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re: Divorced members of the OT
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:20 pm to Mo Jeaux
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:20 pm to Mo Jeaux
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How many of them want to get married?
Most of them want to...at some point. None of them overly concerned about it though. Also..most of them don't want kids either...so that also plays into it.
I'm a member of a meetup group in Scottsdale for women my age looking to hang out(it can be difficult in your 30s making new girlfriends). Most of these women honestly are not that upset about still being single. They are pretty content. If the right person comes along they would be open to marriage...but aren't acting like some desperate woman trying to get a ring any way she can.
ETA: The meetup group I'm in I'm not the only married woman there...but most of the woman in the group are single.
This post was edited on 5/19/16 at 2:21 pm
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Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:23 pm to lsunurse
id love to see the dynamic of these women meet up groups (or maybe I wouldnt). Mine was a part of a moms walking club. they would stroll their babies down by the lsu lakes.
i guess its not much diff than a couple of dudes hitting the golf course for 3-4hrs and drinking some beers talking shite to each other
i guess its not much diff than a couple of dudes hitting the golf course for 3-4hrs and drinking some beers talking shite to each other
This post was edited on 5/19/16 at 2:24 pm
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:25 pm to NoHoTiger
So if you contribute $50K to your 401K over 5yrs of marriage and the wife wasn't working at all. Marriage ends in divorce. Boom, half of your 401K is gone?
Is it settled immediately during the divorce settlement?
My old coworker who was married for 40yrs, she's collecting on his retirement. Hes waiting for her to retire to get some of hers.
Is it settled immediately during the divorce settlement?
My old coworker who was married for 40yrs, she's collecting on his retirement. Hes waiting for her to retire to get some of hers.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:26 pm to Bama and Beer
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Wanna get married?
Wanna sign a pre-nup?
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:28 pm to tke857
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id love to see the dynamic of these women meet up groups (or maybe I wouldnt).
Our does a bunch of social stuff together. Mostly happy hours. We also do brunches, book clubs, wine clubs, going hiking, etc.
Guess I'm lucky and found a good group. All the women I've met have been pretty nice. Everyone seems to get along.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:29 pm to lsunurse
real housewives of AZ?
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:30 pm to jvilletiger25
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No, we have two kids together. I pay for everything for them and pay her child support.
Wait, you pay for everything for them AND you pay her child support? You do understand that child support is money she is supposed to use to pay for the things for the kids, right?
To answer your original question, you have about 18 minus the age of the youngest years left + however long it takes you to get your head out of your arse!
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:30 pm to NoHoTiger
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Wanna sign a pre-nup?
Thought you'd never ask.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:32 pm to jvilletiger25
For financial, it didn't take long at all as my ex had a good job and wanted to support herself. She even had her vehicle transferred in her name so she could take over payments. Didn't want the house, but only her freedom, which she got.
For emotional, it'll be 2 years for me in September, and while it absolutely gets easier with time, it's one of the hardest things to come back from fully. I am currently dating a beautiful, smart, funny woman and I should be over the moon happy, but I part of me feels like it has been lost for me after going through what I did. Now that said, it hasn't been a full 2 years yet, and where I am now is in no where close to where I was a year ago, so I know it will only get better.
And I am sure all situations are different. Mine really sucked because my ex was my friend and partner for over 10 years, and I severely underestimated how badly her mom and dad fricked her up growing up, and as a results as she got older she took on all their bad traits; and 10 years, the vast majority being very good, were treated as if they never happened.
And while I absolutely deserved better, I will admit my heart still hurts for the emotionally damaged person she became, and how I wish she would get help.
But I also learned you cannot force someone to get help and be happy, and you will only ruin your life trying. It sucks. Divorce absolutely sucks, but hang in there because it will get better.
For emotional, it'll be 2 years for me in September, and while it absolutely gets easier with time, it's one of the hardest things to come back from fully. I am currently dating a beautiful, smart, funny woman and I should be over the moon happy, but I part of me feels like it has been lost for me after going through what I did. Now that said, it hasn't been a full 2 years yet, and where I am now is in no where close to where I was a year ago, so I know it will only get better.
And I am sure all situations are different. Mine really sucked because my ex was my friend and partner for over 10 years, and I severely underestimated how badly her mom and dad fricked her up growing up, and as a results as she got older she took on all their bad traits; and 10 years, the vast majority being very good, were treated as if they never happened.
And while I absolutely deserved better, I will admit my heart still hurts for the emotionally damaged person she became, and how I wish she would get help.
But I also learned you cannot force someone to get help and be happy, and you will only ruin your life trying. It sucks. Divorce absolutely sucks, but hang in there because it will get better.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:33 pm to lsu xman
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So if you contribute $50K to your 401K over 5yrs of marriage and the wife wasn't working at all.
If you went into a marriage with the agreement that your wife wasn't going to work, then yes, she is entitled to half that money. It also works the other way around. Of the women I know who are divorced, most of them bought themselves out of their divorce. They bought their ex-husbands out of the house, paid them cash settlements, alimony and child support, and even undertook the marital debt. Only one was a stay at home mom and gets child support. She also got a job after her divorce.
Part of the problem with being a stay at home is that you don't keep your professional skills up to date and you lose your business contacts. I find it to be a risk for both parties. I would never have trusted my future stability to any one person.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:33 pm to Deep Purple Haze
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real housewives of AZ?
Most of them not married and all of the women have careers. Pretty wide scope of professions as well. We have a couple doctors, lawyers, realtors, accountants, hospital administrator, freelance writers, couple women that are in the finance industry, etc. So far I'm the only nurse in the group.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:34 pm to NoHoTiger
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It's not that I am opposed to marriage, my life just didn't work out that way. Some people can be perfectly happy being single and some people really want to be married.
This.
To each his/her own. I tried marriage. It wasn't for me. I won't do it again. I know tons of happily married people. I'm happy for them.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:34 pm to NoHoTiger
Sure
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:34 pm to jvilletiger25
Financially, about a year, emotionally about a day.
3 years, 0 kids, mutual decision. Filed in TN, no lawyers involved. Just filing fees. No contest on any property.
3 years, 0 kids, mutual decision. Filed in TN, no lawyers involved. Just filing fees. No contest on any property.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:35 pm to BRgetthenet
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Wow.
Unreal
What did I say?
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:35 pm to NoHoTiger
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Part of the problem with being a stay at home is that you don't keep your professional skills up to date and you lose your business contacts
And you now are not making any contributions on your own to your retirement plans as well.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:39 pm to LSUZombie
I don't understand the people who take years to get over it emotionally. I'm not knocking them, I just don't get it. I've always looked at it like this.... If someone doesn't want to be with me, it's out of my control and there's no use wasting time being sad about it. I just don't let people have emotional control over me. I guess it's a learned defense mechanism. I guess I'm lucky that I can move on easily.
Since my divorce I've had one girl break up with me. I think she was taken aback when she told me it wasn't working out and I just said OK. I basically said "I enjoyed it. See ya around."
Since my divorce I've had one girl break up with me. I think she was taken aback when she told me it wasn't working out and I just said OK. I basically said "I enjoyed it. See ya around."
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:40 pm to terriblegreen
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To each his/her own
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I know tons of happily married people.
This. I know lots of happily married people and think it's great. I know lots of happily single people as well. I think it's sad to see the unhappily married and singles. The marrieds who just refuse to get divorced for whatever reason and the singles who date or stay in relationships just because they don't want to be alone.
Posted on 5/19/16 at 2:41 pm to NoHoTiger
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I'm kind of a bitch
And not married. Hmmmm.
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