re: Have You Ever Thought About Planning Your Death?

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The energy comes from it. If this is the way you think, you will be destine to be alone. Life starts when you stop thinking about yours and invest in someone you love.

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I know, dating, especially at this point, just feels hopeless though. My love life is pretty much dead already, my parents will both be gone within 10 years at the most and then my health may start to deteriorate. The other thing with kids, I don't want to pass along my faulty genetics. I guess adopting would be an option, but again I would have to find a woman first.

I guess another question is this. What do you see wrong about my idea? Is there something bad about fulfilling your obligation to your parents, and then when they are gone, just retire, live life to the fullest for a few years (as best you can) and just spend all your money. You go out on your terms. You go out seeing the world, not just going to doctors appointments and being on a chair or bed all day.

If I had to commit. Right now I would say this:

- Support my parents.
- When they pass away, go ahead and retire from my job.
- Rent an RV (I had planned to buy an RV or a cargo van and renovate it, but that's not going to be an option now financially) for say 6 months and go around the U.S. and Canada. Finish going to all 50 states and then go to all the provinces in Canada as well. Maybe even Mexico if it's any better.
- While traveling, spend all my money. Spend it on traveling, experiences and just having fun.
- When the retirement money is gone, then just quietly go into the woods and end it.

I'm 41 now and with the most realistic timeline, this would occur around 55 - 60. So I just have to hope my health would hold up to enjoy it.

But is my plan really that bad? Is it really that bad to go out on your own terms?

You really do have a infatuation with ripping on A&M, they do make it easy but I'm just saying.

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The S&P is up 500% over last 20 years. Tough to lose a lot of money unless you do something really dumb

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Well that's my dad for you. And it's something that is destroying my entire family currently.

I'm not saying I was planning on the inheritance to live day to day. I support myself. But I was planning on some of that money (even say $100,000-$150,000) to take a few years off work, buy and renovate a cargo van and kind of live on the road, just traveling. Without that money though, I simply don't see where it's possible.

Never mind that cost of living is doing nothing but going up, and more and more of us are starting to struggle with saving any money. My car has had issues this year, and for the first time in my life there have been 2 months where I was truly living paycheck to paycheck. I hated that feeling.

I hate to say it, but when I was told he lost $700,000 (we think it may even be more), it partially crushed my soul. That, and other thing, has made it really hard for me to see any type of bright future unless I go out on my own terms.

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Read "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl before you do anything. It makes a ton of sense in your situation.

Walmart book link

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I've heard about the book. Experiences from people in the concentration camps during World War II correct? I'm guessing it wouldn't hurt to give it a read.

Been there Buddy. Your situation and what I went through with Mom & Dad is almost identical.
Depression and anxiety are real and very powerful.
I was too smart, too cool and too together to realize I was suffering from both.
Caring and worrying about them caused me to stop my normal life which consisted of a lot of outdoor activities. Hiking and kayaking primarily.
I didn't realize my depression & anxiety were from extremely low Vitamin D.
Thank God I had a moment of clarity before something really bad happened.
Get outside!! Even if it's just laying out reading in the sun.
Vitamin D's a hell of a drug!

That's correct. Like why did healthy men die and not healthy ones survive? There's a reason!

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Been there Buddy. Your situation and what I went through with Mom & Dad is almost identical.
Depression and anxiety are real and very powerful.
I was too smart, too cool and too together to realize I was suffering from both.
Caring and worrying about them caused me to stop my normal life which consisted of a lot of outdoor activities. Hiking and kayaking primarily.
I didn't realize my depression & anxiety were from extremely low Vitamin D.
Thank God I had a moment of clarity before something really bad happened.
Get outside!! Even if it's just laying out reading in the sun.
Vitamin D's a hell of a drug!

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I'm honest enough to admit I'm depressed.

When Charlie Kirk died, I couldn't help but think "why not me?". I feel so horrible for Charlie's wife and kids. Yes I consider myself conservative, but I don't want to harp on it for the purpose of this thread. I won't lie, a big part of me would ask God why Charlie died and I'm still living. Someone like Charlie definitely deserved to live over someone like me.

But I'll admit, life really does feel hopeless. And I feel like it's just going to get worse from here. The reason I bring up my plan, and planning my death, is that I feel like it's the one way for my life not to get worse going forward. That it's a way to salvage some good in my life. Do you think I'm wrong to believe that?

Sell the house and go live in Vietnam.

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Sell the house and go live in Vietnam.

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What?? Vietnam...no
Bangkok, Thailand
A couple of cute Brown Breasted Mattress Thrashers will cure any depression.

Sure. After I beat the family record for laps around the Sun by hitting at least triple digits.

Then I’ll probably go to Waffle House and take issue with the first person that doesn’t tip at least 10%.