re: For those who went to school Out of State.

I considered transferring to UVA. I changed majors and UVA has a top business program for undergrads. I ended up staying and everything worked out great. I'm sure things would have been awesome if I went to UVA as well. Those are the interesting moments in life that literally creates a parallel life path that is fun to think about.

In all honesty, if you're a freshman, you can meet people incredibly easily. Everyone is in the same damn boat as you. They are all eager to make friends. You work at a bar. Get people to come see you there. Get them some drinks. BS with them for a bit and then get back to work. Talk to them later. They'll remember the guy who got them drinks at the bar.

This isn't rocket surgery, but as you admitted, you haven't put forth the effort. Well... Put forth the effort.

Join a club or get involved somehow. There are endless ways to meet people in college. Fraternities are a great option and it looks like you are figuring that out. Talk to people in class and find out their interests. Recommend going to do something together. Building friendships takes time and effort. Without both, it just won't happen.

I can't exactly remember who you are, I'm sorry

I can only guess that getting out and doing things at nearly any time of day or night will be more productive in your glomming on to someone than being on this message board.

Additionally, while the time you are out ruining someone else's life you will not be here ruining ours.

Thanks.

ETA...Why talk to your 'brother', Old Hickory, surely he has met some winners.

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You just have to put yourself out there. It's not comfortable for some people, and it wasn't comfortable for me, but I did it.

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This sums it up well...

Wow, you of all people are having trouble making friends? I wonder why, you come off as a totally likable on here.

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So yep. I'll have to explore my options in the spring or rush as a junior

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You're a sophomore already? You need to join a club that interests you. Forget a fraternity. Unless you're a sophomore due to transfer credits

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I got a 4 BR apartment with 3 strangers set up by the complex and made a lot of friends that way.

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One of the reasons I lived in the dorms freshman year. I roomed with a sophomore who became a good friend of mine and who introduced me to a bunch of his friends. Between that, S.T.R.I.P.E.S, class, the fraternity and generally being a normal human, I met a long-term girlfriend, made lifelong friends, met people whom I respect and of whom I ask for advice and help, and generally had the kind of experience that made me forget about the shite of high school and live the best times of my life (up to that point).

Don't go to class, go to work, and go home. Hang around after class. BS with people. Talk about the football games. Talk about class assignments. Offer to study with people. If you have real anxiety about social interactions, then seek help for that.