re: Have Any of You Married a Cluster B Personality Disorder (Narcissistic, Borderline,etc)?

The viciousness was and still is unparalleled. The texts he would send made the judge cringe and my attorney welled up with tears after he read through a year of texts and told me how genuinely sorry he was for what I endured. When other people see what you deal with, it’s almost unreal to them.

Had you told me 6-7 years ago I would be on the receiving end of that sort of thing, I’d have laughed and said I’d never put up with it. But that’s the thing, they come disguised as everything you’ve ever dreamed of and keep the act up. They can also turn the abuse off and on depending on their audience OR them wanting something from you. That’s how you KNOW they realize it’s wrong. They know when/how to do it.

I am sincerely grateful to my literal village who has carried me through this—even a few people here who have helped me understand what was going on. I will never see humanity the same in both good and bad ways.

Awe. Yeah.

If you’ve known me from here you know some of my story and why I was susceptible to this sort of thing. A significant amount of childhood and early adulthood trauma.

I am working through the shame I feel. Four kids, divorced. But thank God I have.. God, my education, career, and amazing friends/family. I should be a troll under a bridge, but by God’s grace, I’m not. Trying to break cycles, chains and generational patterns for my children.

If I can ever help anyone, particularly women, please reach out to me.

Thanks so much for sharing

God Bless you and yours!

My First wife was. Lithette #3 got married this past weekend and she did not say one word to TLAT Mrs Lith. She almost collapsed when during the pictures I asked if I could have one with the Bride and her Stepmother

Was married to a Borderline for 10 years. 2 boys.

I always knew something was wrong because of the extreme highs and lows, the pettiness and manipulation. Once I got her officially diagnosed about 8 years in, Once I had that, I knew how it would play out, eventually.

I could write a book too. It's crazy

However, I won. I got custody of my boys in the Summer of 2015 and she lives 3.5 hours away Her impact on them is limited and minimal now.

But holy moly - they are about as emotionally mature as a 14 yr old girl....

I’m glad to hear you are on the other side of all that. You and your children deserve so much more than that. The intentional cruelty is a lot to deal with. The orchestrated malevolence is more than a lot of well adjusted and compassionate people can endure because it has this evil quality to it. You find yourself in darkness when you are not a dark person and someone is raging at and about you and you just want it to stop. Great things ahead for you, girl.

Ex-wife became an alcoholic with BPD towards the end of our marriage. I now have primary custody of our children so that should tell you alot.

Didn't you also suffer a direct hit from a Tornado? Maybe even twice?

I'm pretty sure it was you.

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90% of OTers are narcissists baw

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Except me and you!

Thanks for sharing