re: Life and Choices

If you are in a mid-life crisis, you should wait until that phase passes before making any decisions. That is sound advice that I wish I would have told myself. Making a stupid decision or two gave me 30 years of misery.

In the Florida panhandle.

Thanks all for the sound advice. I can see that the idea of making a rash decision because I'm in a weird phase in my life is definitely not the best one. Also that God has a plan and He'll open up the doors when it's time. In the meantime I'm looking at a small and affordable vacation home which will allow me some time away from here.

The thing about choices is that you can never know if it was the right one.

You certainly have a lot to thinking to do.

Mainly, whether you want to be in your marriage or not.

If you do, there's a lot of options to have a vacation home or move that isn't to the Gulf Coast.

It may not be popular on this board but the Northeast is chocked full of beautiful natural locations. You can drink beer and grill fish by a beautiful mountainous lake in the Adirondacks as easily as you do it on the Gulf.

I'd think long and hard about whether it's mainly nostalgia for the south. Nostalgia tends to blur out negatives. Wonderful for wistful warming memories but not something you'll ever recapture.

I'd also consider if my attitude about where I'm currently living is the primary problem in enjoying there.

Sometimes we need to wake up from the life we imagine to fully embrace the one we have.

I'm in the process of doing something similar...sort of. Putting the home I've lived in for 20 years on the market and taking the equity I've accrued and buying a smaller home with low maintenance (no pool, smaller yard) and also purchasing an RV and going to begin traveling, starting with all of the national parks in the west and northwest. Hard to tell at this point if I will enjoy being on the road full-time so the new home will give me something to come back to when I feel like it. I'm fortunate that I will be able to work from the road as long as I have cell and internet service and if need be I can fly back to Phoenix with a couple days notice. That would be rare but I need that flexibility. Looking forward to fulfilling a long time dream. OP, your situation is way different than mine as I am not married but I absolutely understand the desire to chase your dreams. Good luck in whatever you decide.

Lots of beautiful country in the NE.

For dealing with the people. Trust me on this. Every night just before bed and every morning right after you wake repeat these words five times in your best Joey Soprano voice. "frick Everybody"

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leave your life,

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However, my spouse

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Hello you are not flying solo here and has to be mutual but it can be done because it looks like no kids are involved. We need more info on your wife's reasoning for not wanting to move south also. A picture of the wife will be helpful because she if she is thicc the beach maybe holding your dream from coming true.

DD I live five minutes from the beach in florida and I must say I love it here. The weather is beautiful year round and it is a little cold now but last like two months Jan and feb. Life is good and going to get better starting Jan 20th

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You certainly have a lot to thinking to do.

Mainly, whether you want to be in your marriage or not.

If you do, there's a lot of options to have a vacation home or move that isn't to the Gulf Coast.

It may not be popular on this board but the Northeast is chocked full of beautiful natural locations. You can drink beer and grill fish by a beautiful mountainous lake in the Adirondacks as easily as you do it on the Gulf.

I'd think long and hard about whether it's mainly nostalgia for the south. Nostalgia tends to blur out negatives. Wonderful for wistful warming memories but not something you'll ever recapture.

I'd also consider if my attitude about where I'm currently living is the primary problem in enjoying there.

Sometimes we need to wake up from the life we imagine to fully embrace the one we have.

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Probably the best answer you'll get.

I grew up in the South and moved away in my mid 20's. I sometimes get nostalgic for "home" until I go back for a visit and remember the life I had there doesn't exist anymore and even the place itself is vastly different, even though it's only been 7 years or so.

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Watching my childhood hero systematically annihilated by mankind’s most vicious super predator ten years ahead of schedule has made me question what I am doing.

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Well now you have my attention!

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You need to get back to work!