re: How self-absorbed do you have to be to schedule a kid's bday party on Mother's Day?

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Yes

Trying to do something nice from the grandmother

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Why do people feel the need to schedule love for Grandma only on Mother’s Day?

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Why are you waiting 4 days before Mothers Day to plan a Mothers Day get together?

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You would love my MIL. We sometimes don’t know until 2 days before Mother’s Day what is the plan. I still don’t know what we are doing Sunday.

Her birthday is always right by Mother’s Day so the entire weekend gets hijacked by her most years cause we are expected to do something separate for her bday on that Saturday and then celebrate Mother’s day with her the next day.

I feel bad for my sister in law. Even though she is a mom herself....the entire weekend is all about what my MIL wants.

My dad's side of our family has their family reunion every year on Father's Day weekend. My dad had 12 siblings, and he and an uncle are the only ones left from their generation. The uncle is coming this year, for the first time since 2015. The reason he doesn't come every year is because his seven kids, and their families, want to use that weekend for just them.

There are other cousins that don't come every year for the same reason. My family wishes the family that hosts the yearly reunion would move it to a different day, so the two brothers could see each other every year. The rest of the family, that is all closer to where we go, doesn't want to change it.

Every year, the big question is whether Uncle Bill, or any of his crew will make it. I'm glad he doesn't feel pressured to be there every year on Father's Day weekend, but wish we got to see him more often.