re: I'm not crazy, you're crazy - Borderline Personality Disorder

Without getting into your business…what kind of stuff does she do? I have no experience….:I don’t think…:with this.

Also, for the get out of dodge crowd, is it fair to leave your kids alone to deal with that shite?

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I have no education or experience in the mental health field, but I truly believe that a lot of these ‘popular’ disorders that a ton of people seem to have stems mainly from social media usage

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Nah nah nah, if you’ve ever actually been around someone who truly has a mental break or suffers from an episode of a true mental disorder, you’ll know the difference between the real and the fake.

If someone is saying “I’m manic”, or “I’m suffering from a BPD episode”, they aren’t. People really going through episodes with mental disorders don’t realize it in the moment.

My advice to OP, talk to a mental health professional and talk to your wife about going to talk to one. Lots of good books to read on the subject and I have read many, but they all tell you the same thing. Avoiding the issue doesn’t fix it, take action, bring up solutions like therapy and counseling to her even if you know it will cause a HUGE fight. Trying to walk on egg shells to avoid the confrontation won’t help, the confrontation is coming either way.

I know that is a hard thing to hear and do, and I feel for you, but you’ve got to take action, even if she yells and fights and calls you all kinds of awful things, stay calm and present the solution and eventually it will get through, hopefully.

And if you truly love her and are committed to staying with her and helping her through this, remind yourself that

A. She doesn’t mean all the awful things she says, it’s the disease talking not her

B. It isn’t your fault and you’ve got to give yourself a break, you can’t care for her mental health if you aren’t first caring for your own

Stay strong friend

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You want to unleash the fury, call her out on it. Make her read everything about it. She will spit fire and talk like an exorcism is needed. Video the madness.

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completely pointless, and useless

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I used to believe this but having experienced it first hand, this shite is real, unfortunately

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I’m not saying it isn’t real, just that it didn’t pop up out of nowhere

People aren’t born this way

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I was in this same boat for a long time but after the 3rd hospitalization then I realized that something was really off. I read that Eggshells book and the signs were all there.

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I’m not saying that the ‘condition’ doesn’t exist.. not at all

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And I believe they aren’t,

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I could write a book or a movie script, it would be a horror movie, about how real this shite is

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bawcephus

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My MIL has it and has caused major issues with my wife in the past. The best resolution I have found when dealing with her BS is being brutally honest with her. When she starts her shite, I have to immediately put my foot down and cut her the frick off or it is guaranteed to devolve into some psycho mind warfare that I'm just not getting involved in.

My wife still falls for her shite because she grew up with it and it's harder for her to recognize when her mom starts her shite. She doesn't even try if I'm around anymore because I've shut her arse down quick so many other times that she knows it's futile.

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Mine got so bad that several times she would have a total episode and I'd sit back for 30+ minutes taking it silently.. when I finally had enough and exploded she would video record what I said or worse, would secretly call her mom with the phone on speaker in her lap. I'd call her out on her crazy, unfair, psychotic behavior and she would use that to paint the picture that I'm an abusive a-hole

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are you me?