re: How do you deal with suicidal depression

Yeah I understood that, I was expecting to see that I posted in it two years ago

Thank you for this post kingbob.

You speak from experience. And it is appreciated that you share

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Talk about your feelings. Find a support system if you don’t have one.

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Easier said than done. It's the brutal Catch-22 of depression. Depressed people need to be with other people. But depression makes others uncomfortable. They don't see you making any progress. Pretty soon they drift away. Stay depressed long enough and you lose everyone.

All the therapists, all the self help books say reach out. Use your support system. They're silent on how to get a support system if you don't have one. What you're supposed to do when you reach out and no one returns your calls or texts.

And I do know someone like this. After years of severe depression she's lost lifelong friends. Even her family members are of little help.

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Thanks for the info

I think people are confused in this thread because I was the one that bumped it for myself and being too embarrassed to make this thread asking what OP did 2 years ago.

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GC, hope you're doing alright and managing to just "be". It can be really tough at times.

My personal advice would be to start doing things that make you proud of yourself. It can be as little as a simple chore like making your bed each morning. Self discipline goes a LONG way. Exercising - lets say, walking a mile each day, can go a long way. You need to find things to do where you can actually track your progress. Challenge yourself some. Start with a mile each day this week, and then the following week do 1.25 miles. You'll subconsciously realize that you're starting to do more and starting to get better.

In addition, exercise releases dopamine that'll help with these feelings.

Just as I said that I am about to lose my job, kind of a mutual parting of ways. My low stress tolerance and social anxiety have destroyed my career. I’ve had every opportunity in the world to succeed and I can’t get out of my own head or way. I’m actually feeling relieved, I’ve been so miserable. But I think I’ll be miserable in any job. I just don’t know where to go in life

I’ve been struggling a bit recently

I have a lot of people who depend on me. I wish i could help my sister more with my niece who was a preemie and needs lots of special care. My dad has early parkinsons and i was recently with him when he was having a bad “shaky” day. My mom has a nerve issue in her leg and has had difficulty walking. Seeing your parents deal with shite like that fricks with you, especially my mom. I know my dad is a tough bastard who will push through as long as he can. My mom will do the same but she’s my mom. And im here and she’s by herself in texas. I wanna be there, wanna be with my dad in Louisiana, wanna be with my sister in New York…but i cant be everywhere and sometimes it feels like you’re getting emotionally pulled in several directions.

Im also very emotionally invested in Leeds United and they are fricking rubbish and barreling towards relegation. It’s my main emotional distraction especially this time of year until football starts.

I also have some past demons that we all have.

Baws, we gotta look out for each other. I know there’s a stigma about men opening up and i experienced the negative side of this. A longtime platonic friend once urged me to come to her if i needed help. A few months ago i was having a dark day and finally sent her a text asking if she could talk for a few minutes and her actual response was “im sorry, i hope you’re ok but i just can’t help you right now” like…ok. (Come to find out she had some of her own shite going on, but still)I ended up taking some edibles and going to bed early. If opening up to a fellow baw feels weird, maybe find a relative or coworker you’d feel less vulnerable but more open to talking to. We are living in a time where people are openly speaking (if not boasting) about seeing a therapist. Maybe that’s an option for some. It’s not for me (yet)

Lost a new but good friend to suicide in September.

Had a longtime friendship come to an end recently as well. This was another one of the few people i could count on talking to

I also hate the divisive state of the world we are currently living in and im not even a huge news/social media guy.

Alcoholism exists in my blood so that’s another battle. I avoid alcohol monday-Thursday by choice if not by bargain and some mondays, tuesdays and Wednesdays I’d love nothing more than to get zooted.

Anyway, one thing I’ve learned in 37 years is that life is hard. Some days are definitely better than others. And as Kurt Vonnegut once wrote, my advice to everyone, “Be kind, damn it.”

The fricking putting down your pet thread got me in my feels

The thing that keeps me from overdoing it is that i absolutely hate the feeling of being hungover

Im actually pretty good at quitting while im ahead and scarfing down some food in lieu of another couple drinks

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You’re doing great tho bro. It’s ok to turn up sometimes. The good thing is you’re aware of it and trying to do the right thing.

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