re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

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Did you get your money

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Never got the money back, but as luck would have it, I had bought our house prior to us getting married, so it was in my name. She kept bugging me to update it, but we just never got around to it, I didn't do that on purpose, but I had her keep the money, and I kept the house, sold it and made more from the profit of the sale than we had in the bank at the time, so it worked out for me overall.

People also aren’t meant to shite in toilets, but we make that the norm now don’t we?

Really spot on stuff..

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"never saw it coming"

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Words most commonly spoken by someone who has been sat down and talked to about the issue for months/years.

I think a lot of guys fail to understand what issues they’re being talked to about are more or less serious. Some women are just relentless about everything, and it’s hard to sift through the noise to know which issue is “try to be a little more careful next time” verses “this is your last chance” if the two partners aren’t communicating effectively.

A lot of women have this really bad habit of wanting to believe their partners are a lot more perceptive and intuitive than they really are. They believe their partner should know what is wrong and fix it without having to be reminded or explained. Men, are often too dense for this tactic, as they’ll associate her passive aggressive behavior as being rooted in something entirely different.

I know that I didn’t understand the seriousness when my wife wanted me to get tested for fertility issues. I figured we were still a long ways off from trying to have kids and that our bedroom issues were unrelated. It was months before she told me how much it was hurting her that I hadn’t taken the time to go get the tests done. If I had known how much that meant to her, they would have been scheduled the next day.

Turned out I was right that our bedroom issues had nothing to do with anything physically wrong, but that she was right in that there was a fertility issue. She saw that as the sign she needed and immediately broke up with me and started the divorce process.

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I’d also say there is not really an excuse for anyone under 35 to be blinded to someone who is nuts or has a questionable past. Social media is basically an online dossier for the average female these days.

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Agree. I honestly think some people just don’t care or even possibly like the crazy at first. Watching a few different male friends go through divorces from women who wronged them, and then go straight to dating absolute loonies from dating apps, really has been a head scratcher. You’d think they’d be professional at weeding those out.

I think some people like the crazy/dysfunction.

Sometimes they do it out of loneliness or low self-esteem.

Some definitely get off on the crazy/disfunction. I don’t think I have ever been attracted to a girl who didn’t have at least a moderate case of the crazy eyes. I don’t know why, but it does something for me.

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Did you do really bad things to her or was she just an awful human being?

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I'm sure I made mistakes, not sure what they were though to cause this.
When we got married she was still finishing up her nursing program, and part of the tuition was waived if she worked for the hospital that was putting on the program. They stuck her working the graveyard shift, so after we had been married about 2 years and she finished school, she had to work nights. I was working days, so we got caught not seeing each other much, and she was really unhappy working nights.
We had spent all our extra money on her tuition, we didn't have a lot at the time, so we were stuck, I couldn't get those bills paid or buy her out of the tuition the hospital paid. I was working as much OT as I could, but we were young and I still wasn't making that much generally speaking.

It turns out during the day while I was at work, at least in the mornings, she ran into an old boyfriend from high school and he was apparently sympathetic to her situation and they started having an affair.

I didn't know about it till it was too late and I found the note on the door.

It was a rough year, the first 2 months of our separation, I went from 169lbs to 118lbs. Worst depression of my life. I wouldn't wish that on anybody.

I sure missed 118, I miss 169 now.

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I know a guy who got divorced a few months after the wedding. He had surgery, and his wife never picked him up from the hospital. He got a ride home, and opened the door to find the house cleaned out.

She was fricking the wedding photographer.

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A woman on Reddit posted about her husband the other day and I looked through her post history. Dude didn't go to the hospital for either of their children's births and the wife had to take a fricking TAXI home from the hospital upon release

I, personally, indulge in escapism and avoidance of people and responsibilities until they all build up and crash around me.