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re: Divorce is brutal.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 10:44 am to Loup
Posted on 11/5/20 at 10:44 am to Loup
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he worst thing about the bad ones is that it seemed to have robbed all optimism from me regarding relationships. in my early 20s it was always exciting but now there's always a sense of dread in the back of my head.
I know exactly what you’re talking about. You almost hate to truly ‘invest’ your feelings because you’re so afraid the market will crash.
That’s how I feel, at least.
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Posted on 11/5/20 at 10:48 am to fallguy_1978
quote:yeah, some are wrong on the front end. I think for the most part it's people changing as they age and people not knowing what to expect/thinking honey moon will last forever and/or it will be easy. It's not and takes work and commitment.
A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons or marry the wrong person when they are young and stupid. I know I've stood in a couple of friend's weddings where I knew it wouldn't last 5 years. The two I'm thinking of lasted 1 & 2 years.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 10:52 am to supadave3
Past year has taught me that you really don’t know just how well you can manage the really tough shite until you actually go through it. You really are stronger than you think and you will surprise yourself with this at times. Based on some of your other posts on other struggles you have dealt with ....you likely already know exactly what I’m talking about.
While for me dating again won’t be something I will remotely consider anytime soon(I’m still very much in love with my soon to be ex husband)....when I am ready for that I hope I can still be optimistic that I will find love again.
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I know exactly what you’re talking about. You almost hate to truly ‘invest’ your feelings because you’re so afraid the market will crash.
While for me dating again won’t be something I will remotely consider anytime soon(I’m still very much in love with my soon to be ex husband)....when I am ready for that I hope I can still be optimistic that I will find love again.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 11:32 am to lsunurse
What went wrong NURSIE????? From what I have read is that you and hubby took many trips together and were doing just fine......
Posted on 11/5/20 at 1:39 pm to lsunurse
Sorry to hear that nurse.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:20 pm to AlbertMeansWell
Just went through this. She was a cheating whore. Best advice I can give you came from Juvenile:
Find you some new-
and buy a:
Find you some new-
and buy a:
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:24 pm to Elusiveporpi
What a cringey post
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:26 pm to AlbertMeansWell
Divorce is terrible. I didn't get any relief from being messed with by her until she died unexpectedly. Hate it for my children, but my life has improved dramatically.
This post was edited on 11/5/20 at 2:27 pm
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:44 pm to lsunurse
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ou really are stronger than you think and you will surprise yourself with this at times. Based on some of your other posts on other struggles you have dealt with ....you likely already know exactly what I’m talking about.
Thanks Nurse. Yeah, I’ve made it through and so has everyone else that is reading this post. We’ve all had some ridiculously difficult shite to deal with. Pretty much none of us get out of life without some crushing experiences. Just knowing that other people have their crosses too help to get you through the darkest of days.
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.when I am ready for that I hope I can still be optimistic that I will find love again.
You will. Again, my heartbreaks were from some time ago and I’m over them now but I’m just relating back to the OP and th days he’s in now. The scars do remain though.
Now, I consider myself lucky that I still have the days in front of me to fall madly in love again. That’s an awesome feeling and get to go through the ‘honeymoon phase’ again at least one more time and so do you. That’s encouraging and worth looking forward too.
That being said, the dating game sucks when you’re older. It’s not the same and seems more like an interview process and career choice. I’m experiencing that right now. It’s a tougher ‘fit’ when your old and set in your ways.
This post was edited on 11/5/20 at 5:31 pm
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:47 pm to Earthquake 88
You really need a bulldog? There are options ...
This post was edited on 11/5/20 at 2:49 pm
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:49 pm to lsunurse
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While for me dating again won’t be something I will remotely consider anytime soon(I’m still very much in love with my soon to be ex husband)....
Why are you divorcing someone you're still in love with?
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:49 pm to supadave3
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It’s a tougher ‘fit’ when your old and set in your ways.
How old are you?
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:51 pm to supadave3
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That being said, the dating game sucks when you’re older. It’s not the same and seems more like an interview process and career choice.
Yeah, I'd be clueless how to date now.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:55 pm to fallguy_1978
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Yeah, I'd be clueless how to date now.
Same, how would one even go about dating right now?
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:56 pm to AlbertMeansWell
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Divorce is brutal.
Been through it twice...all I can say is "addition through subtraction"...
Posted on 11/5/20 at 2:59 pm to fallguy_1978
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Yeah, I'd be clueless how to date now.
Very good point.....
I have had the love of my life for over 25 years... We just make it work....... Call me a pussy all you want but I could not imagine A day without her........ LOVE Is A great word.. BUT feelings run much deeper than words......
Posted on 11/5/20 at 3:01 pm to bad93ex
You swipe on a dating app until you finally match with:
1. A scammer who wants you to watch her TOTALLY free cam show, just put in your cc
2. A girl wanting you to pay and subscribe to her onlyfans
3. An average looking girl who accepts dates from guys just to scam them for free meals
4. Someone who only gives one or two word replies for a couple hours and then ghosts you completely
5. A gigantic whale of a woman who somehow managed to hide most of it in her profile pics
The only way to really have success (unless you’re over 6ft and movie star ruggedly handsome) is in-person, and single women are hard to get to in person right now due to covid. They tend to go out in public far less frequently and are far less welcoming of unsolicited interactions with strangers.
Only way to go is to bring your dog and let the dog break the ice for you.
1. A scammer who wants you to watch her TOTALLY free cam show, just put in your cc
2. A girl wanting you to pay and subscribe to her onlyfans
3. An average looking girl who accepts dates from guys just to scam them for free meals
4. Someone who only gives one or two word replies for a couple hours and then ghosts you completely
5. A gigantic whale of a woman who somehow managed to hide most of it in her profile pics
The only way to really have success (unless you’re over 6ft and movie star ruggedly handsome) is in-person, and single women are hard to get to in person right now due to covid. They tend to go out in public far less frequently and are far less welcoming of unsolicited interactions with strangers.
Only way to go is to bring your dog and let the dog break the ice for you.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 3:07 pm to kingbob
quote:
You swipe on a dating app until you finally match with:
1. A scammer who wants you to watch her TOTALLY free cam show, just put in your cc
2. A girl wanting you to pay and subscribe to her onlyfans
3. An average looking girl who accepts dates from guys just to scam them for free meals
4. Someone who only gives one or two word replies for a couple hours and then ghosts you completely
5. A gigantic whale of a woman who somehow managed to hide most of it in her profile pics
that sounds miserablePosted on 11/5/20 at 3:10 pm to fallguy_1978
Yeah, after about a year and a half on dating apps, I decided to delete them all a couple weeks ago. They’ve been more trouble than they were worth. I’ve gotten some dates off of them here and there, but had much more success meeting girls in public. The apps felt more like a time-waster and crutch than a real tool for meeting someone. The scammers, catfishers, etc. are just so freaking exhausting.
Posted on 11/5/20 at 3:14 pm to kingbob
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I’ve gotten some dates off of them here and there, but had much more success meeting girls in public.
Any woman I've ever dated for any period of time, including my wife, I met in person.
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