re: Last post about my fund me. Please read.

My brother had a PE and it didn't look like he would survive. He spent 19 days in the ICU and another week or two in the hospital. He's 6'-6" and was a heavy smoker, but no other complicating factor. He hadn't had a recent surgery, he hadn't been on a long airplane flight, he didn't have a job where he sat on his arse all day, etc. But he had developed a blood clot in his leg and threw a "shower" of clots. He's lucky to be alive.

There's no telling what happened to DC's wife. Maybe the autopsy will provide some clarity. It's a sad situation, regardless of DC's erratic postings. I wish him the best of luck in dealing with this crisis.

You just have to copy the link to the campaign and paste it in the box. I just looked at it.

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As a father, your role is a provider to those children. You can spout whatever nonsense you want about hard times and being poor, but if you can’t put food on the table or independently provide for them, you are the problem. Not me.

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Bingo. If you've got money for cigarettes, drugs, cable TV, new cell phones, etc you have money for things like insurance, food, and car repairs.

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So she came home from surgery, used again, and that fricked up her system post surgery and died?

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Seems to be a possibility. What is a bit odd to me is that CD said the hospital was doing the autopsy, and Kentucky Girl did say she would report back with the results (I believe she said that). So a few thoughts on this:

- If CD is thinking there may have been negligence on the part of the hospital, I would have suggested a 3rd party perform the autopsy, not the institution that may have committed said negligence

- If the visitation is tonight and the funeral tomorrow, that would tell us that the autopsy is done and she has been released to the funeral home.

- Based on the story thus far, I think it is likely an overdose from her pain meds (and it wouldn't surprise me if CD was actually there and high as well when it happened), an embolism or clot that that traveled, or an acute systemic infection

ETA: Edited to remove assumption on timing of autopsy results

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One would think the autopsy results would be coming out soon, if not known already

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Not sure it happens that fast unless it’s something really obvious.

Yeah, I don't think it was any sort of negligence. Kinda weird they never updated on Facebook or anything. Sonya had a lot of people responding when she posted that they were getting an autopsy.

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Not sure it happens that fast unless it’s something really obvious.

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But wouldn't she need to still be there if it was still being done? She is at the funeral home now.

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Please tell the guys causing people to take back their donations. I ain’t the best guy in the world but instead of support some of you are trying to hurt me.

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i just looked you still have well in excess of the amount needed to help your family and pay for a funeral. Take some advice, be grateful and quit talking about the money.

Y’all made this very cloudy and you going on a bender seems very real. You have a job, keep it. Take care of what’s in your control and get going, thst is what I would tell my child if he was in your shoes. There is no room for self pity here. Autopsy? Why? Don’t waste your emotional energy or resources. There are very valid reasons people die after surgery. Read your informed consent, It is all there

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i just looked you still have well in excess of the amount needed to help your family and pay for a funeral. Take some advice, be grateful and quit talking about the money.

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My guess is that they're concerned about the money dropping while it is still live because they can't withdraw the money right now due to not having a bank account (the sister of the deceased told a poster via FB message that they do not have a bank account).

If they had a working bank account, they could withdraw the money now to stop it from continuing to drop. Assuming GFM doesn't have it locked up from them.

In the end, I don't think GFM will keep them from getting the money. They'll ask for proof, which the family has (obituary, etc.). They're not doing to say, "Some people say you're drug addicts - no money for you".

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i just looked you still have well in excess of the amount needed to help your family and pay for a funeral. Take some advice, be grateful and quit talking about the money.

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that's the thing, he seems ungrateful and wanting more than the original ask

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Autopsy? Why? Don’t waste your emotional energy or resources. There are very valid reasons people die after surgery. Read your informed consent, It is all there

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I don't agree with this part. If what is supposedly true actually happened, there's a decent chance the hospital either committed malpractice during the surgery or is liable for releasing her despite the issues she was having post surgery.