wish I could just have one more chance to tell her I love her. Then to top it off my mother died from prostate cancer 2 years after my sister. Don’t wait to tell your family and friends you love them, life is really to damn short!
Posted on 8/13/22 at 7:32 am to SortsaUsl
I don't have a single blood relative left on the planet that I know of. It's emotionally damaging.
I feel for anyone suffering from permanent loss.
Pain changes you.
I feel for anyone suffering from permanent loss.
Pain changes you.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 7:37 am to Bayou
Thats rough man.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 8:47 am to LSUGUMBO
God bless you and your family. Prayers said for you.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 8:49 am to LSUGUMBO
Glioblastoma is the worst. There is basically nothing u can do about it.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 11:12 am to Flashback
When people ask me how I stay optimistic with the series of catastrophes that has set upon us in the last year, because of what has happened to this man. There are millions of people who have a much more difficult burden to carry.
I pray every night for these people.
I pray every night for these people.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 11:14 am to LSUGUMBO
Damn. Makes my griping about my job, taking kids to practices/lessons, and cutting the grass seem petty.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 11:25 am to LSUGUMBO
Reading this while I’m sitting with my brother at a rehab facility. He had a brain bleed stroke, 65 and he is paralyzed on his left for the most part. He lived alone and layed on his bathroom floor for two days until someone found him. He has a long way to go but with a lot of prayer maybe a miracle can happen. I never seen my brother cry until now. Though he is in constant pain he doesn’t cry from that. He said it’s knowing his quality of life he will have and depending on someone for everything
Posted on 8/13/22 at 1:23 pm to jchamil
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I still don’t have a will for myself. I think it’s just something about not wanting to think about being gone
Nobody wants to think about final arrangements, especially if you’re young and healthy- you’re basically invincible, right?
Thanks for the sentiment- there is comfort in knowing that our family is not alone. My BIL’s father became a huge part of our family over the past 20+ years. He was a huge fan of photography, and posting the less than flattering pictures on FB for the world to see. In the moment, we cringed, but now those are the ones I will cherish the most. He was sometimes terribly irreverent, but always hilarious. And most of all, he loved my sister like his own.
Posted on 8/13/22 at 4:20 pm to LSUGUMBO
One of my oldest friends passed from complications from a brain bleed a couple years ago.
He hung on for about 5 months after the initial accident, in a vegetative state.
Toughest part, other than his death, was watching him those 5 months and knowing I couldn’t do anything.
Your BIL had it worse than that. He had to make the tough decisions in 2 losing battles. Awful.
This post was edited on 8/13/22 at 4:23 pm
Posted on 8/13/22 at 5:14 pm to TheHarahanian
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He hung on for about 5 months after the initial accident, in a vegetative state. Toughest part, other than his death, was watching him those 5 months and knowing I couldn’t do anything.
That was the surgical option. Doctor told his sons that the outcome was most likely a feeding tube and nursing home, if he survived. It was definitely not what he, or any of his family would have wanted.
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