Not gonna let the ex change me into a bitter or stingy person. If I love someone then i do for them and that goes for my next bf, my exes kids, friends, etc. What good is money if you don't use it to bless your loved ones with? If they choose to use me then that is on them, not me and their loss.

Supersaint:

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so the old fella that you let borrow your car and gave gas money to as well, was your husband the whole time? Yeah you're a weird old lady

Thanks. I may be old and weird but i am a good person who takes cares of those I love. Yep, that was the old fella who did that. He has been given months to make amends but hasn't so that is on him.

Volvagia

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It seems fair on the surface.
Although it seems like this board be an echo chamber.
For all we know, you might be asking him for a 200k payment for your inheritance that was previously used to buy a house you are "graciously" allowing him to keep.
Doesn't stop it from being fair, but it does stop it from being as one sided as first glance would suggest.

Nope, not asking for anything i bought him and am not asking for any money spent on the house and property. Not asking for a penny from him although I could easily do so in court. But alas, he whines he does not have the money to afford a lawyer to contest the divorce.

say when

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What did you expect? Sounds like you have been letting him wipe his feet on you for years.

Well i tried to be a good wife and care for him. No shame in that for me. He has always been a stingy jerk (and his family knows it) and will never change. But I love his kids and grandkids and will always support them. It was worth being married to his cranky arse just to have my step-kids, grandkids and in-laws. I am divorcing him, not them.

the LSUSaint

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And also, it seems as though your making a case FOR him possibly being totally dependent on you, so get ready to pay support, you greedy lady. No one, and I mean NO ONE who is being mistreated, cheated on, and with a criminal... agrees to walk away and give him the home and pay for lawyers etc.....without having a shite ton of money they are hiding from him or trying to keep him from touching.
My guess is your lawyers told you to offer him a good deal so he won't go after more, which he would no doubt get if he hires his own attorney.
So yes, I think you're hiding a lot and trying to frick him as it pertains to the law.

Well you are entitled to your opinion, I am anything but greedy and my family was generous with gifts and $$ to me. So no he cannot sue me for support, lol. My lawyer told me i could take him to court and get almost everything but I am not that type of person. For all the shite he did to me and others, it has all come back on him and turned out to bless me in ways I never expected. Karma and God can deal with him while I go on to a happy life.

AFtigerFan

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Do the carpets match the drapes? Yes? Then a fair deal.

Yes they do.

Tactical Insertion

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He's not giving you the LD, huh

I have no idea what the LD is.

TL;DR I am an old weird possible greedy lady who may or may not be a doormat because I give to the ones I love. But I sure am happy weird old lady who will continue to be the same person I always have been and happy to be the person that I am.