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re: I just found out I have 3 year old son
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:42 pm to Titus Pullo
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:42 pm to Titus Pullo
I dodged bullets like neo in 2014. I'm so glad I'm out of those situations.
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Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:43 pm to CelticDog
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THANK THE MOM.
What is this shite?
Your post was good until this.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:47 pm to t00f
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People on here are assuming you are re-hooking up with this chick. Are you just stepping up and being a dad?
Yes. I have a girlfriend who has been completely accepting of this from day 1. I can't even believe how accepting she has been. It has been a true blessing.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:49 pm to tooshea8
I think you're excusing the ex-husband too easily. Sure he got a shitty deal, but what kind of person bails on a kid after 3 years regardless of the circumstances. I'm assuming he loved him everyday for 3 years, changed his diaper, watched him learn how to crawl/walk/talk, played with him, etc. A paternity test & divorce doesn't erase that bond that formed over the course of three years. That's a harsh thing to do to a little boy thats completely innocent in all of this.
My point is that plenty of people are warning you about the mother, but the father doesn't sound so great either. Don't force anything or try to make up for lost time. Protect yourself & try to protect him as much as possible.
My point is that plenty of people are warning you about the mother, but the father doesn't sound so great either. Don't force anything or try to make up for lost time. Protect yourself & try to protect him as much as possible.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:49 pm to fr33manator
Well she did let him have 3 extra years of the good life. Regardless of intentions it's hard to put a price on that.
This post was edited on 1/2/17 at 11:53 pm
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:49 pm to tooshea8
Don't let your girlfriend around your son.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:53 pm to tooshea8
Congrats on the change of life and taking the important first step of getting involved. That is admirable. There will no doubt be tough situations with you and the mom when it comes to Life decisions involving junior. My advice is to always keep the child!s best interest first. No matter what petty or important issues arise between you and the mother, do not use the child as a pawn, as many divorced parents do. It may take giving in on an issue , swallowing your pride or biting your tongue, but don't make it a game of tug o war with junior in the middle. Try your best to stay on good terms with mom and let junior see that both parents love him from separate places.
Remember that far dumber people than you have successfully raised good kids. Each child is different and each situation too, and there is no binder or one size fits all. Stay involved, spend as much time as you can with him and pay attention-those are good places to start.
Remember that far dumber people than you have successfully raised good kids. Each child is different and each situation too, and there is no binder or one size fits all. Stay involved, spend as much time as you can with him and pay attention-those are good places to start.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:54 pm to SEClint
Amen to that.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:54 pm to tooshea8
Probably one of my biggest fears....But good that you maned up and are taking care of business. Says a lot about you.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:55 pm to Ghost of Colby
I have no idea what to say about him. I just found out that I'm a dad. It's a conflicting deal for me.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:56 pm to Ghost of Colby
if I were him the only way I'd have anything to do with that kid is if I had full custody and never had to see the mother again. For all we know the ex husband offed himself or is in an insane asylum.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:56 pm to tooshea8
Can you make him into a 5* recruit?
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:57 pm to Ghost of Colby
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My point is that plenty of people are warning you about the mother, but the father doesn't sound so great either.
You'd really believe what the mom said about the husband? Pattern of behavior indicates that she will lie and misrepresent everything else, so why not the status of the husband?
Dude may be heartbroken but taking actions to protect himself and to prevent the mom from using the kid to exploit him.
Hell, he might not even know where they are.
This post was edited on 1/3/17 at 12:00 am
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:58 pm to SabiDojo
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Don't let your girlfriend around your son.
She is not allowed around him. She and I would have to be very serious about each other, and it would still be a while before I would allow it. I don't want to introduce more confusion to my son.
Posted on 1/2/17 at 11:59 pm to pioneerbasketball
No C2C tonight?
Posted on 1/3/17 at 12:02 am to tooshea8
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Yes. I have a girlfriend who has been completely accepting of this from day 1. I can't even believe how accepting she has been. It has been a true blessing
Well don't listen to these shitheads that are not parents. Raising a child is awesome. Enjoy the rest of your life, for the best, it's forever changed.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 12:04 am to Titus Pullo
Nah, I'm posting between vomits. 
Posted on 1/3/17 at 12:04 am to t00f
most of those shitheads are just warning him to be careful around the child's succubus of a mother.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 12:05 am to tooshea8
Good. It's not healthy for a young child to see their parents casually dating, having people walk in and out of their lives. It's damaging.
You sound like a good person with a great head on his shoulders. You have tO-T's support.
You sound like a good person with a great head on his shoulders. You have tO-T's support.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 12:06 am to tooshea8
Don't try to mold him to be what you want. Support him in the things he enjoys. Expose him to as many varied experiences as possible...martial arts, sports, literature, music, art...Let him choose his path. Learn as much as you can about the things he likes. Then support him completely.
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