re: Legal advice - party with underage drinking

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The po-po is on the way.

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RUN!!!

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One of "so-n-so"'s parents will be there so do I mind if they go.

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You tell your 17 year old kid that they can't go? Really?

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No I'm perfectly fine with them going if the parent will be there. Probably fine if the parent wasn't there in the middle of the afternoon. But if I know the parent is some trashy dumbass that lets the kids booze it up, then no, I'm not letting them go. I remember the parties that happened where parents let the kids drink. Same shenanigans happened there as the parties that the parents didn't know were happening (sex, drugs, driving, etc.). So why is the parent making it easier for them any more helpful?

And don't give me the "your high school and college social life must have been awful" rigmarole. I've done enough stupid crap in my life that I hope my kid never does. I don't expect him to be perfect, but I sure as hell wouldn't be upset if he didn't do some of the stupid stuff I did.

Where are the pics of the drunken HS sloots?

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Sounds like you don't trust your son then.

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I don't. I'm pretty sure that little f**cker would drink, snort, and f**k everything at the party. I mean he's only 10 months old, but I can imagine

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For me...I do trust my kid and I had zero concerns of them doing anything stupid while they were there. I let them go hang with their friends at their pool

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So you know they were drinking, so it's okay. You trust them, because you let them do the thing that is "wrong".

You have a skewed view on what trust and "doing stupid things" is. If you trust that your kid isn't drinking at that party, then that's one thing, but that is not what you said in the OP. You said parent-"supervised", under-age drinking. So I take it that you know your kid is drinking. I god damn guarantee your kid has also drank when you didn't know it. So do you still "trust" him. And not saying he's a bad kid for doing it, but allowing it suddenly doesn't make it okay.

I remember a party at my highschool when I was a freshman (I wasn't there, but it blew up into a huge issue). Friday night party after football game. Parents were there playing cards in another part of the house. Kid video's all of the crap going down. Tape gets left somewhere and falls into the hands of a school administrator who watches. Girls flashing, body shots, passed out drunk kids, etc.. But it's okay, the parents were there! . I think those parents ended up getting in A LOT of trouble. Tape was given to the DA since there were so many underage kids and the people who found it were in a position that they had to report it. And I ended up working with the dad after I graduated for a short time. He was a great guy, but he had the mentality that "I'd rather let them drink at home" as well. Drunk kids are going to find a way to do stupid things. I know we did.

This parenting thing... you're not very good at it are you.



You're the parent, not a friend. Grow a pair.

I'm not a very good parent because I let my child go hang out with their friends in the middle of a Wednesday.

Got it. I have 5 kids...amazingly enough all of whom are doing exceptionally well in life...and apparently I still suck at this parenting thing.

Tell me about your household. How do you handle your teenagers when it comes to drinking, friends, school, trust and communication. You have obviously figured it all out. Let's hear it.

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As if these people didn't go to house parties in high school. You shouldn't have made the kids leave. Answer the door and tell the police that you are aware of no underage drinking, do not condone it, and have not supplied any alcohol. Say they cannot come in because you said so. They can do no more. With that ask if there are any further questions, and then tell them have a good day and go about your day.

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My underage son isn't drinking around me

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Right, he does it when he goes to friend's houses and then drives home.

so what would ya'll rather, 5 kids including your son drinking at your house or banging 5 bitches at your house? No, you can't watch them bang.

Why can't they call you to come pick them up without you ever supplying the party for them? Your kid can still make good decisions and not drink and drive without you giving them the go ahead to drink at your house in the first place. Like I said, do you truly think that the only time your son drinks is when he's at parties that you know about and would go pick him up from??? He's gotten drunk when you didn't know it for sure.

I mean this is obviously a far fetched scenario, but it's kind of the same premise. If your kid was doing heroin, would you supply the needles so he didn't go use dirty needles because he was afraid to get caught asking for clean ones? At what level do you stop trying to stop it and do what you can to prevent it from hurting them. Not saying there's a completely right or wrong answer, but that line stops before condoning underage drinking to me. I know it may happen, but I'm not quite to the point of condoning it.