re: Foster Parents...Greatest fears?

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Foster Parents...Greatest fears?

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Your daughter's attempted Presidential assassin stalker being released from prison?

Idk about Alabama but it's far more of a blind fear for the bio parents and children here in Louisiana. Our system is so careless, fraudulent and fricked up imo. But there shouldn't be much fear if you follow the guidelines and use more good sense than good heart. Be very observant of the child's demeanor, former parents' attitude, and try to have a word with everyone involved. Sounds fricked up but you really have to act like your investing in an automobile or property. Cause just like cars and houses, not every child will fit with any parent.

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Probably being murdered in your sleep.

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Jeez

First post didn't hold back

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10k....so far.

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cheap, big money is in the Catholic church

Yes, Catholic adoptions are like buying a new car. Regular adoptions are expensive. Adopting our foster child cost us nothing, and we get a $250 check every month

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I would consider fostering children if it turns out I cannot have any on my own(which sadly is a very real possibility). As a peds nurse, I could easily qualify to foster(they love nurse foster parents...especially for children with medical needs). But...I don't know how much on board my husband would be for that. He thinks fostering and adoption is a very noble thing, but I know he has several reservations about both of them for himself.

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I honestly don't know whether I could do it,it's got to be tough, and every time you have an issue, just like you would have with a bio kid, I would imagine the temptation for either parent would be to throw their hands in the air and think "see, we never should have done this," would be almost spring loaded, good luck nurse

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I honestly don't know whether I could do it,it's got to be tough, and every time you have an issue, just like you would have with a bio kid, I would imagine the temptation for either parent would be to throw their hands in the air and think "see, we never should have done this," would be almost spring loaded, good luck nurse

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Well I would only do it if my husband was 100% on board with it(my marriage comes first and foremost). And based on comments he has said about it in the past....it is something that scares him as well for the same reasons you listed.


I care for several children at the hosptial all the time that are placed into the foster care system for whatever reason upon discharge from the hospital. So I see just how much of a need there is for good foster parents. One thing people can do if they don't want to foster long term...is become emergency foster parents. Basically....you provide a very temporary place of safety for the child until child protection deems it ok for them to go back to their normal environment...or they are placed into a more permanent foster home. You basically set up a room in your home for them. You can even specify gender and age ranges of the children you are will to emergency foster. You would need to be very flexible to do this though...cause it is possible you will get very short notice of a child in need. From what I've seen at work, child protection has decided to take that child and the child discharged that day....so that means they were notifying that person only hours before discharge that they had a child for them to emergency foster.


This could be a very good option for someone that is considering fostering long term but is unsure about it. Like a way to try it out so to speak.

There are certainly those that foster that do it for the wrong reasons. Especially concerning medical fosters. In AZ, you can get like 3-4k a month if you foster a child with a lot of medical needs. That money is supposed to be used to pay for a lot of the medical needs the child has.


We have had situations where we questioned a medical foster parent's motives. Had one where we(the nursing staff and doctors) campaigned hard to child protection to get a child taken away from a medical foster parent because she was taking in more and more medical foster kids in and the child kept being admitted to the hospital more frequently for stuff that was related to a neglect in his care. The foster parent was in school and didn't work (she quit after she started fostering)so we were concerned that she was using the kids to pay her bills.



ETA: Not at all saying you are considering it for the wrong reasons by replying to you...just wanted to add that story.

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ETA: Not at all saying you are considering it for the wrong reasons by replying to you...just wanted to add that story.

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thanks. I wouldn't do it for the money, I can't imagine it will end up being a profit center for us. We lose money on dog fostering, it probably costs us $50/week to foster a dog.