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re: Ever seen a successful divorce?
Posted on 9/12/16 at 5:11 pm to damnedoldtigah
Posted on 9/12/16 at 5:11 pm to damnedoldtigah
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She left the marriage "trying to find herself" and nine years later she is evidently still searching.
Seems like you see that a lot when a couple marries young (like pre-25) and the wife went from being a student to being a wife to being a mom with no room for her to have a real adult life in between.
I have a friend who had to deal with something like that. He and his wife married out of high school and he was the only guy she had slept when they got married. Well ten years later after two children suddenly she changed radically, and all of a sudden got focused on "her" life talking about what she gave up having the kids. By the time he knew what hit him she had slept with three guys behind his back and didn't have any intention of stopping. She liked the attention those guys were giving her, and she liked the feeling of freedom of getting to live her life without being a mom or wife. The only good thing for him was she didn't really fight him for custody of the kids, in fact she made it clear she wanted to start over in life without such responsibilities basically. She screwed him up pretty bad even if the divorce was easier than most.
I think about him every time I read a story about one of those teachers who sleeps with her student with a set of young children and a husband at home, or a situation like a Suzy Favor Hamilton.
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Not sure about that. Like blaming knife and fork for obesity...
One has to want to use it in that manner.
It just makes it that much easier to move on from a marriage than in a pre-Facebook age, or to engage in the type of escapism that ended marriages.
You are right though, it's always kinda been this way. My best friend's parents are getting divorced, and one of the things that came out during all that is apparently his mom has been writing love letters back and forth (like real mail) for over a decade. The didn't need Facebook, just a stamp.
Facebook just makes it easier to do that sort of thing.
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Posted on 9/12/16 at 5:33 pm to LucasP
I'd have ever disagree. People do of over time. Either they tired of the same Old thing and can't handle it or they see something they think is better and begin to want the so called green grass on the other side of the fence. Kinda like buying a new model car every few years.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 5:35 pm to AUjim
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Any chance his kids are actually better off not having to watch 2 people that really don't like each other be unhappy, or is that just a myth?
It's a myth that parents who love themselves more than their children tell themselves so they can sleep at night.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:03 pm to LCA131
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I think THIS leads to marital trouble. You put the marriage first...kids second. Work on spending time with your spouse and your child will see what a marriage should be. Parents who bend over backwards for their kids often fall.
Actually, quite true. Partners can wind up growing so far apart that when it's getting time for the kids to leave, the gap is unmanageable.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:19 pm to cardboardboxer
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Seems like you see that a lot when a couple marries young (like pre-25) and the wife went from being a student to being a wife to being a mom with no room for her to have a real adult life in between.
That's what happened to us. We married right out of college.
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The only good thing for him was she didn't really fight him for custody of the kids, in fact she made it clear she wanted to start over in life without such responsibilities basically. She screwed him up pretty bad even if the divorce was easier than most.
That's what happened to me. I put a lot of things on hold professionally to finish raising the kids and getting them out by myself. Their mother even refused to take a phone call from our daughter one time telling her that "she was starting a new life." Imagine how many hours I sat with that teenager listening to her cry. The ex-wife actually tries to pretend that our 29 years together (27 of them married) never happened. We only had one major fight after the divorce, which didn't last terribly long. She intimated through one of the kids some garbage about filing stalking charges against me. Instead of going through the kids, I called her directly and told her that she needed to look up the legal definition, and that first, she would need to come back to Louisiana to file the complaint, and if she persisted in attempting to file false charges, that when I got through with her she'd never be able to own another thing in her life. She also tried to sabotage a federal tax return of mine right after we broke up. It took a bit of lawyer and accountant, but we got that straightened up and actually had the IRS hunting for her for filing what appeared to be a false return.
What I walked away with was that the spouse is only going to let you know what they want you to know about them and that's it.
It will be almost ten years since the breakup. I still can't bring myself to trust. As bad as I would like another relationship, the prospect of getting burned again really bothers me.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:24 pm to damnedoldtigah
If I read that correctly and can do some math, when she was close to 50-55 years old, she was trying to pull stunts with your taxes??
WTH?
WTH?
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:26 pm to AUjim
Mine was successful because I'm no longer married to her.
Still not financially whole after paying for a PI and lawyers, but I live okay.
Was a terribly crushing experience. I am better off for making the decision to quit on this woman.
Still not financially whole after paying for a PI and lawyers, but I live okay.
Was a terribly crushing experience. I am better off for making the decision to quit on this woman.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:27 pm to PairofDucks
How old are you? Married for how long?
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:40 pm to LCA131
quote:probably since sometime after June 2015
How old are you? Married for how long?
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:48 pm to AUjim
Successful
Divorce
Redundant
Divorce
Redundant
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:49 pm to OWLFAN86
I guess I am missing something...probably something obvious. What is it?
Rice sucks.
Rice sucks.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:51 pm to damnedoldtigah
What a POS. Wouldn't take a call from her own daughter?
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:56 pm to LCA131
quote:SCOTUS decision
I guess I am missing something...probably something obvious. What is it?
quote:our football team ?, yes we do.
Rice sucks.
worst team Ive seen in 20 years
Posted on 9/12/16 at 6:58 pm to OWLFAN86
Oh, I get it now. My wife was in TX this past weekend...but I guess you knew that.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 7:00 pm to AUjim
Guess it would depend on if you got "the gold mine or the shaft".
Posted on 9/12/16 at 7:02 pm to LCA131
quote:you know I did
but I guess you knew that.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 7:04 pm to damnedoldtigah
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That's what happened to me. I put a lot of things on hold professionally to finish raising the kids and getting them out by myself. Their mother even refused to take a phone call from our daughter one time telling her that "she was starting a new life." Imagine how many hours I sat with that teenager listening to her cry. The ex-wife actually tries to pretend that our 29 years together (27 of them married) never happened
That is a damn shame. It never fails to amaze me how old people can get without growing up. Thank you for sharing your story, good luck in the future.
And frick that bitch of an ex wife. Living well is the best revenge.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 7:10 pm to AUjim
This guy!! She got primary custody of the five children after not complying with any of the judges orders. I got railroaded by the tx court and it's shitty system but I feel like I ultimately won after the first year passed. Retired, no stress, peace of mind, money in the bank, talk to and see the kids whenever I want, and cool with the in-laws. And absolutely no regret, remorse, guilt or bad conscience about the decision.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 7:16 pm to BayouFann
Yeah Texas is brutal for divorce. You aren't getting custody of the kids unless the mom hits a crack rock in the courtroom.
Posted on 9/12/16 at 7:21 pm to cardboardboxer
Didn't LA do some extra special marriage a few years back that made it tougher to get divorced ???
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