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re: Getting financially screwed in divorce
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:26 pm to crazyatthecamp
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:26 pm to crazyatthecamp
you want me to date her and marry her and get your stuff back?
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Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:28 pm to crazyatthecamp
I am sorry you have to go through this. I wish you the best.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:30 pm to crazyatthecamp
quote:don’t really need a prenup if you only have $75 in the bank account
I should have had a prenup.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:36 pm to momentoftruth87
Says the 36 year old jarhead? lol. Dude, you've probably seen more divorces and remarriages than most of this board.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:36 pm to crazyatthecamp
Most men do get screwed in a divorce. It's ironic that the laws concerning partition of marital property and spousal support have been on the books for many years. Back when it was mostly men who wrote our laws. Why did these men set up future generations of men to get fricked over by the system?
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:41 pm to nated14
quote:
If she doesn’t sign one then you know to not marry.
Well, yeah, because she won't be marrying.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:45 pm to LemmyLives
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Says the 36 year old jarhead? lol. Dude, you've probably seen more divorces and remarriages than most of this board.
I have and have lots of stories but really never thought of the financial aspect back then. Most of my friends didn’t have much or have kids either.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:47 pm to crazyatthecamp
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Retirement accounts really bother me
Texas here.
Doesn't matter. I started 401(k) at 20 ish years old, she didn't contribute nearly the entire 11 years we were married, and spent money to the point where I couldn't fund my own retirement for over five years.
I can't wait until when my kids stop hating me, when I explain why I'm giving them frick all for college in (let's track how much I paid your mom in the last ten years and ask where that money went.) Hundreds of thousands of $. But I'll still be the a-hole. I won't explain it until they're adults. Sure, daughter, go to Vanderbilt for a Creative Studies degree or some shite. Bye.
On the plus side, every 40 ish girl I have met is DTF, and nearly demands it. So there's that.
Especially if there is a girl involved, be *very* careful about dance expenses. I agreed to pay for half of activities, but in a 30 day period, I ended up (my HALF) paying my ex $1300, including for my half of a $190 track suit for a competition. Which I wasn't invited to.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:49 pm to crazyatthecamp
1 year to emotionally recover
5 years to financially recover
This is the way
5 years to financially recover
This is the way
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:50 pm to LemmyLives
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I can't wait until when my kids stop hating me, when I explain why I'm giving them frick all for college in (let's track how much I paid your mom in the last ten years and ask where that money went.) Hundreds of thousands of $. But I'll still be the a-hole. I won't explain it until they're adults. Sure, daughter, go to Vanderbilt for a Creative Studies degree or some shite. Bye.
How old are your kids? You may feel like you’re the ahole but eventually they’ll see you’re not.
This post was edited on 2/22/24 at 9:51 pm
Posted on 2/22/24 at 9:51 pm to LemmyLives
This is halfway where I am at.
I expect her to fully fund any of the kids college accounts. I will be busy trying to replenish retirement funds she took at an age 12.5 years older.
That is only realistic.
Kids will know the full story someday.
I expect her to fully fund any of the kids college accounts. I will be busy trying to replenish retirement funds she took at an age 12.5 years older.
That is only realistic.
Kids will know the full story someday.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:05 pm to crazyatthecamp
There is simply too much social media - certainly destroying real life communication. And instant gratification has ruined many lives…but I digress.
By the way - states like Colorado make it almost impossible for the divorced male to
recover.
By the way - states like Colorado make it almost impossible for the divorced male to
recover.
This post was edited on 2/22/24 at 10:10 pm
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:05 pm to crazyatthecamp
It takes six months to learn how to day trade, if you are experiencing grief, anger, or desperation. All three together is a bonus. Make Bitcoin your friend.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:06 pm to crazyatthecamp
No wise counsel just a “yep” I feel your pain. The system is rigged against the man.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:07 pm to crazyatthecamp
Grats on the sex.
And with the 12 year difference I'm guessing it was tight as hell when you first married.
Pussy still undefeated.
And with the 12 year difference I'm guessing it was tight as hell when you first married.
Pussy still undefeated.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:08 pm to crazyatthecamp
I am also hoping to keep the house. It will be damn close though financially.
But she moved out.
I want to be the stable parent that kept the kids in the family home and in the private school.
And I can eventually recoup some money comparatively to her if I keep the mortgage with the 2.7 % interest rate compared to today's 6 or 7% rates.
I also have a real strong relationship now with her father. She grew up without him around and it turns out her mother kinda pulled the same nonsense on him. So he and I are bonding and venting over this.
Their relationship has been broken since she only asks him for money mostly and had the gall to ask him for her inheritance early to buy a new house for her and the kids. Never once Asked him about filing for divorce or anything related.
It's a crazy circumstance.
But she moved out.
I want to be the stable parent that kept the kids in the family home and in the private school.
And I can eventually recoup some money comparatively to her if I keep the mortgage with the 2.7 % interest rate compared to today's 6 or 7% rates.
I also have a real strong relationship now with her father. She grew up without him around and it turns out her mother kinda pulled the same nonsense on him. So he and I are bonding and venting over this.
Their relationship has been broken since she only asks him for money mostly and had the gall to ask him for her inheritance early to buy a new house for her and the kids. Never once Asked him about filing for divorce or anything related.
It's a crazy circumstance.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:12 pm to crazyatthecamp
yeah community property is dumb
BUUUUUT if you owned a house before you got married and equity in it should be your separate property and you are entitled to that money in a divorce.
that’s how it works in LA.
also any money you put into your pension before the marriage.
BUUUUUT if you owned a house before you got married and equity in it should be your separate property and you are entitled to that money in a divorce.
that’s how it works in LA.
also any money you put into your pension before the marriage.
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:13 pm to crazyatthecamp
How much money do you make? How much will this screw you?
Posted on 2/22/24 at 10:18 pm to crazyatthecamp
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had way more pension to start. It grew way faster. She barely put aside money in separate accounts even though I told her she should. I put money away regularly.
They seem to have to many calculations and such for other things I’m surprised they can’t allocate in a comparable basis based on each’s contributions. Or maybe that’s the attorney’s job to demonstrate?
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