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I Have A Question About Unrequited Love
Posted on 11/18/20 at 2:30 am
Posted on 11/18/20 at 2:30 am
And I’m sure I’ve come to the right place.
When a woman loves a man, and makes that clear, but the man just doesn’t feel it. She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted.
But he just doesn’t feel “it.” He doesn’t feel the desire to make her his wife. He likes her, they get along well, but he’s never felt that overwhelming love for her.
What should be done? Should someone slap the shite out of him and make him realize there’s a perfectly good woman waiting for him? Is he right to realize that she just isn’t the one to fill his needs and desires and is doing the painful but right thing by letting her go? Is it not a mistake because he can’t make himself feel something? Is it a mistake because he should realize that this is his moment and he’s letting it go? Is it a sin to let her go, from a religious perspective, like rejecting a gift of love?
Thoughts? Serious ones? I’m trying to think of some good advice to give someone and want to make sure I haven’t overlooked something.
When a woman loves a man, and makes that clear, but the man just doesn’t feel it. She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted.
But he just doesn’t feel “it.” He doesn’t feel the desire to make her his wife. He likes her, they get along well, but he’s never felt that overwhelming love for her.
What should be done? Should someone slap the shite out of him and make him realize there’s a perfectly good woman waiting for him? Is he right to realize that she just isn’t the one to fill his needs and desires and is doing the painful but right thing by letting her go? Is it not a mistake because he can’t make himself feel something? Is it a mistake because he should realize that this is his moment and he’s letting it go? Is it a sin to let her go, from a religious perspective, like rejecting a gift of love?
Thoughts? Serious ones? I’m trying to think of some good advice to give someone and want to make sure I haven’t overlooked something.
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Posted on 11/18/20 at 2:39 am to LuckyTiger
quote:
Should someone slap the shite out of him and make him realize there’s a perfectly good woman waiting for him?
Yes - stop over analyzing thus prohibiting your inability to receive someone else’s selflessness just because of your own selfishness.
This post was edited on 11/18/20 at 2:44 am
Posted on 11/18/20 at 2:50 am to LuckyTiger
PIIHB
Problem solved
She won’t do “just about anything for him” once he says I do.
Problem solved
She won’t do “just about anything for him” once he says I do.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 2:54 am to LuckyTiger
quote:
Thoughts? Serious ones? I’m trying to think of some good advice to give someone and want to make sure I haven’t overlooked something.
I think you should ask him why... then go from there.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:01 am to MoarKilometers
I did. He just says he doesn’t love her. He doesn’t know why. He says there’s no passion.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:03 am to LuckyTiger
You can’t force someone to love you. Tell the woman to move on and find someone who has the same feelings for her. He most likely has feelings for someone else and maybe she is a Biden voter anyway.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:13 am to LuckyTiger
quote:On the other hand, when a man loves a woman, can't keep his mind on nothing else, he'll trade the world for the good thing he's found
When a woman loves a man, and makes that clear, but the man just doesn’t feel it. She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:22 am to Alyosha
quote:
Yes - stop over analyzing thus prohibiting your inability to receive someone else’s selflessness just because of your own selfishness.
Is it really that simple though?
I know people that have walked away from people that loved them because, for whatever reason, they just felt it wasn’t right for them. And they eventually ended up with people and have a great relationship. Now, for some, yeah, maybe they screwed up and made the wrong decision. But some seem to have made the right decision. Or maybe they got lucky.
I’m reminded of a scene toward the end of (500) Days of Summer...
Tom: “It’s amazing to me, that you’re married.”
Summer: “I know.”
Tom: “I’ll never understand that.”
Tom: “What’s different now? How could you just change like that?”
Summer: “I don’t know. It just happened.”
Tom: “What happened? That’s what I don’t get.”
Summer: “I just woke up one day and I knew.
Tom: “Knew what?”
Summer: “What I was never sure about with you.”
fricking brutal.
But ultimately right for both of them. At least in this case. Other cases she might marry a guy and it ends in divorce.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:23 am to Kafka
quote:
On the other hand, when a man loves a woman, can't keep his mind on nothing else, he'll trade the world for the good thing he's found
Great Michael Bolton song.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:23 am to LuckyTiger
quote:
Great Michael Bolton song
Posted on 11/18/20 at 3:26 am to Kafka
What?
lol
lol
Posted on 11/18/20 at 4:12 am to LuckyTiger
Marriage is hard enough when you both love each other. I would break it off with her sooner than later.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 4:20 am to LuckyTiger
quote:
She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted.
But he just doesn’t feel “it.”
She obviously doesn’t have that WAP
Posted on 11/18/20 at 4:52 am to LuckyTiger
It’s a lack of physical feelings and he doesn’t want to hurt her.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 5:03 am to LuckyTiger
Try Percy Sledge.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 5:24 am to LuckyTiger
"the man just doesn’t feel it. She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted. "
The "man" is fortunate in that he is aware that he does NOT love the woman.FACT! He doesn't love her. He must be honest with her and convey this fact to the woman. He must be kind and strong enough to move on.
Regarding all of the she would do and feel this and that-that's too easy to say before it actually occurs for a substantial amount of time. "She would make a great wife, she would be devoted"- ONLY time will tell.The idea of being a great husband or wife is earned over time. It does not come automatically.
The "man" is fortunate in that he is aware that he does NOT love the woman.FACT! He doesn't love her. He must be honest with her and convey this fact to the woman. He must be kind and strong enough to move on.
Regarding all of the she would do and feel this and that-that's too easy to say before it actually occurs for a substantial amount of time. "She would make a great wife, she would be devoted"- ONLY time will tell.The idea of being a great husband or wife is earned over time. It does not come automatically.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 5:31 am to LuckyTiger
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He just says he doesn’t love her. He doesn’t know why. He says there’s no passion.
Then he needs to man up and let her go. She deserves better.
Posted on 11/18/20 at 5:49 am to LuckyTiger
It’s very likely that whatever choice he makes, he’ll regret it for the rest of his life.
Maybe not though. Maybe he’ll find the love he’s looking for. How old is this chap?
Maybe not though. Maybe he’ll find the love he’s looking for. How old is this chap?
Posted on 11/18/20 at 5:51 am to Kafka
quote:
When a woman loves a man, and makes that clear, but the man just doesn’t feel it. She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted.
On the other hand, when a man loves a woman, can't keep his mind on nothing else, he'll trade the world for the good thing he's found
Percy Sledge for the win!!!!
When a woman loves a man, and makes that clear, but the man just doesn’t feel it. She would do just about anything for him, she would make his life easy, she would make a great wife. She would be devoted.
On the other hand, when a man loves a woman, can't keep his mind on nothing else, he'll trade the world for the good thing he's found
Percy Sledge for the win!!!!
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